Hi, and welcome!
I'm Nadine Piat from Healthy You, Healthy Love.
And today we're going to be talking about a really interesting topic because it's one
of those things that women do that they don't realize that they're doing that they can mistake
for being a little bit sort of funny and playful can actually turn men off.
This is something that makes you seem somewhat desperate to men, needy and not someone who
is confident.
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So let's get into it, what is this thing women do that can make men kind of pull away and
want to escape from being around you.
This thing is that some women do, what I call hanger-on.
They hang on longer than necessary, regularly in a way that it becomes sort of needy when
I spend time with a man.
And this hanger-on behavior can happen via text messages, it can happen on a call, it
can happen when they’re face to face.
So this is what a kind of hanger on behavior looks like.
So for example you're just been on a date with a guy, he's dropping you off at your
house and instead of giving him a quick kiss goodnight and getting out of the car and smiling
and walking away, you stay in the car as long as you can you kiss him for as long as you can,
you keep talking about stuff.
You don't sort of have that ability to just playfully end a date and get out of the car.
You're hanging on for as much as you can get, how much time as you can get, as much affection
and attention you can get.
Another way women hanger-on is by texting.
You’re never the first one to stop the text, you’re always texting back asking more questions,
always the last one to send the last text or most of the time.
You don't know when to sort of end the play in the conversation, you still want more.
This can also take place in the bedroom, so for example you're the last one to get out
of bed in the morning, you always want to cuddle more, or you're the one pulling your
boyfriend back into bed trying to stop him from getting his day started.
Or you're even sort of wanting to sleep more, snooze more, not get moving as much as other
people do.
So you're always hangering on there.
And it doesn't always have to be about getting attention from your boyfriend, you just seem
to be a bit slow with getting moving in your life in general perhaps.
If this sounds anything like you then please know that it's ok to do this from time to
time.
It can be playful it can be fun
time and yet there are times when someone does this very regularly and it can start
to feel like pressure, neediness, like that person for the other person, doesn't seem
to be getting their life started, that they're always wanting more, they're never satisfied.
So to help you break this cycle I want to share with you reasons why this could be happening
and how to change it so that you can captivate and allure your man and keep him interested
rather than turn him off.
So the number one reason which I kind of touched on earlier is that you think it's cute.
Now it is cute, pulling your boyfriend back into bed before he goes to work for an extra
kiss or snuggle can be cute.
Pretending not to want to get out of the car after your date or you know leaning in for
another kiss, again, that can be cute except when it's not.
It can become nauseating, it can feel like someone's leeching all the time, extra time,
extra energy.
It can feel like that person doesn't have a life,when that happens it's no longer cute.
The next point is number two, you don't feel fulfilled enough, you don't feel like you're
enough.
And this is the reason why you always hanger-on or do more so than is kind of healthy because
you're looking for external validation.
You're hoping that someone outside of you is going to make you feel better about yourself,
more love, more wanted, more needed.
And the fact is, is that when you have this mindset, when you're looking outside of yourself
to feel complete, you're never going to feel fully complete.
Sure, a healthy relationship can help you heal some of that insecurity yet most of the
time this work needs to be done by you.
And by trying to go outwards you only drain the other person.
You can't expect someone else to fill those holes in your cup.
Now to help you with this, I have a powerful quiz called the Four Romantic Love Syndromes
and this quiz reveals what blocks you might be experiencing subconsciously even that may
be blocking you from experiencing this deep intimacy and to feel confident with men.
The link is right below in the description so please check it out after this video.
Now the next reason why you hanger-on with men is because you don't understand and appreciate
the value of mystery and intrigue.
Men love a little bit of mystery and intrigue and so do women as well.
So when you hanger-on you don't allow any mystery and intrigue, it's very clear how
you feel and where a man stands with you.
Now there is nothing wrong with this, I'm all about healthy dating and relationships.
And yes you can still add a little bit of spice and mystery into dating when you don't
always hanger-on.
Because when you hanger-on, as I said before, it can come across as needy.
So when you add that little bit of mystery like it get out of bed a little bit quicker,
you get out of the car a little sooner and when you playfully tease your partner then
you create a little bit of tension, you create a little bit of wonder which is really amazing
to keep a relationship alive and thriving and to keep the passion alive.
This has nothing to do with manipulation, this is just about being playful in a different
way.
So cutting things a little shorter, getting out of bed, being playful about what you got
on for your day, walking out of the door with a cheeky smile and saying see you later is
far better than always rushing in for another kiss, always feeling that he's leaving firs,
that he has to drag you out of the house, push you out of the car.
That isn’t sexy if he's doing it over and over again.
So break the cycle by adding some mystery into the relationship.
Now the next reason why, is that you may not actually have a lot of interest of your own.
One of the biggest mistakes women and also men make in a relationship is that they can
lose their sense of self.
They give up their passions, they give up the things that bring them joy into their
life because they want to spend so much time with their partner.
They don't want to miss out on quality time and I know time is precious without partners.
I know that some of us live very busy intense lives and sometimes we just want to spend time
with our partner.
And this is absolutely fantastic if your life is very busy and you're trying to make time
for each other.
But don't do that at the expense of your own interests and passions.
When you do that you become a doormat in a relationship.
When you do that you often lose your sense of self, often resentment can build.
And because of that you tend to lose your sense of self and resentment can also build,
sometimes on both sides but mostly sometimes within yourself.
Because you start to feel angry that you're not feeling fulfilled and you're actually
expecting all of your life to be fulfilled in the one relationship when in actual fact
you've taken your eye off your own ball of your own heart's desires and you actually
lost that sense of inner joy.
So please don't forget to engage in those things that you love, it can be anything from
crafts, painting, I love to paint.
It can be dancing, it can be group sport, it can be learning a language, it can be anything.
So please don't forget that part of you and then that will ease that hanger-on energy
because you'll be more motivated about your own life outside of the relationship which
actually allows the relationship to be more interesting, to be more connected and to create
that mystery which I mentioned earlier.
So please if you do struggle with this, please know that you are worthy, you are valuable
and that you deserve a partner who is committed to you and yet you don't need to hanger on
to get the love that you deserve.
Now to help you with this further, to really dig deep into your insecurities and your fears
and your feelings of worth and value around relationships and intimacy, please check out
my program Never Lose Him.
There is so much powerful information in that program.
I teach you exactly how to build your worth, how to captivate men on that deeper level,
how to show up with the men empowered in a way that makes dating, relationships and commitment
so easy.
So please do check that out, the link is right below in the description.
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