I remember when I wanted to get into the real estate businesses, I shared the idea with
my friends.
It was around midnight and we were having drinks and just chatting.
And everyone was just talking about what he is working on and how his life is moving on.
And when it was my turn, I told them what I was planning to do (which I shouldn’t
have) but I did anyway.
And in the next half an hour, my friends gave me thousands of reasons, why it's a bad idea.
The industry is so competitive and you are completely inexperienced and you think you
can go out there and achieve something, you must be kidding.
Well, I said that I have a plan and I genuinely believe that it might work out!
What kept happening is that I kept explaining why me getting into the real estate business
is a good idea!
I mean, I didn't have to but for some weird reason I kept on explaining.
as if I needed their permission!
Or as if they wouldn’t approve it, I will never be able to start
And to be honest, It wasn’t the first time when I was trying to prove that I am actually
doing the right thing!
When I look back at it now, it looks absolutely dumb, What on earth I was thinking about?
why would I desperately explain to others my actions!
And I am confident that you have been in similar situations before.
Whether you acted awkwardly and you wanted to explain your awkward behavior or you just
wanted to do something unusual.
We have the need to be accepted by society, so we want to be understood by the people
around us.
Whenever we feel like we have been misunderstood, we try our best to fix that.
And it's not entirely our fault, We have been toughed to explain ourselves since we were
little kids.
When you are just a kid, you are basically told how you should live by your parents,
teachers and so on.
But every now and then, we get curies and do - let's say - unusual things, however,
since we are accountable at the end of the day to our parents, we always find ourselves
explaining our actions.
I remember, Every time I would have a fight back in school, first I would have to explain
myself to the principle of the school and then to my parents back at home.
And if you have strict parents, you probably have experienced that more than anyone else.
And now as grown-up adults, we kept that habit of explaining ourselves.
Mostly because we are afraid to be judged. we are not confident of who we are!
We feel like if we don't explain the reasons behind our actions we might be deeply misunderstood.
So, Let me share with you a little secret - You Don't Have To Explain Yourself.
Even, if you did something totally awkward.
the truth is, no one really cares!
I mean people are busy with their own lives, and when they see you doing some nonsense,
they probably don't give as much damn as you think.
I understand that its not easy to get rid of this habit since you have had it for most
of your life and you will feel uncomfortable in the beginning, but as you practice it more
and more, people will start respecting your actions because you, not some kind of a douchbags
who gets influenced by everyone's opinion and is trying to seek everyone's approval.
That doesn’t mean you should stop sharing with people your ideas or opinions or whatever
and turn into an asshole, feel free to have deep fulfilling conversations where you share
your ideas and opinions .
But Never explain yourself when you feel like if you don't, you will be judged.
People will hear whatever they want, they will understand it they want it, so don't
waste your time trying to be accepted!