Have you ever felt like you can sense the emotions of others, even when they are unspoken or hidden?
Have you ever felt like you can understand people on a deeper level than most,
even when they don't understand themselves?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might be an INFJ empath.
An INFJ empath is someone who has the rare and complex personality type of INFJ,
as well as the ability to feel and absorb the emotions of others.
Being an INFJ empath can be a great blessing, as it allows one to connect
deeply with others. However, it is often also a great curse that is rarely spoken about.
So let’s discuss ‘THE CURSE OF BEING AN INFJ EMPATH’
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They have highly sensitive triggers
As deep feelers who can easily pick up on the emotions and energy of those around them,
INFJ empaths often struggle to maintain their own emotional
equilibrium when faced with an onslaught of external stimuli.
This heightened sensitivity, while a gift in many respects, can also be a curse,
as it makes them more susceptible to emotional and mental distress.
An INFJ empaths gifts allows them to deeply understand and connect with the feelings of
those around them, often without even trying. While this trait can foster profound compassion,
it also means these INFJs inadvertently take on the negative emotions and energies of others.
For example; When attending a friend's birthday party at a popular, bustling venue.
As they enter the crowded space, they are immediately confronted with loud music,
flashing lights, and the chatter of animated conversations.
Simultaneously, they sense the myriad of emotions swirling around the room - excitement, joy,
anxiety. The INFJ, with their hightened empathic abilities, may find themselves unintentionally
absorbing these emotions and energies, causing them to feel increasingly overwhelmed.
This gift of empathy therefore becomes a burden, as they struggle to maintain
their own emotional balance amidst the chaos.
They can struggle with setting boundaries
INFJs Empaths have a deep compassionate nature, combined with a strong sense of responsibility.
This can often drive them to prioritize the needs of others over their own well-being.
As a result INFJ empaths are susceptible to extreme emotional exhaustion.
They tend to be more acutely aware of the suffering and pain experienced by others,
and so they can feel compelled to provide assistance,
and it’s this that causes them to sacrifice their own needs.
They can often find it difficult to recognize when they need to step back and self preserve.
For example, an INFJ may have a friend who frequently seeks their support and advice
during difficult times. The INFJ empath, driven by their empathic nature, offers a
listening ear and comforting words, even when they themselves are going through a difficult time.
Over time, the friend may come to rely heavily on the INFJ for emotional support,
inadvertently taking advantage of their kindness and willingness to help.
In this scenario, an INFJ empath may find it hard to set boundaries and express their
own needs, as they might feel gulity causing additional pain or distress to their friend.
They’re often misunderstood
As individuals, INFJ empaths often have perspectives and insights that diverge
from those of the majority - it can be a challenge to
fully comprehend or appreciate their unique way of thinking.
This disconnection can sometimes mean that their empathy,
which is intended to bring people together, becomes a source of tension.
Others often find it difficult relating to the depth and intensity of the emotions
and insights experienced by an INFJ. These empaths possess a
unique ability to perceive and understand the emotions and motivations of others,
often on a level that surpasses the comprehension of those who lack such depth.
A heightened emotional awareness can make it challenging for INFJs to convey their
thoughts to others in a way that is easily grasped or appreciated.
For example, an INFJ might observe a social interraction and recognize
subtle emotional dynamics that others are unaware of or are choosing to ignore.
When the INFJ attempts to share their observations, they may be met with skepticism
or dismissal, as their insights might seem too intricate or nuanced for others to readily accept.
In this scenario, the INFJ's empathic abilities, rather than fostering
understanding and connection, can instead result in feelings of frustration for all involved.
This potential for misunderstanding or rejection can be further exacerbated by
the INFJ's visionary nature, as they often possess a strong drive to enact meaningful
change and pursue ideals that others might view as unrealistic or unattainable.
When their vision is met with resistance or a lack of support, the INFJ may feel
disheartened as their empathy and intuitive understanding of others is again not reciprocated.
They often experience loneliness in social settings
INFJ empath often feel isolation in the world,
even when surrounded by people due to the depth and intensity of their
emotions. While their capacity for empathy allows them to connect deeply with others,
it can also be a curse, as they’re often unable to find people who can relate to them.
INFJ empath have a heightened emotional awareness that is incredibly rare. In
social settings, they can perceive a wide range of energies that others might not appreciate.
This acute sensitivity can make it difficult for INFJs to connect on a superficial level,
leaving them feeling isolated even when surrounded by people.
For example, when woking in a highly competitive corporate environment
where colleagues are often in competition with each other,
and the atmosphere is more focused on individual achievements rather than collaborative efforts.
In this context, an INFJ empath will be more attuned to the emotions and well-being of their
colleagues, sensing underlying tensions, stress, and dissatisfaction among the team members.
However, when the INFJ tries to address these emotional concerns or offer support,
their efforts may be met with indifference, and even dismissal, as others in the environment
might not share the same level of emotional awareness or prioritize the same values.
This lack of understanding can leave an INFJ empath feeling deeply isolated
and disconnected, even though they are surrounded by people.
They experience intense emotional fatigue
While INFJ empaths ability to connect deeply with others and
provide compassionate care is a valuable and admirable trait,
it can also be a curse when it leads to an overextension of their emotional resources.
INFJ empaths have a natural inclination to prioritize the well-being of others over
their own needs. As individuals they are highly attuned to the emotions and struggles of those
around them, and often feel a strong sense of responsibility to provide comfort and support.
However, this constant focus on the needs of others can leave them with
little time and energy to attend to their own self-care and emotional well-being.
For example, an INFJ empath who works in a caring profession such as a therapist
may spend their days listening to the struggles and pain of their clients,
providing empathy and guidance to help them navigate their particular challenges.
While this work can be deeply rewarding and fulfilling for these INFJs,
it can also take a significant toll on their emotional reserves. Over time,
the constant exposure to the pain and suffering of others, can do great harm if not managed.
Their high standards often lead to disappointment
INFJs empath tend to have an incredibly idealistic nature and strong sense of integrity. While these
qualities can drive them to pursue meaningful goals and strive for excellence, they can also
be a curse when they lead to disappointment or frustration when their expectations are not met.
These INFJs high standards and expectations lies primarly in their deep desire to create positive
change and foster understanding and connection in their lives. Their visionary nature and strong
sense of purpose drive them to set ambitious goals for themselves and those around them,
often seeking to elevate others to reach their full potential.
However, this drive for excellence can sometimes
result in unrealistic expectations, which can be difficult to achieve, for anyone.
For example, an INFJ may expect a spouse to be as empathetic and understanding as they are,
believing that this level of emotional intelligence
is necessary for a strong and supportive relationship.
If their partner falls short of these ideals, an INFJ empath will inevitably experience great
disappointment, feeling as though their empathic nature is not being reciprocated or appreciated.
It can be difficult for these INFJs to balance their empathic abilities with more realistic
expectations, and as a result they often fall into the pitfalls of disappointment.
Do you find yourself relating to these struggles. Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.