- Heya playa.
If you're someone that goes to college,
but you commute there every single day,
making friends and being social can be kinda difficult
because chances are you just go to class
and then come straight home.
So, how can you be more social in that environment?
How can you make the most of your college experience
when you're not always there?
I'll tell ya how right after this.
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First and foremost, don't write out
the people in your class.
Yes, they may also be commuting and you may only see them
for that brief time period that you're in class,
but they're probably the ones that you're gonna
have the easiest time connecting with
because you're both in that situation together
going through the same experience.
Think about it like this.
What's to stop you from showing up to class
a little bit early one day and just talking
to the people that are also there early.
You have those few minutes before class
actually begins to start a conversation.
To ask 'em about the other classes they're taking
or what their major is or what they're
doing after class finishes.
Humans are generally social creatures so when you encounter
someone who's going through a similar experience to you,
you're probably gonna latch on to them
because you don't really wanna
go through that experience alone.
Plus, having a sounding board,
someone you can talk to, someone you can relate to,
always makes that process easier.
But if talking to them before class
is not really something you can do,
talking to those people after class
is always still an option.
You can always just talk to the people sitting around you
and just ask for their contact information.
Tell them you wanna form a study group
or you want someone that you can share notes with
or someone you can practice
on the homework and assignments with.
People will be receptive
because if you're in that experience together,
they're gonna want someone to connect with
and I know it might feel weird
to talk to a random stranger like that,
but it is something that people do.
I remember back when I was in college
in one of my marketing classes,
a girl sitting next to me had just turned to me,
asked for my contact information
so that she could send me her notes
and I could send her mine and it'd be easier
for us to study if we just had more material
and just more perspectives on the subjects.
I thought it was totally fine.
I felt at ease giving her my information
because I saw that she was in my class
and we were both in that process together.
But, let's say everyone in your classes
is already cliqued up.
They're already in their own little groups
and you're just kind of by yourself.
What other opportunities are there out there for you?
Well, look.
Every school holds different events and activities
and festivals and just simply going to these things
is an opportunity to meet new people.
Chances are your college is hosting tons of free activities,
whether it's giving away free food
or there's music playing somewhere
or someone's doing a talk or a lecture,
these are different opportunities for you to be more engaged
with what's going on in your school
rather than just being a simple commuter
that just goes to class and comes home
and I know for some of you it's not that simple.
Maybe you just don't have the time
before and after class to do these activities
and to go out and talk to people
and talking to people in class just isn't easy for you.
So, what other opportunities do you have
to make friends in college when you are a commuter?
(deep sighing)
well, if time is not on your side
and you are someone that commutes,
I would say a last resort is to talk to the people
that you see coming from your college
also commuting the same way as you.
For example, if you're taking a train home
or a bus home and you see someone that's from your campus
coming over to that bus stop, talk to them.
Ask them what their major is.
Ask them what classes they're taking.
That's an opportunity for you to talk to someone there
and to relate to them because you both have
that same college experience without it being weird
because you're waitin' for the bus.
You're not doing anything weird
and yes, not every single person is gonna be receptive.
Sometimes when people are waiting to go home
they don't wanna talk to anyone.
They've already tuned out from society and that's that,
but that's your golden opportunity to at least try.
To at least try to put yourself
out there more to make friends.
I know it's not easy when you're a commuter.
You're always pressed for time
and you have a lot on your plate anyway
with school and studying and homework
and all this kind of stuff
so making friends tends to fall to the back burner,
but you have the opportunity to put yourself out there.
You just have to find the little ways to do it.
But I am curious to know how you get to school.
So, I'm gonna put up a poll over here
where you can tell me that you drive to school,
you get driven, you take the bus, you take the train,
however you get there, I wanna know
and what I want ya to do next is
to check out the video over here where I break down
how to make friends in college if you're shy.
A lot of times people mask their shyness
with things like I just don't have time
or I'm too busy with schoolwork
when in reality, it's shyness that's holding them back
and this video's gonna tell you how to get over that.
So, check it out guys and I'll catch ya next time.
As always, love and peace.