hello so in this video we're going to look at how to beat driving anxiety i'm going to show you how
it doesn't work that people think it does because i can promise you now this video was surprised a
lot of people i was going to say shock it will shock and surprise people especially if you're
a therapist because what i reveal to you in this video is going to be really surprising it's going
to be the complete opposite of what most people think happens when you go for therapy to get rid
of driving anxiety and i'm also going to show you over here how it really works now just before we
get going i'd like to point out that one problem already is you don't actually beat driving anxiety
you don't actually destroy the problem but that is for another video that's a big misconception
in itself but in this one let's get looking at how it doesn't work so most people when they've
got a fear of driving will go along to a therapist and i've already made videos explaining why cbt
doesn't work why exposure therapy doesn't work all other kinds of therapy they often fail but when
people go along for hypnotherapy this is what they think is going to happen so what they think is
they're going to go and see the hypnotherapist and they'll tell you to relax and that you feel
sleepy let me tell you right now if you go for hypnotherapy and they tell you to relax
anytime they use that word relax they don't know what they're doing it's nothing to do
with relaxing and being sleepy and you get these tracks on youtube where people say
you're feeling relaxed and you feel tired and you get idiots swinging a pocket watch in front
of people's faces saying you feel sleepy you feel tired like hypnosis has got nothing to do
with being relaxed and sleepy this is nonsense from people who don't know what they're doing
and i'm going to explain briefly about where this comes from the greatest hypnotherapist of
all time is a man called dr milton erickson but when he worked with people they often looked as
though they were relaxed and sleepy so everyone who looks in for me at his work from the outside
just says oh look all of his clients were relaxed and sleepy so just tell them relax relax relax you
feel sleepy you feel tired this is drivel this is nothing to do with hypnotherapy so straight away
you've made a massive mistake and let me go on to the next point and you'll see the next mistake
they'll tell you to enter a relaxing state of hypnosis
there are two different states of hypnosis yes there is a relaxing one and yes you can just relax
and yes you might fall asleep but that isn't going to do anything
because think about it right if it was just about relaxing and falling asleep as you thought
about your problem then why doesn't the problem just go when you go to bed and sleep overnight
because this is nonsense this is not what you do and the next stage this is where it really
goes wrong they read you a script so most therapists by far and i'm talking over 99
here think that what you do and this is not their thought is because they were trained in this way
i was trained like this and i was trained by one of the top people apparently in the uk
they were on the board of the nch now the nch stands for the national council for hypnotherapy
or as i call it no clue hypnotherapists because they haven't got a clue what they are doing this
is what they teach you because this is why i think therapy is and this is what everyone
thinks hypnotherapy is and it's not this is what it really is you'll see in a moment and when you
find out how it truly works it blows your mind when you realize it's nothing to do with all
this rubbish so when they read your script then this is like when people say to me i've been to
a board registered hypnotherapist all that means is they haven't got a clue what they're doing
because they read you a script that's what they're trying to do and a script is when
people have done another video on scripts which you can watch but um they just read you a story
from the book and it will say something like this you are feeling calm and you are driving your car
and as you drive your car and you're feeling so calm and relaxed you see a magical unicorn and the
unicorn winks at you and you can drive and you can drive and you can drive and a magical waterfall
passes you on your left and a fish jumps out of the waterfall and says you can drive
but a load of rubbish that is nothing to do with anything because if you watch my videos before
you'll know driving anxiety has nothing to do with driving so why are they talking about unicorns and
fish jumping out waterfalls it's nonsense the next thing people get wrong is i think they're
going to wake up or you don't wake up because you're not asleep to begin with feeling different
don't think they're going to wake up feeling fixed wake up fixed feeling different nonsense
sometimes some people do sometimes people will say oh you know what i feel a bit different but you
don't just wake up and suddenly everything's fixed and you're a different person and you can run out
and get in a car and drive seconds after a session this is nonsense but this is what people expect
and the last thing is people just think they're gonna drive instantly without any problems
this is rubbish because remember driving isn't the problem anyway driving anxiety has nothing
to do with driving so you're not even fixing the driving so while i know the rubbish this is
this is not how it works you don't relax and feel sleepy go into this magical state of hypnosis
get read a story about unicorns and fish and waterfalls wake up feeling different then drive
and this is what people who charge 50 pounds an hour do or 100 pounds an hour and if you're abroad
because i work with people all over the world i'll give you a quick hint now and this is for another
video because there's so much to say about this but if you pay anything less than 200 pounds an
hour you will get this rubbish okay anyone who's charging 50 pounds 100 pounds an hour you'll get
drivel that's why i charge these stupid low prices if you don't think that's a low price but again
that is for another video but i can promise you if you did this properly costs a lot more than that
so this is how it really works and one reason it costs more is because people such as myself
who've actually trained properly this is full time for me i spend all day
training practicing with other therapists it's a full-time job just to be able to do what i'm
