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what is happening okay so earlier one so
let's put all the information into this
one which is essentially that we're
doing a live stream because of
disability History Month where I'm going
to make one video every week celebrating
disabilities so that last weekend in
profile of Queen Alexandra who was deaf
and disabled and became a fashion icon
and today we doing a livestream all
about disability and relationships
my lovely without cruelly oh we have
been married two years now Karan I do it
all the time to each other and she's
like would you stop it you already like
you know that's weird
cute yeah keep singing so you don't need
to add more cutely
cute knee sorry sorry anymore and oh
yeah so we've gone through a list of
questions that you guys left and the
community tab correct questions guys
really well done if you ask more
questions than chat to the side Clara
who's moderating by again Clara
thank you so much um it's gonna send
them to us oh my phone okay so the phone
we were answering was how do you both
feel that you contribute to the
relationship as able-bodied Bess is
disabled when it's disabled - crying
necessarily do all the house chores etc
for instance so I have disability that
affects my nerves my muscles my organs
getting chronic fatigue chronic
paying that to everything I find
housework to be quite hard and you use
the example of the washing up
uh-huh and how I can't get washing up
but I can do the dishwasher
yeah you can't you know kiss upon scents
like temperature and also like I could
have my hands in the water and be like
yeah I'm just cleaning and then I take
them out and if I cut them to ribbons or
something yes I wouldn't know but yeah
great
dishwasher stacking a plus they just
find things that we can well be new we
find things that just as comfortable of
doing so she likes stacking the
dishwasher putting things in the fridge
you're like I'm stacking the dishwasher
I do and putting things away Jessica
does most of the cooking to be honest
yeah yeah and well I just and unlike for
other things like laundry I always do
the laundry I do any like washing up the
dishes I do all like that heavier
household chores like hoovering making
the bed yeah most of steak smaller
things
Haidee yeah I don't know what I'm doing
with my hands right there yeah and I
think also expanding on that further
than just like household chores you do a
lot of the heavy lifting so if we're
traveling you're the one carrying the
heavy bags if we're just going out
shopping for the day you're the one who
do like oh I'll just go and check it's
over there and you're like doing extra
wall can come back I mean there's been
our energy on so relationships should be
liked if the tats but I can sort of see
that's kind of the angle of the question
and a way but like him if I carry over
the bags
like we're on the flight I'm carry-on
bags and like I've helped her with a
wheelchair and I basically like don't
all the physical labor when we then
finally get to wherever we're men it'd
be like the sofa or the bed or whatever
we sit down and put netflix on or
whatever and jesse tends to like give me
a foot rub and I feel like I feel like
all that sort of stuff I've done for the
day I'm like I'm not expecting this rug
but also I'm a bit like I kind of worry
I
yeah so a bit like work as a team for
the benefit of the team so whatever you
can do to make the team better is good
that makes sense so I say like
emotionally yeah I probably help you out
a lot uh-huh and then physically you
help me out you know yeah and then yeah
you just do little bits where you can
and like also at the same time the like
abled body person shouldn't have to feel
you shouldn't feel like you shouldn't
ever do anything you don't do either no
like you know don't feel forced to do
something and don't do it because you're
trying to be a martyr yeah sometimes I
think you feel like it's gonna build
resentment yeah if I'm in a really bad
mood and Jessica's like can you go get
me a drink it's a really bad example but
like for instance I might just be like
the like and like and then I and then
she's like oh okay and then I feel ready
and then I do feel quite bad about it
afterwards but you know maybe I just
felt like saying no right though I'm
running a little minute okay is that a
bad example no I don't think so I think
that was good yeah I hope we've answered
that question oh yay ah next question
does the issue disability play any role
in the time of choosing to have children
and I know I would I mean from my point
of view
I'll answer from what I think go go for
it the like animal I don't think the
disability has any weight on that more
the fact that we're both women and we
have a biological clock also just
because disability is not progressive so
it's more spur at it's more episodic so
again we can't read we can't really
factor that in but what we well if you
don't know what that means by the way
progressive means that it will get worse
over time
episodic means that it goes up and down
yeah
so if you had something that was more
