Hey, this is Stefan from projectlifemastery.com
In this video, I want to share with you how to find a mentor.
Now, if you're watching this video right now, then you probably already know that
mentors and coaches and role models is a really important factor of success. If
you had somebody that was mentoring you and coaching you and guiding you and
holding your hand step by step, to help you achieve your goals, the results that
you're after, then obviously you're going to get there a lot faster.
I think mentors, role models and coaches are very important in achieving success.
I think there's different levels of it that are useful.
I think number one, virtual role models and mentors is very powerful. As
you're watching this video right now, in a way I'm mentoring you. I'm
sharing advice, experience, that have benefited me in my life from my success
that you can then model and utilize in your life. We're so lucky, guys. We're
so lucky that we live in a world where the Internet exists.
The fact that you can go online, you can find people that are millionaires and
billionaires and successful and healthy and fit and have amazing relationships,
and you can get access to these people and learn from them in a virtual way
online is very powerful. Virtual mentors and role models and coaches,
very powerful.
I'm a big believer, as you're doing right now here on Youtube, following people,
subscribing to people, and learning directly from them in the online
capacity that you are,
that's very powerful, as well as online training programs and courses.
That's one of the best ways that I've been able to learn as well, because you've got to
understand that a lot of mentors, you might think, "I want to be mentored by Bill
Gates. I want to be mentored by Richard Branson," or something like that,
but it's not very realistic, because these are people that are so successful,
their time is worth so much. They have millions of people that would love to be
mentored by them, but it's just your chances of being mentored directly from
them is just almost impossible. If you can instead understand that I could find
maybe a course, a program, or a book or a resource, information from that person,
you want to invest in that
and consume that, because now, you're almost getting into their mind. You're
getting into their blueprint, their mindset. You're learning from them.
you're being mentored from them in a virtual way on by consuming information
from that person. To give you an example,
if you were to hire me, and I was your mentor,
maybe in an hour of conversation, I can help you. I can guide you. I
already have different courses and products out there that you're going to
learn so much more because now you can access to some of my courses were going
to get hours of my time of me coaching you and guiding you
and giving you information to you. In many ways, it's much more inexpensive and efficient
in many ways to learn from a mentor by purchasing their books and resources
and information.
I'm a big believer in that. I understand and respect that a lot
of mentors, they're time is valuable.
I don't want to take up too much of their time. If I can learn from them,
from their programs and courses,
I'm going to do that first, because I don't want to waste their time and have them share with
me things that they've already shared for free on Youtube, or free in their
course, product, or book.
I think you want to take advantage of that as much as possible.
I know for myself, I didn't have successful people in my life. I turned
to books. I turned to the internet. I turned to audio programs.
That's how I've been able to be mentored for people like Tony Robbins and
Brian Tracy and these successful people, that I never even met, but they've
influenced my life in such an incredible way.
Take advantage of that as much as possible, books, audio programs, courses,
et cetera.
Seminars are great, too. Really, really awesome stuff.
Now, you're probably wondering, "Okay. Well, I'm watching this video because I want to be
mentored from someone that is successful and I should find a mentor." A
few tips that I have for you,
number one, understand that a mentor is someone that you have to pursue. You've
got to find the right mentor for you, and understand that people that are
successful that you want to learn from, they're in a position that their time is
valuable, and there's probably a lot of people that would love to be
mentored and coached by them as well.
In fact, they probably have a lot of people that reach out to them
and request coaching and to mentor, et cetera. One thing that successful people hate
and can't stand is people wasting their time.
Successful people always know that time is their most valuable asset. Time is more
valuable than money, because you can make more money, but you can't get more time.
Time is a depreciating asset. We all have a certain amount. It's slowly
decreasing as time goes by.
You've got to understand to respect and value the person's time. You don't
want to waste their time in any way. You have to also understand that you
can't just go to someone and say, "Hey, can you mentor me," because you're coming from
a position of trying to get something from them. You're trying to take value
from that person. You're just expecting them to mentor you and just give
up their time, which they could then spend with their family, doing things that are
important for them, growing their business, making more money, et cetera. Then,
you, just as a stranger, just expecting that this person's going to give their
time to you, they don't know you.
