There are four things that really
need to know about narcissism.
And in this video, I'm gonna tell you what they are.
Alright.
You're not gonna wanna miss out on
what I'm gonna tell you right now.
They're absolutely the four rules
that you definitely need to know.
You are dealing with a narcissist.
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Hey, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney.
I'm also anarcissist negotiation expert.
I've been dealing with narcissist
for more than 20 years.
It all sorts of realms in my law practice
in dealing with coaching people like you.
Over the last couple of years.
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I'm gonna help you guys.
There are four things you really need to
know if you're dealing with a narcissist.
Okay?
Listen to me.
First of all, I took them from Al Anon.
First three are but they call the three C's
and then there's gonna be one more.
So the three C's are that you
didn't cause it,
you can't control it,
and you can't cure it.
So let's take them one by one.
They brought you into their world.
They made you feel like you were
the one who was the most special person ever,
whether it's a business relationship
or a personal relationship or even
if they're your parent or whatever,
you were brought into their world,
and they make you feel
like you're supposed to be.
You know, the most special person
but you didn't cause that.
Something else caused them to
feel inadequate in some way.
Think about it.
Something happened to them in their
childhood that caused a disconnect within them.
They're the ones that have this
emptiness inside of them.
It's like a black hole that can't be filled.
And so they're walking around
the world trying to
fill this hole from external
sources all the time,
and you are just this collateral damage in
a way because you happen to be there.
And so they're looking to you to try to fill this.
You're just a food source really.
A supply source and you're over there trying to fill it
for them because they make you feel like
you're supposed to be able to do that for them.
But you didn't cause that something else
caused that long before you came along.
So you didn't cause that
and so you can't take that personally.
You know, how people feel how
people treat other people is always a direct
reflection of the way they
feel about themselves.
It never has anything to do with you.
So you can't take that personally.
If people treat each other well.
It's because they feel whole and complete or
they feel good about themselves inside.
It has nothing to do with you.
And you know,
I always say that one of my favorite books is
The Four Agreements.
Highly recommend that book.
The four agreements
and it's four agreements that you make with yourself.
And one of the agreements is that
you never take anything personally
because the way people treat
other people is a direct reflection
of the way they feel about themselves.
So number one is you didn't cause it.
So the next one is
You can only control yourself.
You can control how you're going to react.
You can certainly control how you are
going to react to them
and you can control how you're
gonna take care of yourself.
And I have a whole video.
I'm self care
when you're dealing with a narcissist and
definitely watched that video.
Self care when you're dealing
when you're coping with a narcissist.
Definitely check out that video.
In fact, I have a whole video series on self care.
When you're coping with a narcissist.
You can even check out the whole video series on that.
Definitely check that out.
Take care of yourself.
And and in fact, I want you to put
that in the comments right now.
‘‘I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF!’’
I take care of myself
because that's what I want you to
start thinking of right now.
You didn't cause it.
You can't control it.
Those are the first two C's.
And the last one
They can't cure themselves.
I've done videos.
I've actually interviewed many different therapists,
psychologists,
psychiatrists,
even who said you can't
you can't cure narcissists.
And in fact, I've actually even
talked to mental health
professionals who've said they
won't even treat narcissists
because they can't be cured.
They don't even want anything to do with
narcissist because they can't be cured.
So you certainly aren't going to cure the narcissist.
Don't sit around waiting for that.
You're just gonna hurt yourself.
You're just gonna cause yourself more pain.
More trouble.
So you can't cure them.
Alright?
It didn't cause it.
You can't control it.
You're not gonna cure them.
What can you do?
This is this is your fourth rule.
Your fourth thing to know about narcissists.
You can use my SLAY methodology.
You can walk away.
You can SLAY it.
You can shift the dynamic.
You can win at the negotiation.
You you absolutely can.
Everyone else is telling you that
you can't win against narcissists.
I'm telling you that with the right strategies
with the right understanding of
how narcissists think that you absolutely
can win every single time.
You can.
You absolutely can.
Don't give up.
Don't be fatalistic.
Don't allow yourself to be a victim.
Don't allow it.
Make sure that you have done what
you need to do your self care.
To join things like my free private Facebook group.
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Remember to day is a great
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Today's the day and remember,
didn't cause it,
can't control it,
can't cure it.
You can SLAY this,
and I will definitely see you.
in the next video.