the porn promise what porn promises you and how it cannot live up to that promise I'm Dr
Trish Lee and in this video number one I want to talk about what porn promises you number two
I want to share with you how you can create a new promise to yourself so that you can rock out your
best life and be able to keep that promise alright so what does porn promise you it's
different for all people and really the promise of porn is what you make of it it's perception
it's what you need and that's different for all people I know what you're thinking I just
need the sex Dr Trish well I'm sorry to tell you porn has nothing to do with sex yes it's
the avenue to give you the dopamine Deluge that your brain is looking for but porn has
everything to do with love and nurturing and intimacy and honestly it's the lack thereof
so when you gravitate towards porn you will gravitate towards the type that fills a need
a hole in your soul your nervous system has a need that's what it's going there for yes
it has the need to be aroused and stimulated and calmed down and soothed all at once and that helps
the pendulum affect brain pattern of too much fast speed and too much slow speed but I want
you to think about the type of porn that you're watching and if you really analyze it at a little
bit deeper level what is it that it's making you feel like you have is it control or is it lack of
control where you can just be free is it love from your mother a lot of times there's mother issues
wrapped up in porn right think about who is the most beautiful most awesome first woman that a
little boy wants love and nurturing from from it's his mom and a lot of times if you didn't
get that from your mom you'll go to porn in a really distorted way to get the intimacy and
the love and the nurturing that you didn't get sometimes it goes back to your relationship with
your father and if you didn't have a strong role model you might gravitate towards the men in porn
so it's different for all people but I want you to think about what role what promise is it giving
you what is it trying to give you that you need and you're getting in an unhealthy way because
that leads us to number two number two is you can make a new promise to yourself porn is literally
damaging your brain it is decreasing functioning try to say that functioning in your frontal lobe
it's knocking out that functioning and it's desensitizing the reward center in the middle
of your brain so you're looking for love nurturing and intimacy but you're harming yourself so it's
self-soothing that's becoming self-sabotaging when you make a new promise to yourself that you're
gonna figure out the need of your brain and you're going to serve it in a new healthy way so it might
be giving and getting hugs from your mother from your partner from your children it might just
be going out to dinner with your friends once a week and connecting the connection that you need
it might be creating new healthy communication so you're not filled with resentment and hatred and
anger and you want to see that portrayed on the screen because you can't communicate it yourself
because you won't allow yourself to do that there's a need in there find that need and make a
new promise to yourself because when you serve the need in a healthy way guess what you won't need to
go into the screen anymore the need won't be there so that's my challenge for you today make a new
promise to yourself and keep it if you want help in doing that please reach out Dr trishly.com my
90-day program is suited and designed to bring you through the process from beginning to committed
and on your way to a healthy relationship with the screen leaving porn behind and getting on purpose
in your life in your work your relationships and your hobbies so you can be you all right I
hope to see you in the program and until next time control your brain or it'll control you