Greetings guys, gals, and non-binary pals and welcome back to another video!
I hope that you're well and I hope that you are fighting because there is a lot to be fighting for.
As usual, there'll be a link in the description to the page of my website with a bunch of petitions, donations, emails to send to MPs, etc, etc.
Now you may not have noticed but I've actually spent the last 10 days on holiday.
Uh, you wouldn't have noticed because I pre-filmed a bunch of videos and uploaded those while I was away.
But I went to Brighton for a few days.
I went to the beach and it was so, so nice.
I haven't been to the beach since I was at home, uh, back in November 2019.
And being from New Zealand means I see the beach every single day.
The longest I'd ever gone without seeing the beach was three weeks when I was in Laos,
And so being able to go back to the ocean and see the ocean was...
So incredibly healing.
I haven't felt that like at home, at peace, for a really long time.
And I was able to just like take a breather which I haven't done for a really, really long time.
So now I am back and I feel refreshed, I feel good, it's been a really, really good week.
July, in general, has been a really, really good month.
So I'm feeling pumped and ready to go and I'm excited to get back into it and keep making videos for you.
Because I love doing this and I'm so, so grateful for all the support you give me.
I just hit 300k! That's absolutely incredible. Thank you so much.
This time one year ago I just hit 2,000, so thank you.
Today's video, we are going to be going back over a classic which is Bad Women's Anatomy.
Because people always have sh_t to say about women's bodies, uh, and the way they work.
And a lot of people say some really stupid sh_t, so...
We're gonna be looking at that.
But before we get into it, I would like to take a moment to say thank you to today's video sponsor, Intimina and Lelo.
And I will tell you a little bit more about them a little bit later.
Do you not know what freezing your eggs does?
You started off this whole thing by saying that "women freeze their eggs so they can have children later on"
And then were like all "your eggs are dead by 30".
That's why they freeze them!
So they can use them later on.
And also 90% of your eggs are not dead when you're 30.
That is not a real statistic. That- That's not true.
Your peak fertility is in your 20s, but you can still be successful in a pregnancy past 30.
My mom had me when she was 37. She wasn't even trying to get pregnant.
She was on birth control when she got pregnant with me at 37.
She got pregnant with my sister when she was 40.
You can still have children later in life.
And, again, freezing your eggs means that they are frozen.
While you're you- They're young eggs that are like frozen so they don't age.
And also motherhood, wifehood, not the same thing.
And also are indeed optional.
They are optional. You don't have to do either of those things if you don't want to.
If I don't want to have kids, I'm not going to have kids. That's got nothing to do with you.
And I'm really sorry if that makes your dating pool smaller, but they didn't want to date you in the first place.
So, like really, no harm, no foul.
It's not hurting you.
I know you think that it's an attack on you because it means you have "less options"
But you don't. They weren't interested in you in the first place, so...
Calm your ego, okay?
My guy??
Firstly, you don't pee out of your vagina.
You have a separate hole for that. The urethra.
That is not your vagina.
That- Your vagina is linked to just your uterus.
That's not connected to anything else.
That's where a baby goes. Nothing else.
Eggs, babies, that- that's all there is there.
That's all it's connected to. That's its only purpose.
You don't pee out of it.
And secondly, that's not how vaginas work.
That's not how sex works.
Sex does not stretch your vagina. It doesn't do that.
I've gone over this so many times. Why does this myth still exist?
It's not how it works. It's not how it works.
It's the same idea as saying a penis gets smaller every time you have sex because it gets squished by the walls of the vagina. It's not true.
That's not how it works. Stop spreading false information.
Pick up a book.
Libraries are free, most of the time.
Thirdly, the way you dress, what you wear, how much skin you show, has nothing to do with your sexual activity.
It has nothing to do with how much sex you have, or how many people you sleep with, or anything.
You can be an asexual virgin and dress super immodestly and show a lot of skin.
Or you can be someone who has sex with a different person every single day and cover your skin head to toe.
The way you dress and your level of modesty has absolutely nothing to do with your sexual activity at all.
We don't dress for sexual partners. We don't dress to attract sexual partners.
We dress how we feel comfortable.
And like, sometimes, yeah, you do dress cause you're like "I feel cute! I want people to appreciate how cute I look."
That doesn't mean I want people to harass me or talk to me or have sex.
That's- They're not related.
There's a difference between wanting people to admire you and wanting to have sex with people, you know?