progressive and obviously we feel like
more need to do it earlier yes have
children immediately yeah
but then but because of your episode a
kind of issue we can't control that but
the thing we can control is maybe like
how we decide to have children
yeah do you wanna yes I know it's exempt
to you so because I can't have children
when it obviously I can't have sure
we're gonna have children um
I can't give birth and carry a baby
because my body is not capable of that a
lot my very delicate party's route so
obviously God may be a lesbian so to
have another womb Thanks yeah but it
also along the same lines of your body
can't go through it her body probably
can't even go through being my support
system when I'm in like a 20-hour labor
yeah I mean I can't stay awake for
dreams yeah
I can barely stay awake for five so we
need to talk to those sort of things in
as well like do we have a c-section and
said which we can plan the more of the
timing of that or do we just like know
adopt or yeah feels like the constant
the kind of all the way that I work my
body works is that it's good to have a
plan under schedule so anything that we
can control they're definitely going to
did we answer that question yes no I'm
sure it was right okay next question how
do I get over feeling like I'm simply a
burden and feel that I contribute
something to this marriage other than
bills that's very good question yeah I
think it's very easy to feel like a
burden when you have a disability I do I
thought well the thing is I don't feel
like a burden
with you I think a lot of it is based on
people around you so it's people who are
in your relationships I kind of like
okay fines we can't go that because of
you like okay what to go and do this for
you okay then you do feel like a burden
and you've a bit rubbish already um I
remember being in my last relationship
and I was on crutches and she was just a
bit kind of annoyed by my crutches and
then I felt terrible and I felt so bad
about myself and I was like oh god what
do I do I bring to this relationship
where is oh thank you oh thank you oh
minister that's very very sweet thank
you thank you um and but with Claudia
because she doesn't she doesn't make me
feel that way if I'm annoying you and
you're doing the sighing it's because my
personality
yes disability yeah or it might be that
I've got my own issue going online you
know how I'm saying like she was like
can you get me a drink and I'm like no
it's more that I'm in a bad mood it's
not yeah with her you're just grumpy
yeah so then that comes with
understanding each other and if I'd said
no for more of a spiteful place today
like then actually I just reflect on
that and I'm like what are you like
should I chill it's not a big deal to go
get a drink and I'm just making this
you're gonna make this into like
everyone's gonna get upset so you're
just gonna have to let you just kind of
have to sometimes you both got to
reflect on yourselves
ya know I think it's not just on us as
disabled people it is on the evil people
in our lives as well so I think we need
to do the mental whack of thinking I am
NOT a bad man a wonderful person there
are loads of things that I bring to
society to my relationships etc but it
is also kind of on the able people
around us yeah and how they interact
with us and I say open to education if
you're open and upfront about the fact
that you have a disability then
your friends and partners Thank You
Rebecca well you know a chapter that's
already that's already out there so they
can't be like don't to me a burden
implies like they're a bit like oh you
didn't disclose II had orders like
DeMaurice you know hey you got into this
relationship you knew what was happening
huh oh my gosh you know I know the super
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that's a nice one oh that's interesting
things that excite me okay next question
how do you include you keep the romance
alive and you have a few weeks of bad
days in a row I love that the romance or
love Jesus we really don't have issues
keeping the romance alive flower friends
like please romance to me is not sex
romance is love and affection and
thinking you know doing nice little
gestures for someone so and thinking of
them so you can do that all the time you
know no I think I think the romance is
always there
I mean sometimes when we go to hospital
I didn't realize still well maybe you
know you're not because but I might
strike and just that you have to have a
couple of like days in bed but then you
just come home in the evenings and then
you come in bed with me yeah and then we
watch Netflix and snuggle yeah we smell
got better than this and just get
takeaway in store
yeah but if you're thinking more like
sex then I don't know I guess like I
don't think you can get diminishes
anything why maybe it's a bit like when
the heart grows you know dis
makes the heart grow fonder so the fact
that he's been kind of unwell and you're
having to focus on all your other needs
when like suddenly you're ready again to
have like that need met it's like whoo
