hey guys welcome back i'm in the green office which can only mean one thing this is a sit
down and chat video so it's actually part two of the assumptions rumors video that i did
on my last video grab yourself a drink a snack something and let's get into these questions
some are quite juicy and some are quite funny and some are rude but i've cut as many of them
out as possible you are very insecure about your appearance even though there is clearly no reason
for that well thank you that's very kind of you it's a weird one i don't know i feel like i'd need
to talk this through with someone who specializes in self-esteem issues with your appearance because
on the one hand i feel very comfortable i'm like yeah i feel like i'm handsome like i've got a nice
face and you know i'm happy with the progress i'm making on my body but on the flip side
i can be so critical about myself and i can look in the mirror and just go you're disgusting like
i hate this i hate this about you on my face i hate this i want to change this and about my body
particularly i cannot appreciate the progress i've made over the years which if you don't
know i've been on a big fitness journey i can appreciate where i've come from and where i am now
but i still then compare my where i am now to where i want to be and i'm like i hate my body
i hate it i hate what it looks like i'm i'm i always joke with leah because it's a quote from
something where i'm like i'm a greedy horrible fat bastard and i always say it but i genuinely
feel like that sometimes so yeah it's this weird dichotomy which makes no sense of going
sometimes i feel really great and i'm like yeah i'm handsome i'm great i like myself
but then the other side where i'm so harsh with myself so i don't know what that means but you
are correct but i do i am very critical of my and i think my job doesn't help being on social media
i get torn apart from my appearance all the time and the funny thing is
there can be like a comment where someone's like uh joel is so vain it's so clear how vain he is
and then in the same comment they'll be like his hair transplant did nothing for him and he's got
a horrible nose and he's got wrinkles all over his face and i'm like wait you're calling me vayne and
then pointing out like ugly things about my face so like firstly who's more vain you or me because
you're pointing it out but secondly no wonder no wonder i feel a bit insecure about my appearance
because i get people tearing me apart every day so yeah it's it's ridiculous so the best thing
is just for me to ignore those comments i can't read this one out it's too rude i'm not i know i
said i'd answer everything but oh this person is in response to this story so why is gossip about
you so important you do you who cares what people think i think it's because i put a story up saying
what your assumptions or rumors you've heard about me um i don't care it's just a fun video
which i hope is fun leave a comment down below if you think this video idea is fun
because i mean i'm having fun the next person says you hate heart stopper with a broken heart yeah
i mean heart stopper if you haven't seen it's a netflix series it's an lgbtq plus love story it's
very cute it's about these two boys at high school the thing i like about it is that traditionally if
there was a gay tv show or film it centers on the suffering and the turmoil of them coming to
terms with their sexuality and how hard it is on the extreme side it might be about like hiv and
all of that stuff from the 80s on a lighter side it might just be someone struggling to come out
to their parents so i like the fact that heart stopper isn't really that like it's just like
this story about gay guys and it's just normalized and i love that however it's just too sickly sweet
i just can't relate to it because i'm like well actually in my life i did have quite a bit of
struggles with coming to terms with my sexuality so i'm happy for you that you've had a really
easy journey but i actually don't want to watch like a really easy breezy love story cutesy wooty
i'm like i can't bear that i want a bit of struggle i want a bit of turmoil because that's
what i can relate to but maybe kids nowadays don't relate to that struggle so i don't know
but i don't hate it i just thought why is everyone raving about it like it's the best tv show ever
i'm like it's definitely not that said if i get a role in heartstopper season 2 my views will change
you're a lovely human being well thank you tracy i feel like i'm a lovely human being again like
i said some people think i'm not but they're ironically or maybe unironically they're people
that don't know me so yeah everyone who knows me i think would say that i'm a lovely person but maybe
i'm a dick for saying that you don't like chubby guys you like them as a friend but not sexually
i don't know it's it's a it's a really hard topic because around everything to a sexual attraction
because i feel like we live in a culture now where you can't be unattracted to anyone because
it's like you have to you have to be attracted equal opportunity to everyone and that's just
never going to be the case like i'm not attracted sexually to women and never will be and women
shouldn't get offended by that because it's not something i can change yes i tend to go for fitter
more muscular guys i don't know why that could be to do with my own issues that i'm projecting
totally and i'm not saying i'm right for thinking this but yeah i would never judge anyone for being
overweight like ever i've been there myself and your weight literally has no meaning behind your
