- [Sam] And something that he said stuck in the back of my mind.
And he said when it comes to getting married…
He recommends you get married to someone that’s been with you through the tough times.
The difficult times.
Not just someone who’s been there for the good times.
- [Joon] This is making me just want to go propose right now.
Like just go get a ring right now.
- [Dave] You have a girlfriend? - [Joon] Yeah I do.
- [Jang Min] How long you’ve been meeting?
- [Joon] Very recent… Yeah. Like… Yeah very recent.
- [Dave] Four days?
- [Joon] I think like last week. Naw it’s been a few months.
- [Jang Min] Also… That thing’s not about time.
- [Joon] Yeah. I agree.
- [Jang Min] I was meeting my girlfriend for a year.
And then I realized, “Wow. I really want to stay with this girl.
- [Joon] Question. To both of you.
‘Cause I know everyone answers this differently.
To both of you…
How did you know and when did you know…
Your wife was like… the one.
Is it something you could put to words or do you just know?
And it’s okay if that’s the answer.
- [Sam] I still don’t know.
- [Joon] I’m still feeling her out. We’re still in the trial phase.
- [Sam] Like I met my wife in… 1998?
- [Joon] Okay.
- [Sam] And we got married in… Wait. Yeah 1998.
We got married in… I want to say 2014-15.
- [Joon] Woww. - [Dave] Oh wow.
- [Sam] 2014. Yes, we’ve been married for six years.
- [Joon] Wow.
- [Sam] I’m really bad with math.
So we met when I was in university and I was an exchange student.
I went back to Australia, she was here.
There was a lot of backwards and forwards.
And then I moved here in 2002.
And we lived together and it was kind of on and off.
And we had issues and… Prior to getting married...
Like, six months prior to getting married…
I thought our relationship was done for.
Our relationship...
I thought there’s no way I’m getting married with this woman.
We’ll just go in separate ways and you know…
We’ll just have good memories…
Of what was.
But I also had the opportunity to talk with someone I was working with at a television show at the time.
And something that he said stuck in the back of my mind.
And he said when it comes to getting married…
He recommends you get married to someone that’s been with you through the tough times.
The difficult times.
Not just someone who’s been there for the good times.
So… I started getting thinking about that.
And I’d always been on my wife’s case about… You know…
You gotta go out and, you know, look at self improvement.
Doing certain things and it had been swimming or English or whatever.
Over the period of time we’d been in a relationship.
But then one day, she just decided out of the blue without me even saying anything.
She’s like, “You know what. I’ve just started taking swimming lessons.
I’m just taking English lessons. I’m doing this, that. Everything else…”
And I’d seen a change in her… that I wanted from her.
But these are things you can’t force on someone.
It has to be…
They have to make these decisions for themselves.
And seeing her make those changes in her life…
And knowing that she’s been beside me when I couldn’t afford to pay the rent
and I couldn’t afford to pay my phone bill…
And she’s been through that stage and stuck around.
So I knew when things were on the up,
she’d be there to stick around if things got **** again.
As opposed to people who’d been there and they’re like,
“Oh wow. You’re so successful. You’re doing so well.
You know maybe we should hook up.”
It’s like, okay… It sounds great at the time…
But they’re only ever seen when you’ve been successful.
And especially in this line of work...
Absence flows. Absence flows.
So when you’re not making money…
You’re like sucking your thumb…
The last thing you want is someone that's gonna be like,
“You know what. Bye. I’m out of here.”
And then you find that deep hole that you just…
Fall straight into.