Hello, so in this video we're going to take a look at how to deal with road rage what causes
road rage how do you get rid of it and what do you do if you're the victim of a road rage
incident now just in case you don't normally watch my videos just a quick bit of background on me and
who i am my name is Paul and i've been the driving instructor for 20 years i'm also a therapist
and i work with people on both sides of the fence so i work with people who suffer from road rage
and help them to become more calm and more relaxed when driving i also work with the victims of
road rage incidents and anyone who has driving anxiety and i help people get back on the road
and enjoy driving again now let's look at this video clip here where you're going to
see me driving along the motorway i want you to look at the rear view camera of my car
look on the right hand side and you'll see a green van with a dark colored car behind it
now what you're going to see in a moment is the green car is going to flash the lights now you see
the flash but why were they flashing? What you can barely see is that behind the van there is a white
led and this audi is just cut right across a solid white line so close to the car that's why the
flashing headlights saying what are you doing now watches of one car now cuts across another double
solidwork line comes up behind me and flashes the headlights saying to me get out of the way
well i had to move over and be in that lane to help the vano because that round the white van
was joining the motorway now i've done nothing wrong i'm doing the speed limit but i'm driving
perfectly properly now we're going to switch to the front camera now and just take a look at what
the car does after it's passed me they get right at the back of the other car flashing the lights
to them see they're either braking on and off the brake flashing the lights watches and i swerve
aggressively left and right and are flashing the lights on everyone look how close to driving to
them this is where people get driving anxiety look at them swerving left flashing the lights
those vehicles won't move so the white car now swims back to the right flashing lights again
but why do people drive in such an aggressive way well if you understand this it helps you to
really feel karma when you're driving because if you understand why they're doing it then it makes
more sense the reason people drive like that is that we each have two halves to our brain the
one half of your brain controls the intelligence side of things that's things like your numbers
your language your mathematics all those kind of intelligent things taken care of by the one
half of your brain the other half of your brain is in control of your emotional side
so that's things like the music that you like the clothes that you wear the car that you buy
there was a famous french psychologist called emil cui and he said that whenever there is conflict
between the intelligent side of the brain and the emotional side of the brain the emotional side
wins now when you look at people driving on the road like this that's the problem they are driving
with their emotional side not their intelligence side so you might be driving along thinking why
they're being so stupid how could anyone act like that it's because their brain has been overridden
by its emotional side they're effectively driving like a child they're being childish to being angry
and their emotions are getting the better of them you've probably heard the saying don't let your
emotions get the better of you well that's where it comes from when your emotional side takes over
you act irrationally and this is why people drive in such a bad way it's also why people suffer
from driving anxiety if you have driving anxiety and you sit down and think about it at home when
you're sitting in a nice comfortable chair having a nice cup of tea or something does it make any
sense whatsoever that you're scared every time you drive a car well the answer is no it makes
no rational sense whatsoever yes you could have a crash but to have such an overreaction to driving
as people who suffer from driving anxiety do have and that's because your emotional side is taking
over when you sit down and think about it now it makes perfect sense to be calm and controlled
when you're driving but when you're actually doing it your emotional side takes over so that's just
one way in which people can drive badly it's all because their emotions get better of them
so next time you see someone out on the road who's driving aggressively just know that
they're not really that stupid they're not really an idiot it's just that their emotions are taken
over and one of the main reasons that happens is those people who are actually scared of driving
now yeah doesn't that sound odd that someone is driving so aggressively he's scared of driving
that's actually one of the reasons people do it because they're trying to hide the fact that they
themselves are scared of driving their emotions get the better of them the fear takes over and
they start driving aggressively to try and hide the fact that they are scared of driving they act
aggressively towards others it's like the typical playground bully you know bullies are always wimps
bullies are always people who are scared themselves and the only reason they bully others
is because they want to be that of the person they want to be the person that's calm and controlled
but they can't so they have to kind of pick on others because they're jealous that those other
people have what they want and this is all very interesting to me it's the psychology
of driving and this is how i help people overcome driving anxiety so that's just a really quick and
simple example of how to deal with road rage if you understand that the other person is not acting
rationally they're not thinking straight they're not thinking with their normal intelligent mind
and i'll tell you something when i deal with people who suffer road rage they always say the
same thing about five or ten minutes after they've done this aggressive driving they always regret it
they always feel ashamed of what they've done and they get home and they think oh no
what have i done why was i so angry did i go through a speed camera when i was doing 100 on
the motorway they then spend the next two weeks worrying every day they don't even sleep worrying
about whether they're going to get a speeding fine through the post are they going to lose the job
and they're going to lose a house and this is what i see that a lot of other drivers don't see
because i get to work with people who go through these experiences now if you want to see more
videos like this let me know in the comments and there's some others you can check out which
i'll put a link to on the screen now and in the comments section below there's one way you can see
me being attacked in a road rage incident there's also another video you can watch for somebody
trying to make a learner driver crash on a driving lesson and these are all great examples of why
it's so important that i do the work i do know and help people overcome road rage and driving anxiety
if you'd like to find out more about me and my work and get rid of your road rage or your driving
anxiety just visit my website firstdrive.com there'll be a link in the description below and
you can find out more about me and what i do and how i can help you thanks for watching if you like
this video remember to give it a thumbs up and i'll make more like this in the future so thanks
again check out the other videos on the screen though and i'll see you again soon for more videos