Worst Style Advice EVER ! [0:00:00]
So, I’m going through my YouTube comments the other day and I found these nuggets of
wisdom: “Wear what you want to wear.”
“It doesn’t matter how you dress, it only matters if you’re happy with yourself.”
“This guy is a complete fool, wear whatever the hell you want to wear.”
Now, I get what these guys are saying and I agree, what’s on the inside is more important
than what’s on the outside, but we live our world in which people make split second
decisions about who you are based off how you look.
My goal here is to give you information so you can leverage the science of style, so
you can leverage your image to get what you want out of life.
In today’s video, gents, we’re pulling out some of the worst pieces of style advice
given in my YouTube comments.
[Music] So, the first piece of bad style advice I
see down in the comments in various forms is that man should take a woman shopping with
him when he’s going to get dress up because women when it comes to down to it, they can
see more colors, they can smell more things, they’re just better at style, they know
how to get better deals.
Gentlemen, a man needs to be able to dress himself.
You don’t want a woman choosing your clothing, you don’t want other men choosing your clothing.
You choose your own clothing and determine what message are you going to send the world
with that clothing.
Now, I’m not saying you can’t get help from, you know, wife, maybe she’s really
good at shopping and she knows what you like, but what you don’t want is your wife choosing
your clothing because she is going to dress you how she sees you.
But don’t just go along with it without thinking about, again, the message that you
want to send the world.
So, it seem like there’s a few trolls out there in some corner of the internet that
believe when you wake up in the morning, you should not look in the mirror that you should
not take pride in your appearance.
No, you need to get throw on basic clothing, brush your teeth, maybe shower occasionally,
but go straight to work.
Do not take pride in your appearance.
Notice I said that again, taking pride in your appearance because that’s really what
it’s about.
It’s not about you spending an hour getting ready or thirty minutes getting ready, fifteen
minutes getting ready.
That’s none of my business, I want you to put your best foot forward and I want you
to say you know what?
I’m getting dressed for myself.
I know who I am, I know what I stand for and I am going to basically go out there and I’m
going to wow people because I don’t want my appearance to get in the way of my success.
Guys, you can wear a suit anywhere.
A suit is always appropriate.
Better to be overdressed than underdressed.
My answer to this is the advice, well, I like it in theory, but in reality, yes, you can
be overdressed especially if a dress code is put out there.
And there’s always a dress code whether it’s written or unwritten.
So, always wear a suit?
No.
Don’t always wear a suit because a suit is not always going to send the message you
want to send, it’s not always going to create the feelings that you want to create.
If you want to create trust and you’re working with people who none of them wear suits, they
dress very casually.
If you wear a suit, all of a sudden you’re going to create a divide.
They’re not going to want to open up, they’re not going to trust you, you’re going to
look like an outsider.
Gentlemen, do your homework.
Know what clothing is appropriate for what situation.
The next piece of bad style advice, always choose comfort over style.
So, my issue with this piece of style advice is it takes comfort and style and it somehow
makes them mutually exclusive.
That’s not true.
You can actually have both.
So, when you’re paying attention you’re out there buying clothing, this is what you
pay for when you’re buying higher quality clothing.
You’re buying clothing that’s going to fit your body properly, take a tailor to get
it adjusted to even make it fit better.
Well-fitted clothing feels great, then you’re actually going to buy really nice fabrics.
So, we’re going to be talking really high-end cottons.
You’re going to go for 100% wool jackets, they maybe have a super 120, a super 110,
maybe a bit of cashmere in them and you’re going to touch this, it’s going to feel
great.
So, all of a sudden you’re able to have style and you’re able to be comfortable
and you can bring them right together.
The next piece of bad style advice is that the Italians make the best dress shoes.
That’s not really advice, that’s an opinion.
In my opinion, no country has the monopoly on the best shoes.
Instead, educate yourself and understand construction.
So, Italian shoes in general we’re going to see a Blake stitch.
That is a -- it’s a nice stitch on the inside that creates a very clean silhouette.
If you’re going to go over to England, you’re going to look at the shoes there, you’re
going to see more of a Goodyear welt.
A Goodyear welt is going to basically be sewn on the outside, it’s a more robust construction
made for more of the elements.
Now, Goodyear welts in general are going to be more expensive, Blake stitch is going to
be just below it in price.
Gents, this is what you want to avoid, glued shoes, but at the end of the day, you want
to understand shoe construction, so you can go out there and make the right decision for
you.
And, gents, if you want more on shoe construction, I’ve got this video for you right here.
I go into the various types of shoe construction in a lot more detail.
