There are books all over my house.
There are five books, in particular, that have completely changed my life and how I
operate in the world and how I even really ended up here talking to you.
I, often times, will share these books with anyone I speak to for longer than five minutes,
because they were so influential for me, and I had never really shared them with you.
So I wanted to share the five books that have changed my life in this video.
The first is called Calling in the One.
I seriously feel like this book is a secret weapon for anybody who is really trying to
find healthy relationships in their life.
I was in the place where I read this book, where I was single.
I've been single for a couple of years.
I really thought I was ready for a relationship, then I read the book and realized maybe I
wasn't and there was some work to do.
To the book showed me that I was trying to find things externally that I wanted in a
partner without fulfilling those things within myself first.
What the book does is it teaches you instead of looking for the things that you want to
attract, being the things that you want to attract ... It might sound like super airy-fairy,
but for me, it made such a massive difference.
The cool thing with this book is it's a 40-day course.
Every single day, there's a tiny little exercise that you do that helps you call in the one.
Now, spoiler alert, “the One” is actually you, so you can really call in yourself, know
who you are, what you want, what you want to attract, and how you can be those things
so you become a magnet for it.
My favorite quote in this book is, “Until you are able to see yourself living the life
that you truly want, it will be difficult for you to create it.”
I did a whole podcast episode on this book, because it's a really crazy story that when
I started reading the book, I had no idea what I was trying to bring into my life really.
By the 40th day, in the last today, in the last exercise in this book, my boyfriend and
I, my now boyfriend, connected.
He reached out to me and we went on our first date a week later, and we've been together
for three years, so that's magical.
The next book, as you can tell by my Post-its, has been well-used and it's called Scaling
Up.
When I read this book, I was trying to figure out how to go from a one-woman show to really
building a solid team around me.
I had already started building my team, but this recommendation came from someone I really
admire and respect.
It taught me the very basic things that you need to know in a business when it comes to
hiring the right people; finding the right people for your team; executing on the right
strategy; having cash reserves so that you can weather any kind of storm in your business,
because they're always going to come; and tactical information about things as far as
like how to run a proper meeting within your business, how to talk to the people in your
business, how to orchestrate your cashflow.
So many valuable tactical nuggets for building and scaling a real business are in this book.
My favorite quote from this book is, “Goals without routines are wishes; routines without
goals are aimless.
The most successful business leaders have a clear vision and the disciplines (routines)
to make it a reality.”
Next book is in the finance category and this is something that I read when I was just starting
my business very, very early days.
I have no YouTube channel at the time.
I was just getting things rolling in my very local tiny business, and I was trying to figure
out how to achieve financial freedom by building my business over the next couple of years.
This book changed the game for me.
I read it when I was on vacation.
As soon as I came home, I basically changed the entire financial structure of what I was
doing at the time, which was basically nothing.
I had no idea how to invest.
I had no idea how to save money.
I had no idea how to really manage my money.
And I really didn't know how to create financial freedom.
One of those impactful parts of this book is that it teaches you to figure out what
do you need.
People will be like, “I want to make a million dollars.”
Do you really need a million dollars to be financially free?
Probably not.
It will take you through this exercise of what you want your dream life to look like,
what it's going to cost you.
Then figuring out, basically, reverse engineering how much you need to be making in order to
make that happen.
Once you have that number, it's so easily achievable.
I wrote that number down in here and I achieved it within the first year of reading this book.
This book is amazing.
Again, super tactical.
Taught me about investing my money in a smart way; saving my money for a rainy day; and
just setting myself up financially, so that I could truly be financially free; educate
myself on this topic that seemed really overwhelming to me before I read this book.
My favorite quote in this book is, “What matters is that you master money and it doesn't
master you.
Then you are free to live life on your own terms.”
To me, from being a consumer to being an investor.
Seriously, I came home from that vacation, finished reading this book, and I set up my
first investment, which was a huge deal for me at the time.
I started very, very, very small, and I've continuously grown passively over the last
couple of years.
Anyone who's trying to figure out finances, read this.
The next book is about work-life balance.
If you do know for longer than five minutes, I will most likely talk about this book, because
it helped me figure out how to navigate the word “balance”.
I really don't believe the word “balance” exists.
The Three Marriages is about three relationships that are most important in our lives.
That's relationship to your relationships, your people in your life, your family, your
friends and your partner; your relationship to yourself; and your relationship to your
work.
Those are the three marriages we pretty much all have.
How do they flow together?
Work-life balance is this concept that we've created but doesn't really exist.
What more so exist and what this book taught me is that it's a constant even flow.
Sometimes your work is going to take precedent and everything else is going to take a backseat.
Sometimes, your personal life and your relationships in your personal life are going to take precedent
and everything else will take a backseat.
You have to let them flow easily.
That's what this book allowed me to realize and help me do.
I would [chop 00:06:42] in putting so much pressure on trying to find balance, because
I don't think it exists.
My favorite quote from this book is, “Work and life are not separate things and therefore
cannot be balanced against each other except to create further trouble.”
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success is the next book, and it is the easiest read.
The spiritual laws of success are not difficult to master.
They're very basic concepts.
What this book is all about is showing you how to really create the life that you want
and create the circumstances in your life that you want based on ancient principles
and basic principles.
The law that hit home the most for me and really changed things for me was the law of
detachment, so letting everyone around you just be who they are, and just accept people
in your life as they are; don't create that friction by trying to change people or change
circumstances; being able to surrender and let go of control, even in work; not trying
to control the outcome of every single thing that I do.
This book, again, it will take two hours to read, and it will change your life.
My favorite quote in this book is, “Attention energizes, and intention transforms.
Whatever you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life.
Whatever you take your attention away from will wither, disintegrate, and disappear.”
Truthfully, if I hadn't have picked up these books, and a lot of them came to me in very
strange ways - gifts from friends, just stood out to me at the book store - I don't think
I would be the person I am today, and I don't think I would have the relationships, the
business, the mindset that I have today, and I really do mean that.
I am such an avid reader and I read a lot of books.
It's a high compliment that these books are really the books that changed my life.
I wouldn't have known how to save money and be able to have a nest egg, if anything God
forbid happen to my business.
I wouldn't have figured out how to go after my passion, be here talking to you, if I hadn't
read Fire Starter Sessions.
I wouldn't understand how to surrender to the process of building a business, which
is a hard process, if I didn't know the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.
Every single one of these books ... I also wouldn't be in a relationship that I'm in
with my partner and my boyfriend if I didn't read Call in the One.
I really don't think that I would.
I needed to do all of this work and read all of these books in order to be where I'm at
today.
That's why I'm so adamant about sharing them with you.
The links to all these books are in the description below.
I would love to know if you read them.
Also, what are your game-changing books?
What are the books that have changed your life?
Comment below and let me know.
I hope you enjoy this video.
I know it's a little bit of different style, but this is what we're doing now on Fridays,
which is really exciting.
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I really love telling you guys this stuff because it excites me that these made such
a big difference for me.
I know they can make such a big difference for you.
Even if it's just one of these books that I mentioned that struck a chord with you,
I hope that you read it.
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