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Are you your own worst enemy?
Do you have high hopes and goals for the future,
but find yourself falling behind?
Self-sabotage comes in many forms
and inhibits you from getting what you want out of life,
but how can we stop sabotaging ourselves?
Well, here are five ways.
Quick disclaimer.
The information in this video is not intended nor implied
to be a substitute for professional medical advice,
diagnosis, or treatment.
All content contained in this video is
for general informational purposes only,
and does not replace a consultation
with your doctor or mental health professional.
Let's begin.
Number one, reframe your state of mind.
When you get a bad grade on a test, how do you feel?
Are you down on yourself for not knowing the answers,
feeling that you aren't good enough?
Psychologist Judy Ho developed a chart
that showcases how your interpretation of an event
affects your feelings.
Ultimately leading to how you act.
By taking a step back and looking at each component,
you can better find different causes
that lead to certain actions.
Once you have an understanding of this chain reaction,
you can better find ways
to change your outlook on situations.
Perhaps instead of feeling down on yourself for a bad grade,
you think of it from the perspective
that you weren't prepared enough
and can take steps to get a better grade next time.
This is a growth mindset and allows you to view failures
as opportunities to learn and develop
rather than bring you down.
Number two, work on your self-worth.
Do you believe that you don't deserve the things you want,
that your hopes and dreams are better off going
to someone else?
With a self-sabotaging mindset
you may also have a low sense of self-worth.
Organizational psychologist Courtney Ackerman
described self-worth as our tendency
to evaluate our abilities and how we perform our roles.
She outlines what does not determine yourself worth
that we generally hold in high value.
Things like your job, age, grades,
or the number of friends
among many others should not determine
how you view yourself
and what you will be able to accomplish.
Rather, you should focus on what makes you happy
and what you find fulfilling.
Working towards what you truly want
versus what society wants out of you
and finding your own meaning of self-worth
can go a long way.
Number three, find a strong support network.
Do you find yourself getting stuck from time to time,
that you want to go down a certain life path,
but don't know where to start?
Getting the things you want out of life
can seem extremely daunting
and be next to impossible to do alone.
Finding and surrounding yourself
with the right group of people, mentors, and friends,
to help support you will help you
develop a strong support network.
If you find yourself stuck,
it can be easy to stay there,
which is why it's important
to find the right people that understand your situation
to help propel you forward.
Number four, break down your goals
and celebrate small victories.
Are you finding yourself setting large goals,
but you never achieve them?
Or perhaps you push your ideas off for as long as you can.
According to psychologist, Dr. Melanie Greenberg,
one form of self-sabotage is procrastination.
Sometimes your need to get it right makes you nervous.
So you push off your task until the last minute.
You then sacrifice quality in order to get it done.
It can help to vary up your goals
and celebrate the small victories you have.
Instead of embarking on doing one large project
all at one time,
you could break your large goal into smaller goals
and treat yourself as you accomplish them one at a time
while learning along the way.
And this helps develop a growth mindset,
which allows you to focus more on improving yourself
and growing your skills over time,
rather than getting stuck on the bigger picture.
Celebrating small victories and opportunities to learn
can help motivate you for larger goals
and make these daunting tasks seem more manageable.
And number five, talk it out.
Do you feel that it's troublesome to communicate your needs
to your significant others?
It can feel incredibly difficult
to open up to another person.
However, you may feel trapped
by keeping your emotions inside.
When you notice yourself going
into a self-sabotaging behavior,
it can help to talk with a trusted person about it.
Telling another person
about what behavior you're taking part in
can help discourage you from taking part in it.
So finding someone who will listen and comfort you
can help you get out of the self-destructive rabbit hole.
As always,
if you find that your self-sabotaging behaviors
are significantly hurting you,
it may be worth finding a mental health professional
to talk with.
Self-sabotaging behaviors can turn you
into your worst enemy.
These tendencies can be hard to recognize
and treat on your own.
However, recognizing areas for improvement
and finding the right support network will help you
on your path for self-improvement.
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if you find yourself struggling.
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