- But now what about the people who,
because we've all shared about being there for other people
who have things that happen,
but what about the unplanned that happens in our lives.
- Wow
- Can you receive the help - How we deal.
Right, do we receive the help, do we ask for it, you know.
Is it okay to break down because I know for me,
I've had things that happened,
just recently we talked about people passing.
I, in January decided
I'm going to really focus on protecting my peace.
Then in February,
I get
in a seven day old baby
that they're saying, okay we need you to take care of.
Then my granddad dies and then we get a couple of weeks,
then my dad's best friend die
and I'm like okay, while I'm still not sleeping,
you know, my kids still have to be taught
because they're home schooled,
and then, my brother's best friend passes
and my girlfriend's father passes.
- Oh my word.
- And trying to be there for these people,
you know, that I love and that I care about
and even feeling the sadness that I feel
because- - Sure.
- You know, now I miss these people as well.
Having this new born, having work
that still needs to be done and nothing was planned.
All I knew in January was that,
I was setting out to protect my peace.
(women laughing)
- You know, I was giving you a chance.
(women laughing)
- There you go.
- Right!
And so one thing after the next just began to happen
and it's like, I didn't plan for any of this
and I'm married 10 years this year
so I wanted to have a vow renewal.
My baby's turning five, we have big party for five.
Everything is on the heels of each other
and I haven't been able to
plan the way I would have with everything else
because I am a big party planner and I love it.
But last week I just decided, you know what,
I am just going to take my baby to Great Wolf Lodge
and make it the biggest thing ever,
instead of, you know, putting the pressure on myself-
- Planning a party
- Asking for help- - And he'll remember that more
than anything you could possibly ever do.
- Right. - Absolutely.
- Asking help from my girlfriends
and not feeling like, okay, I have to do this all on my own
and it's like, okay, I am going to ask for help
and I group messaged my friends
- Yep, just put it out there - Hey guys,
I am drowning.
I'm not gonna cry.
- [Dianna] Aaw.
- It's okay, here's some tissue
- It's okay.
- Stop it.
(women laughing)
- But- - Call your momma or I will.
- Call your mom, I know,
but to be able to, because you wanna be so strong.
- Yeah. - Yup.
- And to be in a position where you have to ask for help
sometimes it's difficult.
- You know, but that's okay.
- Yeah, remove the pride and I said,
hey guys I'm drowning over here,
I'm sad, missing these people, I need help with the kids
and they're all like, okay, well I can do this,
I can find dresses for the vow renewal, you know.
So I think, being in a position where you know
it's okay to ask for help
and it's okay if it doesn't look exactly like you planned.
I mean, even I've struggled with infertility
and have had friends to struggle with infertility
and I think so many times
we plan for our lives to look a certain way
- Right.
- And when it doesn't happen, we just give up almost
or we get sad and we don't fulfill the purpose that God has
and I think if I would have
closed my mind
on the infertility
and just parked there,
I would have missed what God was trying to do in my life
and how He was able to use
my story,
or my deficits, you know, to be able to help other people
because, I always wanted to foster, I always wanted to adopt
but I didn't think I would have issues having kids
you know, so when it took
all of these failed fertility efforts,
it was kinda like, what in the world.
But then I realized, the devil is attacking my family.
It must be something on my family
and something on what I'm supposed to do with mothering,
and he's attacking my seed.
So I'm like, why is it that this is where I'm being attacked
and now how can I flip it to make sure-
- But look at what you've done Brittney.
- Right.
- You have taken that pain,
God has given you a platform for that.
That sounds so- - No, that's good.
- It is what it is.
- No, it is what it is.
- And so God's bating you, to trust Him
because He wants you to adopt children.
He wants you to foster.
He's put that in you.
You probably wouldn't be doing any of that
if you kept having your own kids.
You know, so look at the outreach that you've got.
You've got your fingers in families,
you've got your, baby.
That influence, that you have seeded into those children,
that baby that you're taking care of right now
that's gonna be two months old.
That baby's life will never be the same again
because it was at your house, in your arms.
You have mothered that baby
and it'll never be the same again.
- Yes. - True.
- It can't get away from God now.
You marked that baby.
So you have had so much influence in changing the world.
I mean, those kids are gonna change the world some day.
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