There’s rarely a time in any INFJ’s day where there are no questions being asked or thoughts
being thinked within their inner minds. With continuous analysis of their surroundings,
and a need to understand every concept on such a deep level,
every INFJ has asked themselves these 13 questions at least once in life.
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Number 1: “Why am I not happy”?
With such a deep understanding of the inner workings of this world and the human emotions
that run it, some would say the INFJ would be considered rather mentally equipped to maintain
their happiness. However, with introverted intuition and extroverted feeling as their two
most dominant functions, the INFJ can have trouble recognizing how they’re feeling and why. And so,
not only do they ask themselves why they’re not happy but also if they’re happy, and even what
happiness truly is in the first place. Number 2: “Am I sure?”
“Am I sure I’m making the right decision?” “Am I sure I like this person?” “Am I sure I want to do
this for the rest of my life?”.. It’s not that INFJ’s are necessarily known for being unsure,
however, for this complex-minded type, no decision is simple. INFJ’s are always weighing out the pros
and cons, right down to the very last second. And even when they’re given the time they need to come
to a conclusion, they’ll never not wonder what would’ve happened if they chose the other option.
Number 3: “Why am I like this?”
When you’re not only one of the rarest personality type but also understandably
misunderstood by most people, INFJs tend to catch themselves wondering “Why am I like this?”
Whether they’re having trouble fitting in or they couldn’t quite get out what they were
trying to say, when this self-critiquing type questions their actions and behavior
it may be a part of a bigger picture. One that is often caused by their overthinking nature.
Number 4: “When can I leave?” For an INFJ in any type of social function,
questioning “When is it appropriate to leave without seeming rude?” or looking around the
room to see if anyone else has left is all part of the process. Introverted with a quick-draining
social battery life, INFJs begin thinking these thoughts before even arriving at the social event.
If they’re not talking literally, INFJs will calculate the most appropriate
time to leave a job, living space, or relationship by asking the very same questions. “When can I
leave without hurting anyone’s feelings?” Or “Will there ever be a right time?” are all very familiar
self-analyzing questions for the INFJ. Number 5: “Is this worth giving up on?”
Speaking of relationships and personal obligations, when INFJs are questioning
whether or not it’s time to move on they’ll always ask themselves if it’s really worth
throwing in the towel. Of course, that sounds like a normal question anyone would ask before making
a big life decision. However, in the case of the INFJ, as soon as they catch themselves questioning
something once, they’ll never be able to shake it without doing something about the situation.
Whether they decide to follow through with let’s say, a door slam, it may take weeks or months of
observing this very question from all angles before making even the slightest movement.
Number 6: “Am I trying my best?”
Speaking of surrendering to the idea that sometimes things don’t work out as planned,
there's no leaving a situation without the INFJ first asking themselves if they’ve put in all
the necessary work possible. They’re not the personality type to look at others for fault
or to point the finger. In fact, INFJ look to themselves to blame sometimes to the point of
unnecessarily harsh self-critiquing. And because this ambitious type is confident that they could
probably do anything they put their minds to, sometimes when their best isn’t good enough
it can cause seriously low self worth. Number 7: “Will I ever find my purpose?”
INFJs are not only hard on themselves, but they also have a deep longing to fulfill their
purpose in life. With unique characteristics, extreme empathy and the inner craving for human
interaction, most INFJs feel like there is something they’re called to do in this life.
However, finding what that thing is is often the most difficult part of the process.
Not only do they question if they’ll ever find their purpose, but going back to the previous
question, INFJs may ask themselves whether or not they’re actually trying their best to find their
calling. And once it becomes a personal mission to that extent, the mission to find their purpose
in life can become both extremely motivating and seriously debilitating at the same time.
It’s not easy to enjoy life if you’re always wondering why you’re here in the first place.
Number 8: “What is the meaning of life?” On the topic of wondering why we’re all here
in this earthly realm, the INFJ doesn’t only question what their mission is here on earth,
but from a more philosophical standpoint, what is the bigger meaning behind it all. The classic
INFJ larger-picture thinking comes into play even in the grandest picture of all…the meaning behind
everything we know to be. Not only do they question what is the meaning of life, but also
what is the meaning of death, why is there so much violence in the world, what is the meaning
of love, why is their disease in the world, is there a higher power, and every other question
that may lead them closer to understanding these otherwise accepted aspects of life.
Number 9: “Why did I say that?” When it comes to the INFJ’s more
philosophical conversation topics, sometimes they leave a moment of social banter wondering why the
heck they brought any of the taboo subject matter they did. Known for having an easier time writing
things out than they do verbally explaining their elaborate understandings and beliefs, INFJs may
not communicate the things they actually enjoy talking about in the best way. This can either
lead to serious confusion, judgment or disinterest from the other party, or most commonly,
unnecessary INFJ self-criticizing despite nobody else noticing their slip up. So, luckily,
if an INFJ walks away thinking “Why on earth did I have to say that or bring that up?” it’s probably
not as big of a deal as they think it is. Number 10: “How can I help them?”
If there's one thing that every INFJ can relate to, it’s the want to help others,
sometimes in the most unique ways. Not only does this quality give them the rewarding
feeling their empathetic side craves, but it also gives the INFJ the personal satisfaction because
there's nothing more logically satisfying than helping a fellow earthling.
Sometimes, however, INFJs use this simple question as means of being too kind for their own good.
Not everyone wants help, and not everyone appreciates it as the INFJ would,
and both outcomes can really hurt this extroverted feeler type.
Number 11: “Do I really have to?” Family functions, blind dates, work parties..
You name it. If the INFJ is invited, you can be sure one of the first questions they’re going
to ask themselves is, “..but do I really have to go?” And INFJs won’t stop there,
of course. In fact, the INFJ brain will then begin the process of analysis in terms of necessity,
importance, and interest. Before making any promises, they’ll not only weigh out each
pro and con, but also mentally play out a couple potential outcomes. Some related questions would
be, “Will I be the only one not there that makes it too obvious if I don’t attend?”,
“Will I disappoint someone if I don’t go”, “Does it sound enjoyable?”
Number 12: “Did I overshare?”
While there are pre-attendance questions when it comes to the INFJ and social outings,
there are also post-attendance questions that come into play.
Overly reserved and arguably secretive, one of the INFJ’s biggest fears when socializing with others
is slipping into the trance of oversharing. Whether they actually end up taking the leap
to attend a social gathering or they get caught up in spontaneous banter, it’s not uncommon for INFJs
to ask themselves whether or not they overshared. Usually, this private introvert doesn’t notice it
when they feel compelled to share in the moment - and most of the time it’s only to make the other
person feel more comfortable. However, similar to their “Why did I say that?” question, luckily the
INFJ’s standards of oversharing are usually much more strict compared to other people’s.
Number 13: “Was I born in the wrong era?”
Hopeless romantics with a love for older music, styles and entertainment,
some INFJ’s may have questioned whether or not they were born into the wrong era. Of course, on
a logical scale humans are born when they’re meant to be born. However, sometimes looking at things
like old school video tapes of iphone-less social settings or maybe listening to live rock and roll
can transport the imaginative INFJ to a seemingly simpler time that they feel they can relate to.
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