about to tell you and i'll tell you now this is going to baffle any therapists watching this
if you're watching this and you'll remember one of these hypnotherapy associations and you think you
know what you're talking about this is going to blow your mind this is how it really works and i
want to see how different it is to what people think it is we talk and you fix the problem
i'm not going to tell you to relax i'm not going to say you feel sleepy we just talk and you fix it
because the problem is over here these idiot therapists who don't know what they're doing they
think that they fix you by reading you a story or telling you to go back to your childhood and
relive something it's nonsense you have been you for your whole life so who knows more about you
than you do no one i mean i remember years ago someone told me this i said you know when you
go and see a doctor do you know who the world's leading expert is on you and i say well it's you
because you know more about you than anyone so i can't fix the problem for you no therapists can
the ones who think they can are the ones that fail because no therapist can fix your problem for you
and if you ask people who have had sessions with me and you'll even see this in my reviews and
testimonials people say i haven't got a clue what he did and people email me sometimes for
months after a session saying paul what did you do because all we seemed to do was talk
but i can drive and i've been through 20 years of therapy i worked with so many we had 40 years
of therapy and in two sessions he'd fix the problem that you'd spend 40 years working on
with experts apparently um psychologists and doctors they don't understand that we just
talk and as you can tell talking is something i'm good at because i was a driving instructor
for over 20 years that's the massive advantage i've got we just talk and you fix the problem
notice how you fix the problem and then and this is going to really baffle people i'll tell you
this will really put the cat among the pigeons do you know what you do after you fix the problem
then you go into hypnosis now that's going to confuse people because i bet you
pretty much everyone watching this part of my friends and colleagues that i train with
or think that you go into hypnosis then you fix it well you don't you actually fix it first then
hypnosis comes after and i bet that's going to have people scratching their head saying well
that can't be right how does that work because this is what works and this is what doesn't work
this is what masters do this is what true artistic hypnotherapists do not this rubbish
this fake nonsense notice the difference you enter a therapeutic state of hypnosis
not a relaxing one if you want to relax great relax if you want therapy aim for a therapeutic
state the next thing is this is going to blow your mind as well they read you a script what
do i do and i promise you this is going to have people scratching their heads and thinking how
does he do this this is what really gets people do you want to see the massive secret because when
i reveal this next bit of text this is going to show you the massive biggest secret i can
probably share with you in this video do you know what i do in a session here we go three two one
i'll say and do nothing
yeah that's gonna have people baffled i just say nothing and i'll see in silence sometimes
i've been in silence for an hour just sitting looking at someone and i'm not doing anything
that's going to confuse you if you've seen that all this blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah
blah blah blah blah blah blah and unicorns and ponies magic wands blah blah blah wizards you
i'm just going to start nothing
that's how you do it after we've done that you may feel different may
because what you're going to remember is something called processing you don't wake up with the
problem fixed it takes at least a few hours for it to fix sometimes a few weeks scientifically
can take up to eight weeks do you mind to make all the change sometimes it can be months longer
now i've only be a year i had somebody once i worked with we did a session
and they said i don't think you were nothing happened just sent me an email
nine months later saying it worked i woke up this morning and it all just clicked
nine months sometimes not right not often it's normally within a day or two but you don't just
wake up feeling a different person feeling like a different person i should say and the last one
is this is another big one these people think he just drives any problems
remember the driving has got nothing to do with driving anxiety so your life changes over time
remember the driving isn't the problem anyway so let's just say your problem was a relationship
thing you may find your relationships improve to begin with and then your confidence improves and
then weeks later then your driving changes because remember this isn't a problem anyway this is a
symptom of something else so sometimes people were with me and have said it's really weird
because my driving doesn't got any better but i feel much happier and i'm sleeping better
and my relationships are getting better and i'll say just keep waiting keep waiting it clicks in
because your life changes over time please don't tell me you honestly believe
you can just have driving anxiety for 20 years and fix it in one hour 50 pounds with this rubbish
this is how you do it we talk about the problem but you fix it once you've already fixed it then
you go into hypnosis i say and do nothing you might feel different and then your life changes
that is how a true master works how different it is let me give you this it's nothing to do
with relaxing or driving anytime you go see a therapist and they start talking about
relax relax you're feeling calm and tired get your money back they don't know what they're doing
you may talk about driving initially yes we do talk about it because that's what you've come
for but i can promise you as anyone who's at a session with me will tell you you very quickly
get away from driving and within five minutes of the conversation starting something else would
have come up and we go off and we talk about other things and this is how therapy works
check out these other videos on the screen now for more help with your fear of driving
and if you like to welcome me one to one just contact me through my website
1stdrive.com thanks for watching and as always i'll see you again soon for more videos