It's not very realistic. It's just going to turn people away.
It's almost like if you have a homeless person that approaches you on
the street. They're asking you for money and stuff, or they're asking you for stuff,
you can see that a mile away.
You can see, before they even they approach you, this person wants something from you.
They have a hidden agenda.
You're going to be turned off by that, right? You're going to try to avoid
people like that. I get people all the time,
"Hey. Can you mentor me." These are people that I just feel like they're
trying to take from me. They're not looking to provide any value. They don't
actually care about me and want to provide any value to me.
You want to approach it, always from a position of adding value. You want
to take yourself out of the equation, and think yourself, "Okay, if I want to learn
from this person, or benefit, or be mentored, how can I provide more value to this
person than the value that they could provide to me?" I think one of the
best ways of doing that is actually trying to work for the person that you
want to be mentored by. If they have a business, a company, if they've got
whatever, try to find a way to help them. Try to find a way to help them grow
their business, to help them with their goals, their results. Add value to
them first before you expect anything in return.
You always have to remember that the value you
provide has to be equal or greater than the time or value that they would spend
on you.
I'll give you an example. I had this one person contact me.
He said, "Stefan, I want to help you. I want to work for you for
free. I'm going to do whatever it takes. I would love to work for you for free, but the
only exception is you have to coach and mentor me." I was like, I looked at
this, and I was like, "Okay. You've offered to help me for free. My time
is worth more than your time, because my time is very valuable,
just in terms of business money-wise, not ...
" I think every one is a valuable human being. "In terms of money-wise, my
business, my time is worth over a thousand dollars an hour.
The value that you're willing to offer me is stuff that I could hire for
someone else to do for $20 an hour."
It's not a fair trade from you spending an hour to help me, and then I'm
going to spend an hour of my time to help you just because in terms of the
business and money-wise, the opportunity cost of my hour is worth more than
what your hour is worth."
It was coming from a position of like, "This guy had an agenda.
It just totally turned me off because this person was just
looking to take, and was willing to provide back, but it had
a stipulation to it.
There's an agenda that this person had." I don't think that's a good way of
approaching it, because again, successful people are smart. They know what their
time is worth. I'd much rather hire someone to do certain things for me than have to
trade my time for someone else, because again, I can spend my time doing things
that can make me more money. I'd much rather just hire and pay someone 20 bucks an
hour or whatever it costs to do certain things for me if my time is worth a lot
more.
You've got to understand that. You've got to think that
way.
How can you work for someone? I mean, contact him. Contact their company.
Number one, before you try to work for them, or hire to work with them, or
whatever, to add value, know what you can do for them. Have something to offer them.
I've had people that contact me, and they're like, "Hey, I'd love to work
with you." I'm like, "Okay. What can you do for me? What skills
do you have?"
Whatever. They say, "I don't have any skills. I want you to train me."
Well, now, you're going to take more of my time, because now I have to spend my time
to train you.
I'd much rather
just hire and pay someone instead, because, again, that's going to require my time,
which is my money.
If you're going to approach someone, identify, "Okay.
How can I help this person?" Develop skills that you can utilize to help that
person. Maybe it's saying, "You know what, I can help you with your social
media."
I had a person like that say, "Hey, Stefan, I can help you grow your Twitter
following. I can help you do this.
I've learned this. I've been through courses on this. Here's the things that I can do for
you," and offer to do it. Offer to help the person out, either to get paid by it,
or for free, or whatever, provide services for them. By doing that, when you add
value to a mentor, or somebody that's successful,
you're going to benefit from that, because they're going
to help you out. They're going to want to help you.
You're going to have direct access to them, to ask them questions when
you need help, et cetera. Even then, you want to still value the
person's time.
One thing that successful people hate when they're mentoring people is when
their students ask them questions that could easily have been found
elsewhere. Before you ask a mentor a question, you want to make sure that you've
looked online, you try to find the answer before you go to them, because
again, you want to value that person's time. You want to respect their time.