There's a difference. People have to figure that out.
People have to realize admiration, and objectifying and sexualizing are two very different things.
And a lot of men seem to have that confused and think that sexualizing and objectifying is the same as admiring.
It's not. It's not.
What I wear has nothing to do with my sexual intentions.
So keep it to yourself. Shut up.
Do you- I don't know if this was treated by a man or a woman or whoever, but like do you not understand the point of period tracking?
Like, your period can surprise you at any time.
You don't know when you're gonna get it. Everybody's bodies are slightly different.
A lot of people do not have a regular cycle and a period tracking app helps you keep track of that.
How you're feeling leading up to your period, so you can look into when you think it's going to come.
And you have a better understanding of your body and your cycle and it can help you understand an irregular pattern because...
It sucks being caught off guard, you know what I mean?
It's not great to be caught off guard when you're on your period and it's not fun.
It's not fun for anyone. It's just like a little bit sh_t.
You can ruin your favourite underwear, or something you're sitting on, or ah, it's just...
A bit of a mess, literally.
And an app just helps make that easier for yourself.
And it can also help you track like, your ovulation for like, fertility reasons and things like that.
It's not required, but it is very helpful.
While we're on the topic of sex and periods, I wanted to tell you about Intimina, and more specifically, their product Ziggy.
So, basically, this is her.
She comes in this little- this little pouch.
But, basically, Ziggy is a menstrual cup that is unique for a whole bunch of reasons.
So firstly, menstrual cups, in general, are incredible.
I've been using a menstrual cup for about five years for my periods, because I just think they're all round just like so much better
Both environmentally, and I find just like comfort-wise and use wise, and I just- I just generally overall prefer them.
But another amazing thing about the Ziggy cup it's actually the only reusable menstrual cup that can be used during penetrative sex.
It is made from a petal thin silicone so it can't be or barely can be felt by you or your partner.
Being on your period can greatly boost your sex drive.
This is something that I think we all experience.
When you're on your period your sex drive does tend to boost because, biology.
But at the same time, it's also something that a lot of people feel a little bit insecure about.
Or whether it's, insecure, just not wanting to make a mess and have to clean up the mess.
The Ziggy cup can help you in that situation.
So if you're feeling a bit insecure about having sex with a partner while on your period,
You can pop in the Ziggy cup and not have to worry about making a mess or about any sort of insecurity at all.
I don't think period sex is something to be insecure about at all, but I also understand that it can be a little bit uncomfortable.
And you don't want to be thinking about that or in the wrong space while you're having sex.
So even if it's something that you don't think you should be uncomfortable with, if you are, it's always good to like avoid that.
You know what I mean?
But not only can you just pop it in during sex, you can wear it for up to eight hours and it catches like a lot a lot of liquid.
And you can't feel it which is amazing.
That's what we love. We love to not be aware of the period products that we are using, right?
So basically Ziggy is a really great way to continue to have the orgasms that you crave on your period without making a mess or having to clean up after yourself.
Which is fantastic.
But as a way to get used to using Ziggy cup, you can have some solo time using your new best friend, Sila by Lelo.
Which is this guy here.
Sila is a toy that focuses on clitoral stimulation uh by using ultrasonic airwaves, which is the best kind of toy.
It is. I'm sorry. It is the absolute best kind of toy.
I've had- This is my fourth one that I've had and this is easily by far the best one I've ever tried.
I love the shape of this. It is so nice and easy to hold, and the power of it is...
Perfect and beautiful.
And the way that it is shaped and the like rumbling that it does is...
It's incredible. This is easily by far my favourite one of these that I've ever tried.
And it is 1000% worth it.
And if you're using it with Ziggy, you don't have to worry about a mess at all.
It's a good way for you to warm up to the idea of any sort of sex or orgasming while on your period.
And you can also obviously incorporate this into partnered sex which is great.
So with these two together, you can have mess-free orgasms any time of the month.
Which is fantastic. That's what we all want, right?
So, if you just go to the link in my description, you can get these two as a little set and have- have some fun.
Experiment a little, you know?
That actually takes us perfectly onto our next post. Which is...
This is another myth.
Sex toys do not desensitize you.
They don't desensitize you. That is not how it works.
They work as tools to increase pleasure to aid in your experience and to help you have an overall more pleasurable, more enjoyable experience.
And you can cater them to yourself, to your situation, whatever.