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yeah honey it's Eve attorney I'm
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yeah from Harry Potter yeah it was the
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just because okay next question
okay sorry may be gone from whether you
just said and what are the positive
things you to your plant from
relationship when one of you has
disabilities what positive things have
what have have come from being in a
relationship or one person has dispersed
oh okay you get to get seated first like
in a plane I definitely think it's my
like my personal like knowledge of
awareness of disabilities has massively
increased and I didn't really know I
definitely didn't know as much or was
aware of hidden disabilities as much and
I was one of those people that still
thought like you know disables
wheelchair maybe not that obvious but
like don't that on that more physical
level or like blind or like you know
something where it's like a physical
impairment yeah and I didn't think of
chronic illness is really a disability I
think if someone had asked me that I
probably would it was anyway the point
is I think I've definitely been educated
and that's made me a more wholesome
person and more respectful of people are
not judging people so much and being
much more aware and I think that's and I
that's my positive thing would you say
that it makes you
I think kinda like you have more time
for people because you have more
understanding of them so someone's
holding you up in the line at the
supermarket and you're aware that they
have some kind of issue but you can more
easily spot an issue and then you're
more forgiving yeah or it might also be
like if someone abled bodied looking
comes out of the disabled toilet and
they would be it being some little old
lady waiting to go in in the past I
would have been like damn that person
and the Lord lady like had to wait and
they just went and use that and they
could have gone in use differently yeah
and I were to go like righteous for the
old lady and I would have made me feel
good about myself but now I'm like well
you know that person probably needed it
Yahoo am I to judge it
who knows yeah let's be honest myself
I'm a bit lazy isn't even angry just did
a little lady sometime is the one who's
like it's okay ladies there's maybe
they've seen life and they know that you
some people don't always present and the
way you think they're gonna this is very
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and what I benefited from this
relationship so many things so many
things I think one of the main things to
me he's been confidence oh I feel now
like I have a safety net like I can I
can go and do things that before I would
have a bit scared of because I knew that
I wouldn't have known now to look after
me afterwards if it went wrong that
makes sense
so before be like oh I don't want to go
in like a long-haul flight oh and I'd be
really scared about it and worried and
yeah but now I feel like yeah let's go
do it
let's go see the world yeah let's go to
London for that party because if it goes
wrong there's someone incredibly capable
here was they even went drunk
you can like hug yeah she's accident if
we were to party actually I don't drink
and she's drunk and then I get injured
she's just like poop on sofa ready to go
and she like fix the problem sort it all
out pop the thing back in it's
dislocated
and the she just goes back to being
drunk I think I think happened to be
practical and logical when slightly
inebriated is the most sobering thing
it's like okay I gotta sober up alright
I'm ready I'm ready let's go but I just
feel so
I hate in a non disability-related where
suppose as well.i has managed the best
things ever happened to me ah George you
know that yeah I think I think we're
like going up there question slightly
but where it was going is that I just
feel more confident in everything you
know I think you were very confident
person anyway so my God look at these
dog emojis oh they're so adorable
oh hi I love that Ossie Cruz's like am I
the only one no such small things like
the new phone yes I have a new phone
that is also have wet hair sorry I
didn't if people later saw Avery has
really awful ugly wet like I just had a
shower right and the next one how do you
improve your cope with the
disappointment when health issues caused
you to cancel or interrupt plans oh my
god is that lunch time life well a bit
like what just percent in the last one
like she's like I feel more confident to
just go because I've got someone capable
there occasionally I have pretty much
dragged her along too I say events like
big events like a friend's wedding like
I'd be like okay like let's have a bed
day stay in bed I'll do everything to
worry and but if it's like a big event
like a wedding I'm like no I was like
bleeding internally
yeah but yeah because I said look what's
the worst that's gonna happen we will go
you're with me the whole time if you
feel really awful we'll just leave yeah
I was like yeah yeah yeah
and then she was and I was like I'm on
you know I drink like so that we can