Offering to help,
great way. Either for free, because you can get value back by doing it that way,
or to actually be an employee of the company, and get paid for your time.
Again, make sure that you have specific things you can add value.
You've done your research, your homework, you know exactly what you can do and how
you can help them. You want to make sure, again, you're being honest, as well,
because I've had people that said, "Hey, Stefan, I want to work for you for free,"
or, "I want to work for you. I can do this for you." They're people that are just
unreliable, and end up wasting your time, as well. Again, that's the most
important thing you've got to understand is that a mentor, a successful person's time
is valuable. Value that and respect their time more than anything
if you want to be able to help them. Again, if you do help them,
I'm sure they're going to help you back. How do you find these people? Again,
online. People they might follow online, or people from books, people you might
respect or look up to.
Could be people in different areas. One great way to meet people that are more
successful,
go to different events. Go to seminars.
I always go to seminars. You meet people. There are speakers there that are
more successful. By being in that environment,
you can maybe approach them and offer to work for them, whether it's
even taking out their trash, or cleaning their apartment, or whatever. These are all
things that you could do that can add value to them. I know many people
that have done that to be able to benefit and learn from
someone that's more successful, as well. Going to events, seminars is great,
even meet up groups, although really successful people don't really typically
go to a lot of meet up groups. A lot of seminars, they typically do.
Environments like that are key. Then, also,
I think, realizing that if you want to be mentor for people, as well, in
some cases you're going to have to pay a coach or a mentor also. Again, it's providing
value if you want value back. If someone's time is worth a certain amount
of money, you can't just expect them, again, just to give that to you for free.
If they've got a coaching program, or mentoring program, you can inquire about
it. You can pay them for their time. That's another fantastic way to learn
directly from the mentor or coach.
I've done that throughout my life. I've found mentors and coaches. Even when I
didn't have that much money,
I hired them. I learned from them. That was great. I learned a lot
just by paying them. It was a win-win, because I'm paying them for
their time. Their time is worth a certain amount. I'm paying them for that.
I'm getting value back. I'm providing value as well.
You don't want to just expect that someone's going to help you and you're
not going to do anything for them. That's very rare.
I don't think that ever happens, really. I'm often reminded, the
Karate Kid, even the Karate Kid, he was painting the fence and sanding
the floors and all that sort of stuff for Mr. Miyagi before Mr. Miyagi even
taught him anything.
It's always a 2-way street. You've got to provide value first.
Usually, mentors, again, they want to work with people that are committed,
people that are actually going to take action and do what they say, because one pet peeve they
all have is giving advice to people that don't listen to their advice or don't
even apply it, or take action in any
way. You want to make sure that you're eager, you're committed,
you're willing to do what it takes. If you can prove that, then that's how
you're going to be able to attract, and be able to actually have a mentor.
I'll finish with this. I don't remember the whole
story, but a friend of mine who was mentored by Jim Rohn.
Jim Rohn's passed away. His a famous motivational speaker.
He met Jim Rohn in a seminar, actually. Jim Rohn was a speaker. he
met him sitting down. Jim Rohn went up to speak. He was a young guy. He
asked him and said, "Jim Rohn, I'd love for you to mentor me." Jim Rohn said, "Okay.
Well,
if you want to be mentored by me, you've got to do this, this, this, this and this, and then
call me.
Here's my number." I forget exactly what he had to do, but he had to do
certain things, sort of basically show that he was committed. Once he
actually proved that he was committed, and he called Jim Rohn, Jim Rohn was like, "Wow,
you're actually one of the few people that actually did exactly what I said.
All right. Now, you're ready to be mentored by me. Now, you're ready to be
coached. Now, I want to work with you because you're someone that's actually
committed and serious. You're actually willing to listen to me and
take action." Sure enough, that friend of mine, he's gone on to be very
successful. He shared with me that story of meeting Jim Rohn, and being mentored
by Jim Rohn. That's just another example of working with a mentor and
attracting one in your life.
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