- Do you feel like he is treating you
like an option rather than a priority?
So in this video, I will share with you three ways
how to be his priority and not an option.
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Hello, my name is Gretta Bereisaite,
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Just before I share with you the three reasons
on how to be his priority and not an option,
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So my queens, without further ado, let's start.
Number one, do not give him the option
of putting you as an option.
What do I mean by that?
Spend quality time with the right friends
and the right family members.
Have a necessary boundaries towards yourself and others.
If he has often waited until the last minute
to ask you to hang out
and you have always given him his way,
this is why he treats you as an option.
If you have nothing better to do, or you are so into him,
drop everything for him,
he senses that and will never treat you like his priority
since you don't treat yourself as one.
Your life should matter to you
and it should be very important to you.
So if you always wanted to lose weight
or get that promotion at work,
then make a plan and get to work.
Please it's when you have a life in a relationship
this is when he wants to be in your life with you.
Number two, do not share your whole life with him
in one date.
You know how ladies go on dates
and share all their life on the platter in one evening?
We do it as quickly as we can in order to bond with the man.
Well, that's not how men bond.
Men don't bond through talking and sharing,
they bond through having fun together.
So this is what you do instead.
If he wants to know you,
he needs to date you and bond with you step by step.
Not only this is how he will invest into you,
but it will also be fun for you and him
as he will look for the ways how to figure you out.
And when he doesn't see you,
it will make him wonder what you are about.
Do you think he will be putting you as an option
when his thoughts are of you trying to figure you out?
Of course not.
Number three, stop chasing.
If he already has you as an option,
it's very possible that you are over chasing him already.
Boring.
Think about it.
Would a man be thinking of you, trying to figure you out
when you are chasing him nonstop?
No.
As you're there to try and mark your territory,
he knows you are into him,
he can see right through your actions.
Why think of you and put you as a priority
when he already has you under his thumb?
I mean, she's so into me.
If I'll leave her hanging, obviously she'll wait,
but that other girl doesn't chase,
so I can't leave her hanging
as she might find someone else instead.
You see the difference ladies?
However, this does not mean you ignore him,
but if you're always the one initiating,
texting or calling him, it is time to step back
and let him wonder what has happened.
Why are you not initiating as much as before?
It may take some time for him to come your way
when you stop chasing
as you were the one always running the show
and he might bring up some power games
as instead of stroking his ego by chasing him,
you are now becoming a challenge for him,
and this is what men fall for.
But if you want him to be excited to talk to you
and start to pursue you by treating you as a priority
and not an option, this is what you have to do.
On how to handle his power games,
please watch my video right here.
Also ladies, I have a video for sale,
which I will drop in the description box below.
It's about games men play on women.
Have the knowledge, feel safe
and do not fall into their traps.
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Thank you for watching my queens, kisses from Manchester.
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