To find someone just like you with the same thought processes, emotional habits, morals
and values sounds like an ideal connection - and for some personality types that’s
certainly the case.
Yet what is an INFJ-INFJ connection like?
Is it really as liberating and awestrucking as they’d hoped?
Welcome back PSYCH-Os, today we’re going to be talking about the extremely rare INFJ-INFJ
connection, and whether or not it’s what it’s cracked up to be.
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Number 1: First meeting
You would think that when an INFJ meets another INFJ it wouldn;t be long before they made
the realization.
However, that’s usually not the case.
Since INFJs have a natural chameleon effect when it comes to socializing with different
crowds, they may either show up as their extroverted and friendly selves, or they may prefer to
stick to their more reserved and observing demeanor.
Either way, INFJs don’t wear their personality traits on their sleeves, and a lot of who
they are is only apparent when they want it to be..
So, the question is, how many INFJs have you met and you didn’t even know it?
Well.. probably not many, but it’s definitely happened.
One of the sure ways INFJs are able to point out other INFJs is in their interests in the
topic of conversation and their listening skills.
When two INFJs meet, even if they haven’t a clue which type they are, their mutual calm
demeanor, genuine interest and keen listening will align effortlessly.
Number 2: Common interests & morals
Once an INFJ has gotten to know their counterpart, the shyness and hesitancy will quickly dissipate.
Not only do they feel like a conversation with their mutual type is a breath of fresh
air, but they’ll have an underlying sense of finally being understood.
In fact, they’ll appreciate each other's need to follow their moral compass, and more
times than not, these morals are mutually shared, however that’s not always the case.
Depending on life experiences and interests, some INFJ-INFJ connections won’t require
any defensiveness over these beliefs, yet this stubborn righteousness can also cause
issues.
If both INFJs have a different sense of what is considered ‘right’ it may be difficult
to overlook and ultimately become a dealbreaker as to whether or not the connection will go
any further..
Especially in romance.
Number 3: Mutual trust
One thing the INFJ-INFJ relationship is sure to demonstrate is a great deal of trust.
Speaking of morals, trust and honesty is always at the top of the INFJ’s values, so you
can bet that this mutual connection would be a safe place to utilize and exchange this
assurance.
Rooted in their intuition and empathy, INFJs need to trust their partner from the get-go
and they’ll find this natural certainty in one another.
However, with honesty comes blunt feedback and at-times difficult communication that
both INFJs would have to learn to appreciate and not take personally.
Since they can have difficulty with criticisms, this mirroring relationship would serve as
a great realization that it’s better to say it than to hold it in to avoid disruption.
Number 4: Understanding each other's source of stress
Let’s just say, as put-together as an INFJ may seem from the outside, it doesn't take
much to totally stress this personality type out.
Overthinking and self doubt are nothing new to the INFJ and most of the time they keep
it buried so deep that nobody would ever stand a chance pointing it out.
However, when it comes to the INFJ’s closest relationships, they have no choice but to
show this side of them..luckily, an INFJ partner would totally understand.
Whether it’s relying on physical stimuli like eating, drinking, and shopping or the
complete opposite such as avoiding bodily cues like hunger, each partner would have
the tools and experience to recognize each other's stress.
Not only that, but the INFJ will naturally try to observe the situation without being
pushy in order to find the source and then go about finding a solution.
Both partners would understand the sense of irritability and decipher whether or not it’s
alone time or affection that is required of them..and that, my friends, is hard to find!
Number 5: Conversations like no other
With seriously interesting imaginative thoughts and a deep desire to understand the misunderstood,
the INFJ would happily talk an ear off, providing the topic of conversation has some sort of
depth.
In fact, it’s rare that this personality type is given the proper set and setting to
actually communicate these interests, but when they do, they either end up grabbing
people’s attention or completely confusing them.
In the INFJ-INFJ relationship, this worry is a thing of the past.
Like we said, if both partners have similar morals and values, once they become familiar
with each other, there isn’t any holding back when it comes to communicating their
inner thoughts.
From metaphysics, to taboo lifestyles, and everything in between, when two INFJ minds
are matched, there's no coming down from their whirlwind of deep conversations.
In fact, there's nothing that bonds an INFJ couple like introspective communication, and
because of that, they get to know each other on a deeper level than most couples.
Number 6: The mutual need for solitude
There’s nothing that gets in the way of a happy relationship with an INFJ than the
misunderstanding of their need for alone time.
It’s not that it’s particularly difficult to explain, but it’s certainly difficult
to relate to for some personality types, mostly because it’s not just an ‘every now and
then’ occurrence.
Actually, the INFJ’s need for alone time is usually mixed with a craving for socialization,
and for that reason, it can be seriously difficult to keep up with knowing when and why they
choose the times they do to retreat.
Of course, in the INFJ-INFJ connection, this is hardly an issue.
Since both types will find lengthy or busy social outings rather draining, there won’t
be any discrepancies when it comes time to go.
Plus, since both people would be considered particularly low-key and calm, all of a sudden
alone time won’t necessarily mean time apart.
And for the INFJ to find someone that they can remain in company with while they rest
and recharge, is not only rare, but is almost unheard of.
Number 7: The possibility of playing out some of their imaginative fantasies
True understanding brings a lot of comfort to the INFJ personality type, as it would
with most people.
However, for the INFJ to really feel comfortable, there’s a lot about them that needs to be
figured out and ultimately accepted, like what happens in the INFJ-INFJ connection.
Once they feel comfortable enough to allow someone a look into their deep imagination,
it can become a total game changer.
By taking their thoughts out of their own minds to explain it to a like-minded individual,
the INFJ increases their chances of actually experiencing that potential excitement in
real-time.
With a little encouragement and the ability to match their fantasies to that of their
INFJ partner, both INFJs will be pleasantly surprised at the non-judgmental action they’re
encouraged to take on it.
Whether these imaginative thoughts are related to the romantic relationship or not, INFJs
have the ability to think outside the box with a particular preference to go against
societal expectations.
And so, the INFJ-INFJ connection can serve as the perfect breeding ground for some amazing
future-based potential.
And last but certainly not least,
Number 8: Reciprocated intimacy & similar love language
Speaking of fantasies, INFJs are known for their particularly passionate love lives..
Or atleast a passionate ideal of what their love life should be like.
Idealistic with a fairytale-like view of romance, many INFJs are stuck longing for a deeply
connected partnership based on deep emotional and physical intimacy.
They’re not ones to date casually, or to rely on multiple connections to get their
fill of confidence, yet they can also be quite picky as to who they spend their time with.
This is where an INFJ-INFJ connection can be considered that ideal match.
By taking things slow and demonstrating different forms of intimacy prior to the physical aspect
of a connection, both INFJ partners would have a mutual sense of understanding that
is difficult to find elsewhere.
In fact, according to PsychologyJunkie.com, in terms of INFJ love languages, quality time
and words of affirmation are the most preferred among INFJs, with physical intimacy being
the next in line.
And since we as humans tend to love the way we prefer to be loved, showing these preferred
methods of affection can seem effortless - making for 2 very happy and loved INFJs!
Well, that’s it for today PSYCH-Os.
So, if you’re an INFJ personality type, have you ever been in a relationship with
another INFJ?
Let us know in the comments below!
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