Black Tie Bow Tie Rules - Understand How To Bend and Break Style Rules - Male Fashion
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This is a question that came in and this one came all the way from Trinidad and Tobago.
"Mr. Antonio, my name is Kristen and I've got a question.
My boyfriend's going to be wearing a bow tie.
What are the rules to wear it with the black tux and a white shirt?
Can he wear color such as grey?
Does it have to match with the shirt?
Can you please help me?
I've got my boyfriend's graduation coming up soon and I really need your help.
Thank you."
All right, Kristen.
Well, to answer and to give you the quick answer, I would say black.
Now, that is if you're going to follow the rules.
If you want to step a little bit outside of the rules, then any variation of black that's
conservative, even navy blue, grey, a black variation maybe that has a bit of color or
maybe shades of grey in there would work fine as well.
I'll link to a couple bow ties, but let me think.
There's a company out of Vermont.
I always forget their name, but they're really good and I like them.
There's also my friend, Hendrik Pohl over at ties-necktie.com.
These are great places to go look for variations.
The third choice would be to get a bow tie that just says, "Hey, everyone stop what they're
doing and look at me."
Now, I don't recommend those, but it sounds like you're in an area that's a bit tropical
and you're young, so why not?
It breaks the rules, but this is probably -- and this is going to be a hidden gem.
I didn’t talk about this in the title, but Kristen, you need to understand there are
two types of rules in life.
There are the rules of society and then there are the real rules.
The real rules are things that are truly laws like gravity.
As much as I try jumping up and down, I'm not going to fly anywhere.
That is a real rule.
Now, the speed limit, that is a law of society.
I can get punished if I break it, but if I don't get caught -- I've heard there's a few
of you guys out there that love to speed and never get caught.
Well, it's kind of nice especially if you've got a motorcycle or a nice sports car.
The point I'm getting at, Kristen, is most rules are there because people need them and
they want things to be orderly.
There's so much chaos in our lives.
It's just nice to not have to think about it.
That's why men's wear is actually pretty easy, especially formal wear, because there are
very clear sets of rules, not the same for women.
It's great if you don't want to have to think about this.
Where it gets interesting though is when you start to realize that these are just man-made
rules and they don't really apply to the real rules out there.
The real rules are, "Does this really look good on me?
Does it make me look better?"
And there's nothing wrong with violating a man-made rule unless you're going to make
sure you're not going to go to jail or make sure you don't get caught if you do.
The point I'm getting at is think about, "How does this look on me?
How does it make me feel?"
I'm thinking in your area, you've got people with darker complexions, darker colored hair,
darker colored skin.
Brighter colors often can be pulled off, not so much -- if you're over in Scotland, I would
say brighter colors, they sometimes overpower too much.
But I would think if your boyfriend and you guys really want to go for some brighter colors,
then go for it, but remember two types of rules and once you understand that, then you
can start to bend and even break society's rules.
A little bit of offshoot advice there.
I hope you enjoyed it.
Guys, that's the rules for wearing a bow tie with a tux.
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