so four steps of the ladder the first one or both of you you see the distance
Bible distance the first step is called your spirituality somebody says
spirituality so this is what both of you meet sorry baby I know you didn't dress
properly we're not ready for this this was kind of on the spot spirituality now
most people they have a problem they're like huh you know what if you meet in
the club unfortunately you can start with spirituality you have to start with
being secularity Lara Lara Dee there's no world like that so God wants you to
meet on the spiritual level first meaning that you have spiritual things
in common spirituality is the first step where you
talk about things that are spiritual I know some people's like well I don't
want to I don't want him to be super spiritual I didn't say super spiritual I
said spiritual what they love God and they love you if you don't start there
and you're afraid of some super spiritual people therefore you start
hating people who are spiritual listen to this if you're young lady listen to
me very carefully Amnon did not care what God had to say not short after he
did not care what Tamar had to feel Tamar said no he didn't care about that
either if a man says no to God he will not respect you either if he doesn't
respect the God who died on a cross for him mark my word you will never have his
respect either and people who walk around say I don't want a super
spiritual I understand that but you don't want somebody who doesn't
Honor God because it's a matter of time he will have no honor for you the first
one is spiritual somebody's is spiritual now the second one this is where you got
to take off your shoes and you this is social somebody say social social is
where you share activities not feelings a lot of people they jump right away
when they start with spiritual and they start sharing their feelings today I
love you heart emojis all I can't live without you
precious you so cute no no no no you need to become friends
you need to find out who you actually have shared common activities that you
enjoy because after the feelings fade away six months into marriage and you
get a stare into your Netflix and fight over the fact that Netflix doesn't have
new TV shows what are you gonna do you gotta have shared activities do you have
things that are in common that you enjoy and after social is where comes the
babies let's try this is emotional this is where it gets slippery emotional is
when you see you this is where the emotional emotional has to be after
engagement why a lot of people get emotional before there is any commitment
a guy says if we get emotional I'll commit and the girl says I will give you
my emotions because you promise to commit that's a bunch of baloney mm-hmm
you gotta be emotional because there was a commitment to spiritual things there
was a commitment to shared activities and emotional is sharing your feelings
not your nudes
people today in our generation I'm just gonna say the way it is people in our
generation today get to this stage and Christians non-christians are uncool
they can do whatever they want but Christians snapchatting their nudes to a
guy I'm like are you completely brain-dead first of all you know that
stuff stays online all the time and next thing that happens the guy's
screenshots that did this happen already many times and then he sends it to me
he sends it to other leaders in the church and says this is person who goes
to your church that person who just requested them becomes your biggest
enemy look how that could never happen to me
Amnon raped Tamar and then got rid of her that's exactly what
happens God doesn't want us the reason why God wants to live pure so he can
protect you share your feelings when engagement happens don't go around
sharing your feelings and then next thing that happened is that there's no
engagement there's no commitment there but you already expressed your feelings
always give in the relationship what you're willing to lose and only after
this comes the marriage which we're not going to demonstrate here because what
happens in marriage stays in marriage
come out somebody
thank you you did it you did it great awesome awesome so what is the first
step what is the first step what is the second one thank you babe
what is the third one what is the fourth one physical amen
number seven lust forces sex love initiates marriage lust gets the Tamar
in the room and says I want you but love gets her in front of the church and says
I do lust buys a condom love buys a ring
condoms are cheap rings are not all of you boys any fool can buy a condom
they sell them right there at the gas station and they're very cheap
a homeless man can buy a condom be a man buy a ring Oh get a job first by the way
it doesn't make you a man with the fact that you can have sex having a penis
doesn't make you a man having principles make you a man
having purity makes sir men having integrity makes you a man
the real man stand up you've got some rays right now
lust lust will take you to the backseat of Honda but love will take you to the
front of the alter lust cannot wait but love true love waits