value as a human being i know also some of you will be watching this the reasonable ones going
well of course you're not attracted to everyone but it really honestly feels like like when i've
said that you know i'd never date anyone over a certain age and they're like you're ageist
and i'm like no like i just sorry i don't want to date a 70 year old man there's nothing wrong
with being a 70 year old man i'd probably have a great friendship with a 70 year old man but sorry
i'm not attracted to a 70 year old man i'm not attracted to women i'm not like do you know what
i mean maybe i should cut this out the video but i said i would answer every question that isn't
super sexual rumor is you aren't wearing any bottoms in this video write another rude one
um you prefer to be the little spoon no actually i prefer to be big spoon
i don't like being touched very much in bed if someone's holding me in bed i can't fall asleep
weirdly if i'm the big spoon and i'm holding them i can fall asleep i don't know what's going on
there but yeah you were the one who ended the relationship with your last boyfriend not him
i mean i don't know if that's a secret i don't think it is but yeah i did end it
i mean it's because of his actions but uh yeah i suppose yeah i was the one that was like nope
i assume you own the entire taylor swift song catalogue well i don't own anything because
of the nature of music nowadays like you just have spotify don't you and stuff like that so
yeah i actually don't own any taylor swift music but i would like to get a vinyl record of like
taylor swift's albums and like display it one day judy said i assume you met the queen right
i haven't met her one-on-one but i've been in multiple places with her at the same time and
i've seen her from a distance um yeah i've never met her you're moving to nashville for the winter
i'd love that i'd love that i definitely want to go back to nashville like in the next year
i don't know if that's possible it probably won't be with leah either because we've already filmed
there so there'll be no point going there again to film but as a social trip i'd love to go again i
assume you know way more about american culture than you let on i think so i think i do i think
i've said this before i think the nature of the those two brits channel that i'd have with leah
is that we're inquisitive about american culture and we've been doing it for so long now that we
do know quite a bit about it and that doesn't make for that an entertaining video to have to know it
all sitting down being like yeah i know everything about america so naturally our videos take the
take the story of like we want to know more about this and to be honest there's still a lot we
don't understand about the us and so that comes from a genuine place but sometimes you're right
sometimes we play up to it and we deliberately say things that are wrong just for the fun of it
um in the same way that when we were i think we're in l.a and we got talking to someone that worked
at a sweet shop he said something about friends the tv show friends and we just for the fun of
it were like oh we've never heard of it it was like you've never heard of friends and we're
like no no we don't have it in the uk and he was mind blown we do have it in the uk we just for
some reason just enjoy causing mayhem i assume you walk around the house shirtless just to show off
no honestly i as i said i am proud of what i've achieved with my body however like i'm not that
confident i won't go around topless in front of lucy if i can avoid it i just don't i just
don't feel confident with my top off the day i feel confident taking my top off and i mean
the day that happens you will see a photo of it on instagram so follow me on instagram because
that is a goal of mine it's actually not a vanity thing in the like i'm like oh i want to have a hot
photo shoot and have rippling abs and stuff it's just i want to feel comfortable enough whatever
my body looks like i want to feel comfortable in that body to take my top off around people
i would just love i don't know what that's like i've grown up you know in church youth group
where we go to a field and we're praying for it we're praying for a spring we're not praying for
frisbee we're playing frisbee and all the guys take their tops off naturally because that's what
guys tend to do uh free the nipple i'm joking um no i actually do i've never done that and
in fact at school i used to in summer keep on my polo shirt and my fleece done all the way up and
i'd be sweating but i'd rather sweat under under a fleece than take it off and wear a t-shirt even at
that stage so yeah i've had a lot of body issues and those aren't going to go away any time soon so
yeah it's just something i have to deal with you're a lot more muscular in real life than you
than you appear to be online well i don't know because i'm me obviously but what i will say
is i have noticed that like i remember there's a guy alex crockford who i followed for a long time
and um he's in really good shape and to be honest he was always been he's always been
like my body goals i'm like he's the perfect physique for me personally where i'm like he's
not super muscular but he is very defined i'd like that appearance then i met him in person
and i was like oh my gosh you're so much bigger and more muscular in person like in photos he does
he has got muscles obviously but i just assumed he was quite a slight frame you know quite he
was very ripped but just not super bulky but oh my gosh in person he's really bulky he's a lot bigger
and i've noticed that with a lot of people online where they look a lot more muscular in person and
