do so anyway
I had this the superiority over the weekend reading list
article in NYTimes it was just like one of these forehead slap so I was like how
could I have missed this for all these years
and and why didn't any of my gay friends ever point this out to me I mean how
I mean literally how can I have missed this first
this followed did this survey and he found that
his estimate of five percent American men are gay
okay and on Facebook
you can say the what's what gender you're interested in seeing Sam a man
managed in Manorama man ammunition went so you can
in a baby out or not and we found was that
in the red states and the states that are hostile to being gay where they
don't have gay marriage in things like that
it was around 1 percent at whereas in california's 13 percent States word you
had gay marriage that were not hostile to gays
13 percent so there's more guys in the closet in the red states
number one and he had a whole bunch a different you know craigslist ads are
kinda stuff
the casual encounters
actually height the highest percentages UHV ads on Craigslist looking for
gay casual encounters are in Kentucky Louisiana Alabama
because those guys are
the other deeper in the closet so they're more likely to
use Craigslist so now he says
but sometimes even I get tired of looking and aggregate data this is a
South State Stevens didn't do that awaits
says a psychiatrist in mississippi who specializes in helping closeted gay man
if enables patients might want to talk to me one man contacted me
the sky was in his sixties is retired professor he's been married the same
woman for forty years
as he looks to the rest the world like a straight man and he had
only about ten years ago in his fifties come to his therapist
and finally basically admitted anybody that he was attracted to men
now here's the
here's the sentence that
just knock me over he has always known he was attracted to men he says
but thought that that was normal and something that men hid
LFS Sep settle in for a minute
you're born gay
you attracted to men
everybody tells you it's evil it's wrong don't do it bloody body blah
now we all tend to judge others by ourselves
so
it I suddenly had the answer I've why these people would come on my radio
program
men who claim to that they were straight and in the case of some of them who were
even married and had been for years
I want them brought his wife with him fell on his sixties
his wife was in her sixties on the leaders the anti-gay movement
come on this radio program
and insists that being gay was a choice
and I'm sitting here go on
I was born knowing that I was interested in girls not boys
how could anybody not know that and when I read the sentence
he had always known that he was attracted to men he says but thought
that that was normal and something that other men
id suddenly the penny dropped for me
these guys are okay and they're judging the rest the world by themselves and
they think that they have made the moral judgment
and they're assuming that I have you know you're talking to me I'm
you know ostensibly straight and married now get kids are like us up
you know I must've I must be hiding or fighting my desires to
right I mean literally
and in fact it's interesting because I've I on a couple occasions
in having these debates with these guys who are you know against gay marriage in
and you know of homosexuality is an evil thing and and and it's a choice
when they come on my program occasionally they been on the program
in my physical presence and that more than once
I've gotten a vibe that
it's almost like a a flirt vibe
and each
hit me these guys are all gay and
they think that every man has that's
they think that every man feels the way they do their judge in the world by
themselves
and it just hit me what a horrible tragedy this
and how many generations this has been going on
that these gay men
you know they're born gay and they have to
literally spend their entire lives living a lie
fighting the impulse
because it's all right thing to do. in fact if you google
is my husband and you know the auto fill in Google the most common next word is
not
is my has been having an affair which you would think the most common
next word is gay and you see those searchers in particular in the red
states
cuz these are women who have married guys who really are gay but they
the air now technology into their wives are not technology into themselves
they're not act in our
they're just swallowing it
to mangle a metaphor they're just they're just
saying that set I'm you know denying it
living a life then I'll