The next bad piece of style advice, wearing French cuffs makes your outfit formal.
No, that’s not the case.
One particular style feature on one piece of clothing does not make an outfit formal
and that’s the key, an outfit.
So, formality resides with outfits and pieces that are put together and basically the sum
of all of those parts.
And, understand that if you wear a casual piece of clothing with a more formal outfit,
it will bring down the entire formality level of the outfit.
But, what are the formality levels?
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As you can see with formal clothing a.k.a. white tie, there’s an exact list of what
you’re going to wear with what.
It’s really simple because when you follow the prescription of what you need to put together,
you’re going to get white tie.
Now, next up we’ve got what most people consider to be formal, but it’s actually
semi-formal and that’s going to be black tie.
Now, with black tie as you can see similar to white tie, you’ve got a very prescribed
layout of what you need to wear with what, what shirt, what jacket, what pair of trousers,
what shoes.
Next up, we’ve got business attire and as you can see from the infographic, everything
is built around the dark-colored suit.
Navy, charcoal gray, a dark gray, that’s what you’re shooting for here.
Now, with the shirt, you’re going to look to go with something lighter, maybe a white
or a light blue.
Now, with business attire, you want to make sure to wear a conservative style necktie.
Next up, we’ve got business casual and this is where it gets confusing because those other
dress codes, they actually haven’t laid out what you need to wear in general, but
with business casual you can get creative.
You can dress it down, you can dress it up.
What I wear in most of my videos is business casual.
I’m wearing dark-colored jeans or dress slacks.
I’m wearing a sports jacket.
I’m wearing a nice shirt without a necktie and I’m throwing in that pocket square.
And so, what about casual?
Casual is kind of the Wild, Wild West.
I’m not going to give too much guidance here because it deserves its own video, but
what I will say is pay attention to the style pyramid.
Make sure that you nail the fit on your casual clothing.
Casual does not mean sloppy.
Next up, pay attention to the function of the clothing.
You want to make sure, okay, if this is going to be a dressier casual or an ultra casual,
you’re going to the beach, understand the difference and dress appropriately.
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The next bad piece of style advice, you always need to wear your watch on your left hand.
Why is this bad advice?
Because you can wear your watch on whatever hand you want.
Why do most people wear it on the left hand?
Because most watches are built to be worn on the left hand when you look at the crown,
the crown is going to adjust the time, it’s going to wind up the watch, and it’s normally
on the right hand side.
Most people want their right hand their dominant hand they want it to be free, but if you’re
left-handed and you want to wear it on the right, then go for it.
If you’re right-handed and you want to wear it on the right, have fun with your watches.
There isn’t one hand that you want to wear it on.
There is one hand that most people will wear it on, but understand the why and all of a
sudden you can break that rule.
The next bad piece of style advice, buy more expensive clothing because you’re going
to get better quality.
Now, logically this seems to make sense.
They charge more, you should be getting a better build, better fabric, better material,
everything should be better, but that’s not always the case.
A notable example of this, fragrance.
There are few exceptions out there, but most fragrances when you spend more on them, you’re
not actually getting more of a special ingredient, what you’re just simply getting is something
that’s more exclusive something that the perfumer wanted to put a little bit more out
of reach.
So, how do you defend yourself when it comes to the trap of paying more and actually getting
less?
It comes down, again, you understanding construction, understanding what you’re getting and starting
to go into the details, otherwise you could fall into this trap easily.
So, Thursday Boots, I’ve talked about this company, they’ve been a sponsor.
They’re not the sponsor of this video.
But, what I did the other day is I cut one of their boots in half.
Why?
Because I was actually really curious what’s inside one of these boots.
They’re Goodyear welted, they come in about the $200 price point and I was very pleasantly
surprised to see the quality that goes into the construction.
So, this is an example that you’re going to pay less, you’re going to get higher
quality then I’ve seen a lot of other companies make a Goodyear welt and they charge two to
three times as much and I’m not sure if the construction is really going to be any
better than Thursday.
All right, gents, what do you think?
Enjoying today’s video?
I know, I didn’t put any super offensive comments.
I want to keep things positive because at the end of the day I want you thinking for
yourself that’s why I give you all the resources.
When you go to my website, Real Men Real Style, you’re going to find all those ebooks on
shoes, on watches, on a shave map, how to shave properly.
We go into casual style.
I put all these information out there so that you can use it to become the man you know
yourself to be.
So, guys, go check out, I’ve got all those resources for you and additional videos down
in the description of today’s video.
That’s it, gentlemen.
Take care.
I will see you in the next video.
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