Fear is something that is within all of us, some of us are afraid of not being able to
pay his bills, others want to learn to drive but are afraid to give it a try.
most us have almost the same fears.
But fear is not really that bad as we think of it, indeed fear is the reason why we would
think twice before doing something or taking a decision, if you are completely fearless
you would do probably lots of stupid things.
Anyways, fear is still stopping from doing what we want, from having a better life, from
achieving our dreams and goals, so here is how you can overcome your fears.
understand what makes you fear
it sounds too simple, but that’s the root of the problem itself, most people don’t
know what exactly makes them fear.
If you just think about it, fear is not real, its a perception or imagination in your mind,
your mind is dreaming or imagining some sort of things out there and your job is to bring
it back to present so that you start thinking rationally.
its something that we have created in our minds.
let’s say for example you are afraid to go the dentist, I actually was afraid for
many years to go to the dentist, so whenever they start doing something to my teeth, I
would close my eyes and get nervous and stressful, the only thing i would want at that moment
is for that to finish, it was like the hell for me.
defiantly they would give me that drug that I won’t feel any pain but still I was afraid.
so the reason I was actually afraid because I had this imagination in my mind that its
actually painful.
So if I would stop imagining that, that fear would go away.
let’s take another example, lets say you have a job interview.
you are really getting stressful and nervous about it because you are afraid.
you see, when things are not certain, our minds start imagining and that’s what exactly
makes you fear.
let’s consider this, what if you already know that you will be accepted because your
Dad is the CEO of this company, and he promised you that you will get the job, will you be
afraid now?
not at all, because you know u will be accepted, things are certain now so your mind stops
imagining and creating this false perception in your mind which is fear.
Get Back To Present
What i would really suggest from my experience is that, when you get afraid of something,
be it from public speaking, whatever, you start loosing your self, you start panicking,
when you do that, you stop thinking rationally, your conscious mind is not there anyone.
your emotions already took control of you, because fear is some sort of emotion
what you have to do in this sort of situation is to calm down and relax no matter how big
is that issue, yes I really mean, even if it cost you everything, the first thing you
have to do to relax because if you take a decision base on your emotions, most likely
you won’t like it later on, so the way to relax when you are afraid of something is
to simply breath deeply and focus on it.
take a deep breath and concentrate on it so that you came back to present.
Practice
for the first time to overcome any fear would be a bit difficult for some people, so the
way to deal with it is to practice, like for instance, if you are afraid of driving, go
and drive, if you are afraid of heights, go to the top of your building and starting looking
down from the balcony and start breathing slowly and concentrating on it to bring back
your conscious mind to present.
Don’t worry if you don’t succeed for the firs time, but trust me, with a little bit
of practice, you will really be able to do that in any situation and under any circumstances
because you will learn how control your mind in this kind of situations.
be optimistic / focus on what you will gain out of conquering your fear instead of what
you will loose
focus on something positive you will get out of it, to motivate your mind to actually not
only just overcome the fear but to be excited about it.
to overcome it with passion and strength, first of all, you will conquer your fear faster
than you expect, secondly you will enjoy the process.
it will encourage you to overcome other fears in your life.
it will boost your confidence and will make your better.
Lets go back to our interview example, there are 2 possible outcomes, either you get the
job or not, if you get the job, well done congrats, but if you don’t get the job,
you got the experience that will help you to do better in the next interview.
Focus your mind on that positive outcome you will gain out of it no matter how it will
end up.
take a action “Inaction breeds doubt and fear.
Action Breeds Confidence And Courage.
If You Want To Conquer Fear, Do Not Sit Home And Think About Tt.
Go Out And Get Busy.”Dale Carnegie
if you keep running away from your fears, it will never disappear unless you fight,
if you try to take away your mind from it by trying to entertain yourself in some way,
you will not overcome it.
you have to face it and defeat it, definitely.
fear is something very unexpected, and even if you defeat once, it might come again, so
in other words your job is not to only defeat the fear but to learn how to defeat it so
that every time when it comes back again , you know how to deal with it.
Lets recap everything, Understand what makes you fear – find out
the real reason behind your fear Get back to present – bring your mind back
by breathing deeply Practice – don’t give up if you fail for
the first time, you might need some practice Focus on what you will gain – focus on the
positive thing you will get out of it Take Action – and finally don’t expect
to overcome your fear by not doing anything, take action
I actually had a lot of fears, from going to the dentist, the fear of heights, I was
afraid of public speaking, the fear of not being able to pay my bills and the list goes
and this is how I actually defeated all of them.
I really hope that these tips will help you to overcome whatever fear you have, no matter
what it is.
trust me it will give you a piece of mind.