Hi there this is Clay with relationshipinnergame.com.
I am the world's leading expert on breakups for high achievers.
And in this video we're going to talk about three signs that your ex cannot stop thinking
about you.
Okay?
So the first sign is that, after the breakup, their entire life seems to be a reaction to
you or to the relationship that they had with you, right? and this often takes the form
of rebound relationships, right?
So, you know, it's no surprise that a lot of people after a breakup, will just jump
right into a rebound relationship, you know, it's easier than dealing with their emotions
and all that stuff.
And often, you know, that's one reason, mainly why rebound relationships do not work in the
long run, but it's also a sign that your ex is thinking about you constantly, especially
when, you noticed some something psychological called displacement, right?
And what this is, is, you know, oftentimes when we are in a relationship with somebody,
we have a certain level of commitment or intimacy, right?
You know, we move in together.
We, you know, go steady.
We, we do all kinds of things, you know, we, maybe we get a dog together or something like
that.
Maybe we get engaged, I don't know. and so what, what you may experience a when your
ex goes into a rebound relationship is that they may start to move that new relationship,
the new rebound relationship up to about the same level as it was with you very quickly.
Right?
So maybe it took you and your ex like a year to move in together, but suddenly in his rebound
relationship, they might be moving in with their new partner within like a couple of
weeks or something.
It doesn't mean that the time that you had was worthless or that the connection with
the rebound person is stronger because they're moving so much faster.
All it is, is they are displacing their, their, their thoughts and emotions.
There's still wrapped up in you and the relationship they had with you onto this new person.
They're not even in a relationship with this new person, so to speak.
They're really in a relationship with you except that you're not in the relationship.
It's a little weird.
It's a little strange and it's something that, I've experienced firsthand myself.
After you know, my ex left me in the past, so it's absolutely something that does happen.
I've seen it time and time again with clients in the past.
So, that is one sign that you're it can stop thinking about us when their entire life with
their entire rebound relationship is more of a reaction, to you or reaction to the relationship
that they had with you.
Rather than something independent either.
Either they're moving towards the same thing or they're just completely rebelling and going
the opposite polar opposite way.
Right?
That is one sign that your ex cannot stop thinking about you.
The second sign of the year cannot stop thinking about you is when they just kind of get, like
really curious about you.
You'll make maybe this is overt, maybe they are contacting you often trying to check in
on you trying to keep tabs on each one to see what you're up to.
Or maybe it's, you know, a little bit more subdued, right?
A little bit more covert, whether that is, you know, facebook stalking, you know, spying
on you for through other social media websites through other means whatsoever, you know,
getting their friends to ask about you, whatever it might be.
Right?
This, this is just simply a sign that your ex can stop thinking about you and, you know,
kind of like we talked about in a previous video, a, this is really coming from a place
of, you know, their intention, right?
Every action that they have has an intention behind it.
So he's not like, they're just uncontrollably going onto facebook and stalking you or anything
like that.
They have an intention behind that.
And the intention is like, Hey, what are you up to?
What's going on?
What have you moved on?
And you found someone else, are you dating?
Are you happy?
Are you sad?
What's going on? and so they're constantly thinking about you and they just want to check
in and know where you're at.
Whether that, again is overt or covert, whether they're like just straight up saying, hey,
what's going on?
Or whether they're kind of using their, their network of little birdies to kind of keep
tabs on you.
Right?
And the third sign that your ex cannot stop thinking about you is when they mysteriously
go quiet very suddenly.
Right?
And, oftentimes again, like we talked about what that first sign is, it's, it's kind of
like a sharp pulling away.
It's their life is becoming a reaction against you or against what the two of you had.
And when your ex suddenly pulls away and suddenly goes very quiet.
it's often because they are kind of going very sharply against their, their inclination
to reach out and contact you right there suddenly pulling away, you know, they might be doing
something like the no contact rule trying to, you know, again, dropped down.
That curtain dropped down that wall, so to speak, to, to kind of keep themselves from
reaching out to keep themselves from being contact with you.
For whatever purpose they might have.
Maybe they want to get back together with you, maybe they want to heal, maybe they just
want to stop driving themselves crazy with thoughts about the breakup and stuff like
that, whatever.
But oftentimes when they just go mysteriously silent like that, it can be a sign that they
are thinking about you way too much and, that they are trying to control that.
Trying to reign that in a by just sort of, you know, cutting things off totally.
So again, those are three signs that your ex cannot stop thinking about you.
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Thanks.