alright guys welcome back to the section 3 of habit harvester and we are going to
learn how to replace bad habits with good or at least better habits because
that is one of the most effective ways to just completely obliterate bad habits
in your life is by replacing them with something a little better so how does
the habit work we talked a little bit in the last section that a habit is like a
dopamine reward it goes from a trigger to a behavior to a positive
reinforcement and one of the books I read on habits is called the power of
habit and it basically said the same thing it said that there are cues there
is the habit and then after the habit there is a reward and what happens is
your brain understands that if it sees this cue and it does this habit it will
give her this reward and over time that's what it wants it wants the reward
it wants the instant gratification sometimes it even skips the cue it just
goes to the habit and the reward that have it in the reward but what we can do
is change out the habit the thing in the middle to something more effective that
still gives us the reward so we might see a cue something like it's lunch
break everyone else is going outside to smoke instead of smoking we can get away
from them and do something else productive but still get the dopamine
reward so that the habit is still there it just changed because it also said in
that book that there was a guy who had some type of brain damage like massive
brain damage he did know who he was it was like Alzheimer's I think and he
forgot a lot of stuff but one day it was like mid summer and what happened was
the wife of the husband who like had brain damage she was like oh my goodness
he's missing where does where did he go I had no idea where he went and what
happened was his brain had a habit that on a warm summer day he would happen to
walk down the street go buy a piece of candy from the candy store something
like that when he was little and then walk back up the street and what
happened was that was that habit that happened in his childhood like every day
and he continued to do that all the way up through his adulthood and that became
a habit that was in the part of the brain that didn't get destroyed
so the habit actually got compressed and compressed into I think it was the
amygdala which is they really I don't want to use this term but a lizard part
of the brain which means very early development of the brain like central
core this is controlled your breathing and is connected with all these very
important things and the habit actually got squished down in there
it actually rewired itself and that was part of
his brain that didn't get destroyed you know he couldn't remember his name he
couldn't remember where he lived if you asked him where he lived he would not be
able to say but the habit part of his brain remembered that it said oh if you
walk up the street and take a right and then walk up the street and take a left
that's the third house on the right and that's where he needs to go and that
that's why habits are so powerful and you need to understand what effect they
can have in your life so we're going to take the bad habit of smoking and we're
going to turn it into something better which commonly a lot of people do now
you have the cue which is like it might be going outside on a sunny day it might
be when you get stressed it might be there's all kinds of reasons I'm sure on
the previous section you listed all kinds of I think five to ten habits that
you wanted to get rid of and then next to that I told you to write why and the
trigger what caused that habit you know what was the thing that said all right
before I do this habit what what happens what is this set of circumstances that
is present when I perform this habit and those could be considered triggers but
we're going to call them Q in this episode so these are the cues whenever
you this Q happens you need to be conscious and change it from smoking or
from drinking and changes it something else maybe you're even on Facebook too
much and that's a habit that you want to get off of so whenever you feel the urge
to get on Facebook understand whatever your situation is maybe you're just
around friends and they're not talking about something really interesting write
that down as the cue that's the cue that makes you want to get on Facebook and
then you know what the habit is to have it is getting on Facebook and then the
reward is the dopamine rush you get from seeing other people's life and the just
the awesome things that they do and we're not even going to get on that
topic so the Q there's a habit and then there's a reward we're going to change
the middle section the smoking the habit the drinking the getting on Facebook the
getting out of bed mindlessly without doing anything productive sleeping in
bed all day those habits that are at the core and are ruining your satisfaction
of life so you need to think of something that is generally or like it
but it's a little different something more positive for example a lot of
people have smoked and they find their cues and instead of smoking at the time
that they would normally smoke they'll do something similar like eating
Twizzlers now the thing is smoking actually has a lot of psychological
stuff about fixation on the mouth because you know it has to do with your
breath you're breathing out and it has a lot to
do with people fidgeting things in their hands they like to fidget the cigarette
around and some even even drinkers you see drinkers swirling the thing around
in their cup it's just there's also other psychological aspects so it's good
to find something that is similar true they have it but is more productive so
instead of smoking you can eat Twizzlers and some people even become gum chewers
and I would much rather chew gum 24 hours a day than I would smoke 3 hours a
day it just seems like much more productive in my eyes and I think in
your eyes too but you also want to find something that still provides the reward
and this is where the creativity comes in you might have to think a little bit
about this and that's that's really what's going to lay the foundation for
you to become a super successful person in the future is by thinking about this
now so that it can become a habit it can become concrete in the future and then
you won't have to think about it you know instead of mindlessly going out for
a smoke you will mindlessly chew some gum which
is a lot better now another thing about habits is that a lot of times they're
also distracting which means you become mindless so you might not even know that
you're doing a habit which is why I suggest going out and talking with some
of your friends and saying hey listen be honest with me I'm trying to become a
better person if there are any habits that I've ever offended you that have
ruined our quality of relationship or even that you think that I should change
tell me now I need to know and you have to have someone who is in the position
to be honest with you because I have friends who wouldn't bring stuff up that
they probably should I think that will also help tie in the relationship I
think you guys if two people have that kind of relationship it'll bring them
closer together but anyways that will help you find more we're going to get
back on the topic of replacing bad habits with good habits it could be
anything from instead of smoking eating Twizzlers instead of drinking maybe
drink some water or when you feel like you need that buzz maybe go do something
else that jumps up your adrenaline like going for a run or going and talking to
that cute girl that gets your heart beating 100 60 beats a minute just
something that gets your heart racing it's distracting almost and then you'll
think about it for the next couple days and and those kind of things when you
can change a bad habit and look at it with a new perspective and say how can I
get rid of this well I can distract myself instead of going and drinking
when I'm stressed I can go do something else that like pumps me up gets me
excited mode replace those bad habits with good
habits so I'm going to give you three little four tips on how you can change
bad habits into good habits and help form more effective better habits
the first one is surround yourself with like-minded people who have similar
habits so one of the reasons a lot of people smoke is simply because a lot of
their friends smoke and it's peer pressure and it's you become the sum of
the five people that you spend most of your time around so if you're constantly
around people that are smoking that habit is going to get instilled in you
if you around people who don't smoke if you're on people who don't drink if
you're around people who go skydiving every weekend if you're around people
who want to build a business and that's what you want to do or have the coolest
photography art show ever and that's what you want to do that's who you need
to start hanging around so that number one is to surround yourself with
like-minded people if you want to get rid of bad habits start hanging around
with people who would almost look down upon you on that habit be like hey you
need to change that if you want to hang around with us that should motivate you
another tip is to remove cues so this is a cue or a trigger or anything that you
think will lead to an eventual bad habit you need to find those you need to
understand what causes them and you need to just get rid of them
tip number three is to change your environment now sometimes some people
require a mental shift and we will get into this in a future section but a
mental shift and that's what they need they need their mind to be opened and
sometimes to do that you have to change your environment have you ever been on a
vacation and sometimes you just get this wild idea sometimes you get these wild
ideas simply because you're outside of an environment and your brain is going
look at all this data look at all this new information look at what can we do
with that and your brain will come up with new ways to overcome problems and
it'll find new solutions and just getting into a new environment around
new people around it new experiences that will help you break out of a bad
habit quicker now the next thing we're going to talk about is a little bit
clickbait B because a lot of people might look at this and go oh my goodness
he's so wrong but I've heard some people say it takes 21 days to create a habit
some people say it takes sixty seven days you create a habit some people say
it takes a year but I'm going to show you how you can have a habit change
instantly in the next section hope you guys enjoyed this one
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