Today we're learning how to improve your decision-making skills. Because when you
don't make decisions, you are wasting time. So check out the video today and
stop wasting time.
You know how sometimes you're moving through life and it's really, really
tough to make decisions? Well, don't worry we're going to talk about
what it takes to be able to get your mind in order. And also, so you can get
moving forward. Because every second and every day that goes by that you're not
making a decision, you are spinning your wheels and it's costing you time and
money, right? And it's also driving you crazy.
So, let's talk about what it takes to be able to make this work for you. Well, one
of the first steps you want to do is you want to start thinking about what you
don't want to have happen. What is it that you don't want to have happen?
Because usually what we do in our mind is we think about what we want and what
we don't want and we keep going back and forth in this ping-pong experience. And
that's what stops us from actually making a decision is because these
random thoughts keep popping up about what you want and what you don't want. So,
to really get going on this, make a list of all the different thoughts and ideas
of the things you don't want to have happen. Now, it really means make a list.
Not just in your head, not just thinking about it but get on your phone or get on
a pad of paper and make a real-live list. As I mentor and I'm helping other people
get moving forward in their life and they don't make a list, guaranteed it
just stays in a big mess on the inside of their head. And that's not what you
want, right? It's burning out time. So you get a pad of paper so you can work it
out in front of you on that pad of paper. But really only focus on what it is that
you don't want and just clear out all of those thoughts so they don't keep
messing around with the ideas of what it takes to move forward. Okay, the second
one is what are your concerns and worries? That I... I know it sounds like
well, "Kirk, I just wrote those down with the things that I don't want." No. Concerns
and worries are a completely different thing. See, there are results that we
don't want but then we also have concerns and worries about what's going
to happen if we do make a decision. You know, you've thought those thoughts where
you know, "Well, if I do decide to do this, well what's so and so going to think?
And then what will happen tomorrow and will this be like next week?"
And so, you your mind plays out scenarios and in those scenarios there are some
obstacles, there's some challenges. There's concerns, there's worries. So now
your second and third list is what are your concerns? What are the worries? What
are all the terrible things you think are going to have happen if you make a
decision? Because your mind is naturally evaluating all of this type of thought
process and you may not even be conscious of it. So, this is why we work
it out on paper. So number 1, you're writing down at which what are the
things you don't want and then now your concerns and worries. And you may want to
do this list on paper and give yourself a day or 2 to come back to the list to
write down what else comes to you. Sometimes when we make a list and we
think we got it all... And sometimes we just clear off that top surface, you know
I'm talking about just that top surface? And then other things float to the
surface and then you clear those ideas off too. So you can get your mind to
being clear because it's really tough to make a decision when you got concerns
worries and a whole bunch of things you don't want have happened. I'll plug it up
your brain. That just doesn't work and it's one of the reasons why you're
feeling like you're stuck. Next. Okay. Education matters because if we don't
really raise our education about where it is we want to go, what happens is
we're trying to move forward in life with the current education we have right
now. And that can be a little spooky. So what you're looking for is what is it
that you don't know? What is it that you don't know enough about? And if you're to
ponder on that and start thinking, what is it that I need to understand so that
I can move forward? You might start to find here that there are different
topics or different people you might need to meet with so that you can raise
your education? Because if you think you can move forward on the same level of
education you currently have, that is going to paralyze your thinking process.
Because how can you come up with better and stronger and
thoughts on old thinking? That's not going to happen. So, that would be your next
step is to go, "Okay, what is it I don't know? What is it that I need to figure
out? Who is it they need to talk to or what kind of person need to talk to?" So
you can find out what you need to learn. Because education is a big motivator and
lack of education is a great stopper. So, find what it is that you need to learn
about to be able to move you forward. Okay, the next part of who...? You know, I'm
looking out the window here and there's all these houses and there's some
buildings way over there. There's a whole bunch of people in the
world. Lots of people who can help move you forward, help you walk yourself
through the different steps and ideas that you could figure out about how to
make this decision. There are a lot of people in the world. And if you're trying
to make your decision by yourself, that could be one of the big problems too is
that you're just relying on your ideas. I think it'd be smart for you to meet
somebody new or maybe you got a friend you can reach out to. But you know how
friends are though? They can be kind of crazy and they give you a bunch of weird
ideas, right? So, maybe ask your friend who they know. But I have found in my life, if
I can talk to somebody and talk out what it is that I'm sorting through in my
head that I'm trying to make a decision on, if I can talk to people, it actually
helps me get more clear. So, who is it that you could call today? Who is it that
you could reach out to? Because if you're stuck in your own thinking, sometimes and
having a conversation with another person opens up the conversation and
then that opens up the mind. Okay, the next part is what if you could not fail?
Like, there was nothing ever going to go wrong like there's no way your ideas
would fail? What would that idea be? Sometimes, we have great ideas. And there
are really really good ideas but the concerns, the worries, the lack of
education get in there and kind of tear those ideas apart. But really, what is
your idea? What are those...? What are those steps that you did think about but then
it spooked you? And see because you got spooked or concerned or worried,
sometimes great ideas get buried with a whole bunch of
concern worried and lack of education sitting on top of it. And those great
ideas are deep down inside of you but what what are those crazy wild ideas
that you've had? Now, don't be shy or hide those ideas. Be sure to list those
somewhere. You know, put that on your paper here's my big crazy ideas. I have
found in my life when I have a big crazy idea, I get all excited. You know, I'm all
ready to just take action on it but then here comes the concerns. Here's the
concerns pushes down the good idea then here comes the worries and then here
comes the ideas of all the things I don't know and then my big idea is way
down here. Well, if you could go back and revisit your crazy idea and bring that
back to the surface, I think it's the right idea.
I think it's the idea you go with. Don't lose those ideas. Don't don't let those
evaporate and just completely fall apart and you know disassemble themselves
because of concern and worry. Believe me, over the years, when it comes to making
decisions, I'm just like you. I have struggled with it, I've wrestled with it
but I've also been able to make decisions and get better at it. And this
is what I've been doing to get better at it. So, if you're wondering like, "Well, what
is that crazy idea and what if it could not fail?" What would you do next? What is
that big crazy next step and now that you've written out your concerns and
your worries and I already thought about the education get it and who else you
can talk to. Those big ideas need to come back to the surface because many times
my big ideas is what helps me take those huge step forward. It just helps me take
that big step forward so I'm not just taking these little tiny steps. I believe
you're the kind of person who gets inspired. And I believe you're the kind
of person who really can be a great problem solver. But you're just like me
and you're like other people where it gets covered up and pushed down over
time because of what's listed here between 1... Number 1 through 4. So,
let those big ideas come up and if you could not fail,
what would you do next? That would be a great idea to take next. Now, here at
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