so yeah maybe that's true maybe i am more muscular in person but um yeah it's i don't feel it i don't
feel the benefit of it because i never take my top off or do anything you are tenderhearted in a
healthy way i think i'm tenderhearted yeah i mean i definitely i'm i'm er on the side of being quite
sensitive i do think i'm a sensitive person and i am like i said i think i am quite kind and at the
same time i will be honest so yeah but i think you have to be honest i think being honest is a kind
quality so yeah i don't know joel is well off financially um again this is a really difficult
one to answer because well off means something different for loads of people and so i would say
no i'm not well off because my version of well off is someone who can buy whatever they want whenever
they want and doesn't have to look at the price or worry and that's not the case with me however i'm
aware that i'm very privileged that i own a house in london i've got a nice dog a nice car i there
are certain things where i don't quibble with the price tag but i would say if anything's over 50
pounds then i'm like oh let me wait a second and just think about this but yeah if something's 20
quid i'm very lucky that i don't need to worry about that and i'm on amazon like i need it so
whatever but yeah i don't know what that means am i well off am i not but um what i will say is this
year has been very very quiet for me last year was incredible financially did really really well last
year this year it's been like this it's been awful so yeah right now i am a little bit worried about
money but that is why being self-employed you have to be good at when you're earning a decent
amount of money that you're saving firstly saving enough for tax because you get taxed once a year
it doesn't get taken out your paychecks but secondly because you can have times like this
where are you really quiet where i haven't had a voiceover job for like seven eight months so it's
yeah it is quite difficult i don't know if that helps but yeah i'm not a millionaire i'm not even
a hundred thousand there i'm literally nothing so i would say i do okay um but i'd say i do
averagely compared to a young professional in london i think you seem lovely and don't listen
to the haters thank you i think i'm lovely but yeah i'm biased i'm me joel and lucy are married
to each other imagine that imagine the scandal of me and lucy actually being married we're
not married but we are technically married lia's my work wife lucy's my home life wife
um but yeah i assume that you that you are a great big sweetheart don't worry about what people say
thank you i'm glad i'm glad there are people out there that i think sometimes i get
people saying like when i show the hate that i sometimes get online on my stories on instagram
i'll get people replying being like oh my gosh i have no idea that you got this sort of hate
and i think some people don't leave nice comments they don't leave any comments because they think
i don't need it and they're like oh like he won't reply to me or he doesn't need the ego boost but
honestly and every single nice comment means the world to me because it outweighs the hatred
that i get which i should say the hatred probably accounts for like three percent of my comments on
social media the other 97 are lovely but you know what it's like you could have one i could
have a hundred amazing comments in a day have one negative and all your focus on is that negative
so the more lovely comments the better so if you're a ghost viewer you don't have to
compliment me down below that's cringe i'm not asking you to say joe you're amazing i love you
but just say really enjoyed this video enjoyed your answer to that it makes me feel like i'm
doing my job properly so um yeah i appreciate all of the messages and comments that i get so thank
you so much you spend too much money on your dog i would say so yeah i mean i definitely don't buy
regular things for her but i do spend money like i worked out in a video i did i think i did the
cost of owning a dog in 2020 or something i worked out i think i paid about 70 pounds a month for her
but as she gets older it's only going to be more and more and more because insurance will go up and
some health issues will probably come up so um yeah and i do put her on really good quality food
so i do spend a bit of money on her you're secretly a true crime content junkie tend to
be suspicious of people and niagara falls yeah i was so suspicious of niagara falls wasn't i
if you haven't seen that video it's on the those two brits channel we went to niagara and i was
like i do not trust anyone here and i get a bad feeling about this town it's really cool
fun video but no i don't i'm not really into true crime like you know those people that listen to
true crime podcasts youtube videos documentaries i've never really paid much attention to them
but i do love a good ghost story and not even ghost story but like a story of murder of disaster
i do enjoy that so i suppose i am in a way but i've just never got into the true crime genre
i just enjoy it when i learn about it through someone else or when my friend tells me a story or
do you know what i mean maybe i should get into it another rude one not gonna answer that
um joel hates me and thinks i'm ugly no that's not true thank you guys so much for watching i
hope you enjoyed it i do enjoy doing some of these sit down videos especially after i've
done you know i've done a lot of out and about videos recently and it's nice to just sit down
in front of you guys and just having a little chat so let me know if you enjoyed this video
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