leave and things like that and then and
we went and you guys had a really nice
time I'm doing
oh my god the status was but like a
humungous Gallup inner spoons and also
you just told everyone and in bounce I'm
really not very I have to leave so yeah
I mean sometimes I do feel a little bit
guilty about that but at the same time I
wouldn't get all the fun experience as
I've had if I just based things on oh
you know I'm not well enough to do this
right now
Wow hi star hunter um yeah if I did if I
just base things on I'm really not
feeling great I can't do this right now
I have a horrible migraine then I just
would not get stuff done you know if I
just had to wait I wouldn't do things
like when we did the stand up to cancer
live shooting I thought pretty awful
yeah but it was still such a great thing
that I really wanted to do but the
original question is about
disappointment because obviously there
are times you know cancel things we do
have to say um we do have to cancel so
after cancel and our friends and family
cancel our own plans just the two of us
have made and yeah that can be
disappointing yeah
to be fair if it's just a plan that you
and I have made them we tend to cancel
it but if it's when it's somewhat my
feel that we're letting someone else
down then we'll try our best
yeah we've gone to dinner parties and I
just come to sleep we get there oh yeah
yeah yeah she's out she's out thanks
Cara by the way for then you should go
sofa yeah I mean it is disappointing
like sometimes you've had to miss some
of your friends weddings and so are
there like hen parties yeah which breaks
my heart
yeah yeah and it's upsetting but also
you're just gonna like face you your
friends the things you're missing is
usually like with good close friends
hopefully if there's something like that
then they'll understand because yeah
you're a true friend they understand and
they get it and they know that you can't
do a particular thing right now but that
you love them and that you're there for
them yeah I would say my sometime when
it really disappointed to you is when
you feel like you've let someone down
and then I always just have to say they
all don't fit like that don't worry but
if it was like you had tickets for
Taylor Swift and you can go that would
be really
but you haven't let Taylor down over and
you can get tickets again oh it's no big
deal
you've met Taylor down she's on stage
like Oh guys heartbroken I mean unless
you are friends with Taylor Swift we can
oh yeah you can't assume maybe you are
besties
anyway we that's what Tygart Congress
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Thank You Clara more questions Oh lots
of questions there Garrett how do you
say calmly and collectively come to
compromise
do you ever fight on basics such as
housework that Jessi can't do Oh Talan
well we compromise quite easily I think
like if there's stuff around the house
that one of us is like I love that the
other ones like I mean I don't like it I
don't hate it you love it a lot so okay
you can take that painting yeah there
anytime I get like annoyed and then you
get upset is say we don't work all day
and I'm really tired
in the morning I had said to Jessica hey
can you like tidy this table up or can
you move that back to there or can you
take this back to your bedroom in a
thing then and then I come home and it's
not been done I feel a bit like this
place I don't think that's an issue with
housework I think that's an issue with
my memory yeah yeah you get annoyed by
my memory yeah and then like and then
it's quite easy for me to sometimes just
be a bit unforgiving and be like you're
just lazy you know and then you get
really upset but you should never say
that to a disease no I never know I
never say it
she thinks that like I think it's it's
okay to sometimes think those things if
you know it's not actually what do you
think should I shut up no no it's fine
um yeah I would save the thing from my
end that I've noticed annoys you the
most is my memory in case you're like
you've just completely forgot this thing
yeah yeah oh of course thing with memory
problems is it it's always going oh you
wasn't that looking like me it's always
been annoying anyway no married you're
always gonna have like things that
you're gonna like get annoyed about you
know but you just read each other well
so I get really like unreasonably grumpy
so and I sometimes want to pick a fight
we have never had a big fight because
Jessica can read when I'm just really
grumpy and I probably just need like
some space and food and some food she
gets angry yeah or like I just need
whatever like I need something that's
not being met so you just kind of she
doesn't pick at it so rather than being
like if I'm like oh yeah why didn't you
do this thing that I asked you to do
she'll just be like she won't be like
well you know why didn't you do that
that would just cause a bigger gap a
little working all day - yeah yeah
instead she's just like okay and then
you and then you go do it and then
obviously then I'm like no I just I I
yeah I guess
like where the most important thing is
