Hola everyone, welcome back. All of us have some people in our lives you know, friends,
colleagues probably family members who are usually the heart of the party. Everyone loves
to have them around, right? And the party seems to be so much more enjoyable with them
being around. Now I have actually cracked what social skills they have that make them
so likable and people love them so much, so that you don't have to feel left out the next
time you feel like getting some attention. You don't have to be a different person than
who you are but you can always and always borrow these skills whenever you need a little
bit more attention and a little bit more love. So guys, this is me Meera and you are watching
me on Skillopedia where we will learn social skills that will make you more likeable.
Okay guys, so this one thing that people repeatedly say, they say this for a reason, what is this
skill, any guesses? Okay they say that ‘we have two ears and one mouth’. Just one why
that's for a reason that's because we should listen twice more than we speak. As the Dalai
Lama once said, “When you talk you're only speaking what you already know, but if you
listen you may learn something new.” And guys this really caught my attention, so my
brother has this exact same problem of talking continuously and what happened was only when
he entered the corporate world and the professional world he realized the importance of listening
sometimes that's the only time he learned from his seniors and his colleagues. Listen
more carefully and actively and respond instead of just yapping and just talking. Likeable
people actually are listening and responding to what you are saying. Asking questions encouraging
people to tell more things about themselves this is something that is always appreciated.
Also guys tell me something is someone who forgets names quite often, right? Does it
happen to you? Well let me tell you, it is a put off when people do not remember names.
It shows how self-involved you are and how much you don't care this one time I had gone
for an interview where, so they made all of us stand, all the candidates stand in a semi-circle
and each one of us had to introduce ourselves with our name and with our last name and a
little bit of story so our education etc. and the first challenge after introduction
was to name other candidates around us, correctly that is when I realized how important it was
to pay attention to names. It could be friends, it could be customers, it could be clients,
really I understood that day that, oh my god this is going to be make-or-break for my job.
When you know people by their names, if you make them feel special by remembering their
names, call people by their names even when you're in an office environment. So do remember
this point for the next time for an interview or for any general, social gathering.
Here is another thing that you can do and you can make it your social habit if you want.
You can always be the one to cut the interrupter and let the other person finish, how? So I'll
tell you what, we all have been in an awkward situation where someone interrupts our story
and then we keep wondering, will anyone listen to me or not? You can be the bigger person
here just say, “Hey! Can you please finish the car story?” “Can I hear the rest of
the story.” “Hey! You are saying that you kept getting calls from an unknown number,
what happened next? So here you are being the bigger person even if someone else has
interrupted you make sure that the other person doesn't feel left out or tell the person interrupting
with a smile, “Let him finish please it is interesting, right?” This way you will
instantly make the speaker comfortable and they will appreciate that you were listening
to them. This is another skill that people usually really like.
Guys have you ever, ever observed that sometimes when you stand together or in a group or a
semicircle you don't look around and people stand behind your back or at times when people
are talking we only make eye contact with the people we know, right? So if I know two
people I will just be looking at them, has it happened to you? What I'm trying to say
is that include one and all. So be that person who looks around before making others stand
facing your back. When you are making, when you're speaking make eye contact with people
with new people around only then you can actually prove your presence and you can, you can show
that importance to others, right? You need to do these things and these people shine
in social circles more often.
One tricky thing that can instantly make you more likeable that is what? Accepting a compliment
the right way. You know guys what usually happens, right? So your friend says or your
colleague says, “You look beautiful.” And how do you reply to that? “Thanks. You
too.” You know why that happens? That happens because you feel conscious. Suddenly someone
has appreciated you and you don't know what to say or you don't know how to reply to that.
But if you don't compliment and return you think that oh my god that other person will
feel bad about it. So what do you do? You use the most boring way to reply, right? Instead
of keeping some phrases ready in your hand such as, “Oh! You made my day, thank you.”
“You look ten times better than what I do.” “Thank you for making me feel special.”
You know how to make people smile. See guys, even if you don't have you actually haven't
complimented that person you made them feel good about complimenting you, right? Now there
is one more way that works almost every time, do you know what that is? That's to flatter
someone. Yes this is a little bit different from complimenting someone now for example,
“You know a lot about books, how come?” That's a way of asking someone, making them
feel special another one, “It's no joke how you manage home and work at the same time.”
“I'm planning to go for a trip, do you suggest where should I go?” So when you, when you
ask people and when you question them you basically ask them and make them feel more
valuable more important you show that their answers hold a lot of importance in your life.
So when you focus on these small little good things and you question people that actually
flatters them. But the point is you have to keep a genuine and not be fake like, “Oh!
You're the most trustworthy person I have ever met.” Okay I don't think anyone can
do this better something that is so irrelevant you shouldn't do it, keep it relevant, keep
it simple, keep a genuine and this one is for sure a win-win situation for this other
person as well as you.
Okay guys do you know that we have a, so there is a friend of mine who's so charming not
because she wakes up wearing makeup or she wears makeup she actually doesn't need to
wear a makeup, she wears a smile and shows enthusiasm and this energy is so contagious
that automatically it lights up a dull party. This draws people's attention to her. People
spend more time talking to her. People like talking and sharing things with her and they
leave with a beautiful and a nice long smile on their faces. They remember her. Every time
they meet me, they asked me about her and they talk about her charisma. Her energy towards
other people and in that circle as well. So try to incorporate these things in your lives
so that you can you know if you get attention and people do like you socially.
Now we're very confused as to how to end a conversation at times. I have seen this happening
in front of me and there have been so many awkward situations. Imagine just because you
couldn't end the topic well, you had to hang out with that person for the rest of the evening,
right? Isn't that really crazy? So what do you need? You need to go and socialize with
other people as well, right? You cannot just hang around with the same person. You have
to end the conversation on a right note you guys. Again keep some phrases up your sleeve.
I will tell you some the ones that you can use quite often are, “This was great! Glad
I got to speak with you.” Just hint that the conversation is over very, very subtly,
okay in a very subtle manner. “I hope you enjoy the rest of the evening.” “I will
surely remember our talk.” “It was lovely talking to you, Cheers! It is so easy to do
this, don't you think so? Once you know these small phrases and it can leave an amazing
impression about you and seriously who doesn't want that? This shows confidence and a positive
energy that comes from within you.
What you need to do is just apply these simple skills in your social life and just see the
difference. Well they are trendy, they are simple and absolutely adored by everyone,
right? So guys thank you so much for watching this. That is all for the day. I really hope
to see you soon with another such interesting topic until then make sure you're smiling
keep practicing this is me Meera signing off for the day guys. Ciao.