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Today we’re talking about a particular subset of men—the man-child.
This specific group of men may be the life of the party, but they are also known for being messy, lazy, immature, and a bit helpless.
You may be attracted to his fun-loving nature,
but your romance may fall by the wayside if you find yourself taking on a more motherly role in your relationship.
They say love is blind, but we’re hoping with these signs in mind you’ll be able to spot a man-child from a mile away
and avoid them if you are looking for a serious, long-term partner.
To a man-child, commitment is a four-letter word.
Well, not literally, but you know what we mean.
He likely has never been in a real relationship that lasted more than a few months.
He avoids labels like the plague and tries to keep things casual.
A man-child tends to run off anybody who was initially interested thanks to their lack of commitment and their other undesirable behaviors,
many of which we mention here on this list.
It’s natural to take care of your partner at times,
but when it gets to a certain point, you might start feeling more like their mom than their girlfriend.
A man-child might expect to be waited on hand and foot.
And even if that’s not his expectation, he will often act completely helpless so that you will just end up doing everything for him.
And God help you if he gets sick!
Playing video games can be a fun distraction, but if it becomes a way of life, it’s a problem—unless you’re getting paid to play of course.
But if you’re dating a man-child, you are likely very familiar with the struggle of competing with a gaming console for time and attention.
We get it, sometimes it just makes sense to live with the parents while in a time of transition,
but a man-child can happily live with his parents for years into adulthood, long after he should have been out on his own.
It’s a double sign if his mother still does his laundry, cooks him lunch, and makes his bed.
A man-child can often be found surrounded by fast food bags.
His fridge might contain a few condiments, beer, and expired food.
He probably veers more toward pizza and burgers than fruits and vegetables.
And often, unless he lives at his mother’s, his dishware consists of paper plates and plastic utensils.
A man-child often either just got fired or is on his last warning at his entry-level job.
He might have missed too many days because he didn’t feel like going in,
or maybe he’s been caught playing games on his phone one too many times.
Either way, he has a hard time getting and keeping a job. But this isn’t a big deal to him.
McDonald’s is always hiring—until he gets fired from there too.
Particularly if he lives alone or at his parents’ house, a man-child’s environment can be downright disgusting.
Empty pizza boxes, dirty clothes everywhere, half-eaten food,
and crunched up beer cans are just a few of the treasures you might find in the man-child’s natural habitat.
If you are assertive enough to get them to clean, they won’t have a clue what to do.
You will have to show them literally everything from how to turn on the vacuum cleaner to what kind of detergent to use in the dishwasher.
You might conclude that it’s easier for you to just do it yourself, which is what the man-child ultimately wants anyway.
We get it, certain bodily functions can be funny, and well-timed “that’s what she said” jokes certainly have their place,
but it’s this kind of immature humor that a man-child references all the time, and it can get old pretty fast.
After all, these are the type of jokes we might have laughed at back in middle school.
On the bright side, if you also have an immature sense of humor, he’ll definitely keep you laughing.
No one likes to fight, but it’s a healthy part of any relationship as long as it is ultimately constructive and provides resolutions to problems.
However, a man-child can’t handle conflict at all.
His fighting style will be immature and will likely involve whining, passive-aggressive actions, temper tantrums, running away, or the silent treatment.
A man-child simply isn’t reliable.
If they say they are going to be somewhere, you better text them an hour ahead of time and a few more times after that, and they still might not show up.
They might oversleep or be too involved in a video game or just couldn’t be bothered to put on real pants to leave the house.
Whatever the excuse is, they flake on plans more often than not.
A relationship isn’t always fun and games.
Sometimes you will need to have a serious conversation or talk about deeper topics, but don’t expect this to go well with a man-child.
They will avoid serious conversations like the plague.
They are the king of keeping things light and funny.
If a serious topic comes up, they’ll likely crack a joke, stare at their phone, make a quick exit, or change the subject alltogether.
Man-children tend to flock together.
If they’re not playing video games together, they’re out drinking too much or making poor life choices.
If you ask him to stay in with you and watch a movie rather than go out with the guys one Saturday night,
you may be accused of being a buzz-kill.
And unless you fit right in with his crowd, you’re a threat to the group dynamic, so don’t expect his friends to be your biggest fans.
If you are dating a man-child, you will likely find that all the planning comes down to you.
If you want to go out on a date, you’re gonna have to plan it—and probably pay too if it’s anything fancier than a fast food meal.
His idea of a date is likely something like ordering a pizza and having you watch him play video games all night.
I mean, if that’s what you’re into, it could work. Otherwise, it’s probably time to move on.
If you’ve both had a bad day, guess whose problems will concern the man-child more?
Don’t rely on him to cheer you up or surprise you in any positive way.
He’s not going to go out of his way to bring you thoughtful little gifts,
and he won’t pick up on your million hints about the concert you’re hoping to get tickets to.
Don’t expect much romance and certainly no grand gestures.
It’s far too much work for the average man-child.
We’ve reached the end of our list, and we’ve saved this one for last because it will literally affect every aspect of your relationship.
A man-child will always put himself first, and he expects others to put him first as well.
He’s not a fan of your favorite television show? Don’t expect him to give up the remote anytime soon.
If you’re hungry and he shows up with a few bags of fast food, you can’t assume any of it’s for you.
Unfortunately, this selfishness usually extends to the bedroom as well.
A true recipe for disaster.
It’s certainly no mystery why people don’t tend to stick around long after they start dating a man-child.
And that wraps up our list, Aluxers.
If you recognize one or several of these signs from the man that you’re dating, it might be time to make a hard or not-so-hard choice.
If you decide to stick it out with the hope that he will mature someday,
sadly we have to tell you that you might be waiting until the end of time.
Now that we’ve reached the end of our list we’d like to know:
Let us know in the comments.
And, of course, for sticking with us until the end, here's that bonus fact we owe you.
The word man-child was first used in the 14th century, but back then its definition was simply a male child.
It can still be used for that meaning, but it’s not super common today.
Merriam-Webster lists the more well-known modern definition as “a man who has the qualities of a child: a childlike man.”
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