always the togetherness and I unit so
I've never identified anyone to do next
like if you try and start some drama
with me yelps behind okay well gonna be
able here making dinner man yeah it's a
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one or two more questions okay right
um how do you suggest we approach
bringing up disabilities with a new
person I find that as my disabilities
are often visible new partners tend to
act like they don't exist
excellent question and so some like a
starting to date type of question just
say it
my all my first day so I was like right
here's what's wrong with me enjoy only
of course after the first half an hour
in which I had charmed them because the
thing is I don't have a lot of energy
and I'm not going to waste it on five
dates before I then tell you something's
wrong with me and then you're like oh my
she handled I mean my question was more
that like you've already done that but
the closest a miserable they forget and
they pretend it doesn't exist okay well
that could be just an education problem
as in the person that you're dating has
never met a disabled person before they
have obviously consumed everyone they
just don't know it and so they're not
entirely sure what exactly it is that
you need from them so I would say just
be bold just tell them there's no harm
in telling someone what you need but
there is a lot of harm and you're not
telling them and pushing yourself to the
limit and then you get ill or injured
and then that's gonna be worse isn't it
because they'll be like you're so ill
right now in that case it's real I don't
say also like knowledge is power so if
you ever feel like someone is not
acknowledging something that you know
very much about yourself just get some
facts about your or just general facts
about disabilities or hidden disability
or people who can't always people who
have chronic fatigue or whatever it is
that you might find as your thing that
you find that you struggle with find
some like facts and some figures around
that because if you say that to someone
not in there like you don't know but
like just an educational point of view
then they're like oh yeah like you know
what you're talking about it's not just
you being needy you actually have
backing like I find that really makes
people respect you and also re-educate
themselves a bit yeah yeah one in five
people you can have disability yeah like
just things like that when Jessica says
that to someone who's just like oh you
don't look very disabled she's like oh
did you know any like 20% of disabled
people actually are in a wheelchair that
figure was totally wrong yeah I think
that kind of stuff yeah so you know
telling the percentage of people who
have
sensory issues or it's really back
extrapolating so it's taking your
condition and then yeah taking it away
from your cell it's not like I'm not the
issue actually it's it's abled people
need to realize that actually this is a
wider issue yeah I'm just a
representation of that and I'm a voice
for as well I think that's a good thing
to do I think when I see interact with
people who don't know you you tell them
a few facts in a really charming pint
way and then they're like oh thank you
so much for telling me about that yeah
yeah yeah
also you can shame people yeah and if
that thing yesterday yeah a bit like
they've taken a step too far then you
can say if you you can say the same
information but in a slightly more like
a different tone rather than a helpful
tone you can said well actually did you
know this wasn't this yes yeah exactly
yeah thing that happened yesterday is a
man came up to me in a wheelchair and so
I was in /a conversation and I was like
hi cool let's chat and then help me
through he went don't worry I'm only
pretending to be a uh-huh
excuse me scuse me
oh yeah anyway and then I was like
interesting my job is about phrasing
disability awareness and he was like
yeah yeah
that was yeah he was definitely he was
basically hitting on Jessica I was like
in the studio like like I could see if
through the window this guy was like
chatting you up and then when I came out
I know what's going on was that guy
chatting you up and she was like yeah
but he was just pretending to be
disabled yeah
like what well way to start a
conversation as well ah maybe also the
fact that he thought you would fancy him
more and like don't worry I'm not
actually cripples like you know
it's like well actually I probably date
me more and more likely to date you if
you like if I wasn't straight you were
just an honest person he was and also
didn't make fun of people with
disabilities Oh anyway
did it take a while peculiar to get used
to being with someone who is disabled
did you ever forget nice Jessica to do
something she can't kind of once about
yeah yeah yeah
buzzer could be comes from a medical
background so she's not put off by
buddies what's here I'm my type of
personality I don't know I like when
someone just tells me upfront
yeah like what they're feeling or what
they need like I don't like I'm a good I
can read people well as well but like if
