Hi guys welcome back to another mindful
motherhood Monday I'm really sorry I
didn't get a mindful motherhood video
live last week but we had just gone back
from holiday we went to send Ives in
Cornwall and it was amazing we were
there for a week but then when we got
back I only had a day to sort everything
out for my son starting nursery school
so it was really really busy and in over
my head and decided not to do a video
which really pained me because I love
doing these videos every Monday but
anyway I'm back with another one today
and today's topic is all about being
proud of your mum's self I feel like
this is gonna be a really short and
sweet video but I really wanted to talk
to you guys about this because sometimes
we tend to focus on the things that were
not good at or the things that we want
to improve in ourselves or be better at
but how often do we focus on the things
that we are actually good at and the
things that make ourselves proud of our
own selves I'm also going to list five
things that make me proud of my mum self
and I would love for you to list five
things that make you proud of yourself
or just one thing that makes you proud
of yourself as a mum so yeah if you're
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I tend to always do this every week and
tell you guys the thing that got me
thinking about a specific topic so the
thing that got me thinking about this
topic was I was in the car and I was
thinking you know I'll be really proud
of myself if I get home and I cook
something and my kids eat it and they
love it and then I started thinking and
why do I need to wait for something to
happen to feel proud of myself as a mom
why can't I feel proud of myself as a
mom as I am and doing the things that
I'm doing and you know still have those
things that little things that I would
like to happen but to not attach that
feeling of feeling proud of myself if
something happens and then I started to
think about this has been a trend
throughout my whole life as a parent and
I am sure this it's the same with lots
of parents I remember when I was
breastfeeding and I have this sort of
I'll be really proud of myself if I'm
able to breastfeed for the first six
weeks off for the fourth of three months
or six months or whatever you know it
was just like that feeling of this will
make me proud of myself or I'll be
really proud of myself if I managed to
get my baby to sleep through the night
my babies never slept through the night
really early on and you know like does
that mean that I don't I'm not proud of
myself or should I not be proud of
myself because I didn't achieve those
things I don't think so so I started to
think differently about how I feel about
myself as a mom and the things that I'm
good at and the things that I do really
well and that I love doing and those are
the things that make me who I am as a
mom and I'm proud of the mum that I am
so saying something like I'll be proud
of myself if I do a year of
breastfeeding is not really fair on me
because I'm attaching that feeling of
pride to something that could be
completely out of my hands there could
be so impossible to achieve or could be
causing me lot a lot more grief than
happiness just to reach that feeling
that I am proud of myself because I've
done that so what do you guys think
about it do you attach certain feelings
of pride in being a mum to doing certain
things or achieving certain milestones
and do you feel like it puts pressure on
you achieving those milestones or even
doing them at all costs because you want
to feel proud of yourself and do you
think you'd be happier if you decided to
be proud of yourself for who you are as
a month this is a bit of food for
thought for you and now I'm gonna give
you five things that I'm proud of myself
for and like I said I'd love for you to
share the things that you're proud of
yourself for as well as a mum and it can
be anything it could be the smallest
things it could be like you're proud of
yourself because you're a very crafting
mom and you do lots of crafts with your
kids or you're proud because you're an
amazing cook and your kids love your
food it could be literally anything but
I came up with five five things that I'm
proud of myself off it wasn't easy
because I realized that I have this
little switch in my brain that when I
start to notice positive things about
myself I try and find flaws in those
things so anyway here I go the first
thing that I'm really proud of myself
off as a mum is for knowing what my kids
want and need before they even know it
themselves this is something that I do
really well and I love being that kind
of mom I love it in myself I love when I
go to my kids and they give them
something and it's exactly what they
needed in what they wanted and I love
being really prepared you know just
having everything in my changing bag and
when I go out and everybody's
questioning why have you got so many
things and all of a sudden one of my
kids get injured and I've got savile on
I've got a plaster I've got a spare
change of clothes I've got a spare
change of socks I've got a spare pack of
white and I love being that mom that has
everything and that thinks of my all of
their needs before they even know they
need it I'm really proud of myself for
that the second thing that I'm really
proud of myself for is for being able to
support my family and being there for my
kids at the same time so I must stay at
home / work from home mum I work full
time on my youtube channel in my social
media channels but I'm also full time
here for my kids as well and although
it's really hard to balance the two of
them and a lot of the times I know I
don't get the balance right but I'm
still really proud of myself for doing
it and for being able to to have a
career something that I'm passionate
about but not missing out on the little
moments on the little milestones and
being there for every little cry or
everything that happens or mostly
everything that happens but just knowing
that I'm home and that I'm there for
them and able to look after them but
also providing for my family makes me
really really proud of myself the third
thing that I'm really proud of myself
for is for being a generous man I'm
exactly like my mom I'm naturally a
generous person and I'm really proud of
that I don't I don't feel sorry or
apologize for sometimes spoiling my kids
with things obviously we don't have
millions and millions of pounds so I
don't overspend and I would never spend
over what I can afford to give my kids
things but it makes me so happy to be
able to give things to my children and I
don't overthink it I don't think they'll
be spoiled rotten I think I've got a
good enough head on my shoulders to not
spoil my kids while still being generous
for them sometimes we go on days out
experiences and things that are a little
bit too expensive for what they are but
as long as it makes my family happy and
my kids happy and makes me happy as well
and I'm really proud of me of being a
generous Merman in general of being a
generous person another thing I'm really
proud of myself of is finding any
opportunity to teach my kids something
I'm really proud of that and this is
probably the thing that I'm most proud
of myself off because when I was growing
up as a teenager in a young adult I
never saw myself as a kind of child
oriented person and it was only after I
had kids that I became that person and
I'm the kind of person who finds any
opportunity to teach my kids something
new it could be the most simple of
things and it could be complicated
complex things but I do that every day
several times a day anytime we have an
opportunity to teach them something I
will be there to try and teach them
something new and I hope they appreciate
that when they're older and I hope they
remember that about me
isabella has just woken up so I'm just
gonna get hurt and then
tell you the last thing that I'm proud
of myself for light she's looking at my
feet set mommy's lunch Wow yeah you're
gonna have some lunch as well oh I say
hello to the camera
mm-hmm so the last thing that I'm proud
of myself off for is for trying to raise
my kids bilingual and this is not
something easy and it's harder than I
thought it was gonna be and if you don't
know I'm originally from Brazil my first
language is Portuguese so I'm fluent in
Portuguese and fluent in English and I'm
trying to raise my kids bilingual I will
admit I am NOT doing this good of a job
as I thought I would be by now I think I
put too much pressure on it and it's the
expectations have been quite high and
I've been feeling a lot of pressure from
everyone for my kids to be able to be
fluent in both languages but I'm really
proud of myself for trying and every day
I speak something in English and in
Portuguese to them it might not be a lot
but I do try every single day so I'm
proud of myself for that and I will do a
video on how the kids are getting on and
how I'm finding trying to raise them by
laying but if you're interested in that
so yeah can you say something in
Portuguese to the camera say Bon dia
good girl so that is it now over to you
I would love to hear the things that
you're proud of yourself for as a mum
and also what do you think about this
whole association with bring being proud
of yourself and things that you need to
achieve I hope you enjoyed this video if
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well I'll see you all very soon bye say
bye say bye bye