I get mad and frustrated with Ron
because he just wants more and more money
all the time.
Ron needs a job to support his habits.
I had a summer job at 15.
I was washing dishes and I only was getting paid
like 100 dollars every two weeks
which is not enough to support my lifestyle.
Basically after four weeks of working there I quit
'cause I got tired of being told what to do.
My son Ronald, he tries to sneak little ways
to get more money.
Like if he takes out the trash
or tidying up around the house,
he feel as though he gotta be paid extra
for each individual thing.
Oh you need to pay me for this,
you need to pay me for that.
I do laugh because it's like
why do I have to pay you to do your chores?
Now Ronald says he uses retail therapy
to make himself better because his mom
is always at work.
But is he willing to take a smaller allowance
or no allowance
so she doesn't have to work as much?
No I'm not.
She's gonna work more to raise my allowance.
Ain't nothing wrong with that.
When you do graduate high school
at the end of the year,
your allowance will be cut off.
Oh no, oh no.
You're gonna have to work oh no, oh no no.
(audience applauding) I don't know why
you all clapping.
No, no.
That's not gonna happen.
I can't.
Let me ask you something.
You're living in a small bedroom in your house
and he's in the master suite.
Who pays for this house?
I do.
But you put him in the master suite
and you go down the hall and live in the smaller bedroom.
Why is that?
What did you say to yourself to make that okay?
Well, I gave him the bigger room
because he has a lot more clothes than I do.
I just let him take the bigger room
with all his clothes and I took the smaller room.
And my question is why?
I don't know Dr. Phil 'Cause I'm the king.
I just need help with re parenting
as far as this whole situation with Ron.
Oh help's here.
Yeah, help's here.
I really do Oh help is here.
Okay.
Yeah, help is here.
You know he's been writing in, actually.
He wrote to me on March 3 of this year.
He says, "My mom thinks I have a spending
and attitude problem.
I want her to stop picking on me.
I feel like she doesn't want me to have
a normal teenage life.
Every time I try to go out with my friends
she always wants to know where I'm going
and who I'm going with."
Yes.
"I just want Dr. Phil to talk to my mom
and get us on better terms
as far as our relationship
and see if he can get my allowance raised."
No, no, it's gonna happen Allowance is not
gonna happen, and I feel as though we would have
a better relationship if he can
learn to save money more and spend less.
And we do normal things like a family
like go out to the movies, dinner.
I can spend more time with him.
He wrote the next month and he says,
"I live with my mom and my little sister."
And he says, "I want to help and stop this drama
and to make my mom raise my allowance."
He wrote in June, says,
"I went shopping with my friends
and I went to the Gucci store
and bought a pair of $500 shoes and she got mad."
Yes, his spending is out of control.
"I also feel like my allowance should be raised
because $400 every two weeks is not cutting it."
It's not.
"She thinks she can control me
and the way I spend my money."
Yeah, my money.
Once she give me my allowance that's my money.
I get to do That's right
whatever I want with it. Once she gives it to you,
it's yours.
Once you give it to him it's his.
Yes.
Until you give it to him, it's yours.
Yes.
(audience applauding)
Don't clap, don't clap.
'Cause here's how much money you have.
You get your allowance at her discretion.
The woman you send down the hall
to live in a small bedroom.
Yeah, that's right.
She can cut it off, she can turn it on.
She can take it down. No, that's not gonna happen.
Yes I can.
'Cause your credit card will end up missing so...
I'm sorry?
Her credit card will end up missing.
He stole my credit card
and charged up three to 400 dollars.
You know there's a term that describes that behavior.
It's called felony.
Yes.
(audience applauding)