you just say I don't like people who I
can read well and they're not telling me
something that I know that they'd need
because I find that really annoying I'm
just like just tell me what you knew
thank you
um yes yes you're kind of go with the
flow but you also like all of the
information before you go with the flow
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I'll be okay with it
just tell me what it is okay let's let's
do one more question because Clara's
let's go and decorating a Christmas tree
uh-huh because she just bought a
Christmas tree um oh okay
mmm which of these questions should we
go for about the last one that's a bit
saucy talk about that one oh we come up
this in okay the question is how is
intimacy different are you careful not
to hurt your disabled partner and with
you covered this in your roundtable chat
with Hannah Witton yes yeah that video
is you can flower put that in the
description yeah which you can find on
Hannah Witten's Channel yeah and but it
was like an interesting point I mean
personally with us I mean I can't really
hurt you I guess based on your
well I like pancakes my entire body on
to let your arm or something for like
ages and your arm might like yeah and
then my hip popped out you know what I
think because we're so used to each
other's bodies now we don't anything we
don't know anything about them but in
the beginning
yeah maybe never think like I remember I
was always like if we were cuddling or
whatever like I would have to be like oh
we're gonna move your arm or I better
not not like that anymore I mean you
still do that no I just don't this on my
arm I'm getting really sleepy
Torey super sneak hidden and she's like
my arm or even when is that yeah or even
when you're sleeping and I've noticed
you've been in the same position since
the last time I woke up yeah I move you
um but in terms of like intimacy you
know cooking the dog oh yeah
like we forget that because for us it's
just completely new yeah talking of duck
so obviously just the lip reads and she
takes the hearing aids out when we go to
bed but sometimes there's still a few
things you want to like say to each
other like Oh remember take the pins out
in the morning cuz I got July we took
for an hour we here to bed and we do not
shut out for an hour yeah yeah yeah you
don't want it to be like oh I've taken
my hearing aid out and I turned off the
light that means we're no longer like
able to communicate because obviously
still got physical touch like yes still
next to each other so we communicate
through vibration so if she I put my mat
my hand in her mouth and then when she
speaks thanks that was great and then if
she speaks I can I can get their
impression of what she's saying
yeah it's just a into my body yeah yeah
exactly
and then sometimes and then I'm like and
then I get but sometimes also I'm like
oh yeah I'm having no chat and then you
just you get right you're just like
saying anything now you're just like
suffocating me yeah I'm like waiting for
her to do it she's like I'm done
no no just leave now
yeah and that to us is completely normal
yeah yeah I forgot about it yeah um yeah
so now I guess intimacy is different but
in times of saying I'm hurting oh do you
worry about hurting me
oh really no okay I think we've been
together for four and a half years now
and it just is the only bits I just
worry about hurting you a bits that you
can fill yeah but also I think you just
have to be just are aware of what you're
doing and you don't hand me hot things
yeah you know that anyone yeah I think
we I think everyone every relationship
you have a different language that have
your own language and the way you
communicate and where you are with each
other is though is very special and well
it's just to that relationship well it's
just finding out that language between
the two of you there we go that is that
good end there we go to become both
laugh oh yes vaguely yes right my love
let's go have a fun day in LA yeah we're
flying back tomorrow in the evening and
then we land on Sunday which is the 2nd
of December 2nd of December and have
down yeah I will officially be in my 30s
yes very weird I'm in my twenties so
yeah what are you sure what we're gonna
do about dates day so anyone who knows
less than a if you can like you know
note this because Lisa I know it's not a
nurse but tweet me yeah me not her she
never looks at Twitter I made her get
Twitter she doesn't look at it well um I
sent a message or a comment on to the
Instagram the Instagram that's what I'm
trying to say the Instagram yeah I say
that because close your eyes everything
I think it's so cool right all right we
love you thank you very much for tuning
in you are great by the way
I've got Christmas much coming soon
and go excited by that tiny you're not
mine it will be out next week no I like
I I helped design it you did yeah check
my Twitter and the community tab where
there would be more information on that
excited hope you'll have a wonderful end
to November huh
see you before the advent yeah she's
good
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