You can start with them on like, a low setting and build it up into something a bit bigger,
Or you can start on a big setting.
You can control how long it takes you to climax.
That is in your power and that is the great thing about toys, is that you can cater them to yourself.
And the whole point of them is that, yeah, it can be difficult to make yourself come with just your fingers.
It's a difficult feat and it's-
Why would you, if you could have it easier?
Like less work, and increased pleasure.
Why would you not choose to do that?
What's the problem?
And you can also bring those toys into your sexual experience with your partner as well.
You can't- You don't have to just be like "she comes with that so, like, Ah I can't do anything."
Yeah, you can! You can also use that.
Most people with vulvas do not climax from penetrative sex.
You do need clitoral stimulation as well and toys are a great way to do that.
It's not you being weak for having to bring in a toy or for wanting to bring in a toy.
A lot of the time cis men don't particularly know what they're doing.
It is a big joke, right? Like "men can't find the clit." A lot of the time...
It's true and there's some bad listening that happens sometimes.
But it makes it easier if you just bring- if you bring a toy.
If you bring Sila into the bedroom, everything is easier.
It's much easier and it gets the job done beautifully.
And you can have harmonious or wonderful orgasms together.
So why would you not do that if you could do that?
I don't know, that's just me though.
Firstly, please, Sir, explain to me the difference between coming and orgasming.
Because last I checked those are the same thing.
Unless you're talking about like squirting is coming, but then surely that's harder than orgasming?
I don't know your angle here, my guy.
And also, what?
How is it high maintenance to expect reciprocation?
I give you pleasure, you give me pleasure in return.
I don't understand what the big- why that's such a big deal?
Why that's something that's so hard to comprehend or accept or like want to give back.
Sex should be enjoyable for both or all people involved.
It shouldn't be just one-sided.
Sex is supposed to be like, fun.
The sex you're having sounds very, very boring, Sir.
Um, you should want it to be like 20 to 30 minutes
Why is that not something that you want?
Isn't giving pleasure to your partner, like, part of the enjoyable experience?
I don't understand people who don't like that. That's not part of the experience for them.
The selfish people in bed being like, "No, this is all about me."
Unless that's like a kink agreement thing you have but, that's like different.
Like, in like BDSM, sort of that's different because that's like an enjoyable thing for the- you know what I mean?
You know what I mean.
But, like, people who are genuinely like selfish and just like "No, I want you to make me come" and then leave.
How is that fun for anyone involved?
I don't understand. That doesn't make any sense to me.
It sounds really boring and I'm really, really sorry to the people you had kids with.
They had- This ma- This man had children!
It is a man's world and everything is catered to men and they expect everything to be catered to them and they expect to get things that they want.
So why- Why would they cater to women and give us orgasms if they can just get them from us?
And have that moment of feeling powerful or feeling- feeling pleasure when that's really the only reason they want to have sex in the first place?
A lot of men just want sex for power and like no other reason. Just kind of f_cked up
But they want to have sex with the flex and for the power.
And I don't understand it. It doesn't make any sense. It's ridiculous to me.
Um, but that's how it goes and a lot of women do settle for that because it's what we expect.
That's what all the jokes on tv are about. It's what- That's what all the jokes are about. It's what everyone talks about.
We are told to expect that. We are told that that's how it goes, and men are selfish, and they're bad at sex, and sex is all about them.
We see it in porn, we see it everywhere.
Sex is very male-centric. It's very penis-centric.
That's how it has always been. Sex is a man's thing, right? We're just the accessories.
Um, and so a lot of women do accept it.
And so then, when people like this are like, "No, you have to give me pleasure too"
They're like well, "Why the f_ck would I do that if I can have sex with someone else for five minutes and not have to do any work?"
You know what I mean?
Um, so we've got to start calling men out.
And I promise you that there are men who are good at sex.
There are men out there who know what they're doing.
Especially if you're going within like a leftist pool, like, you know, like actual feminist men who are like actually feminists.
They tend to be better at listening and communicating.
I've had some very good sex with cis-het men and you can too.
It's not- It's not like impossible.
I promise there is hope. There is hope. I promise.
Please don't be disheartened.
It's just a majority who are awful but there are still some good ones. You just have to...
Just have to look....
Really hard...
Anyway. Sex should be fun for everyone.
Communicate. Have conversations. Have fun.
As long as everything is consensual, everything is fine.
I think that I'm going to leave this here.
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