have you ever been accused of being too jealous or insecure do you question
whether your jealousy is normal in your relationship or do you feel like you
have good reason to be overprotective in this video you will learn the difference
between unhealthy jealousy and normal jealousy that anyone should feel
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so you aren't missing anything ok on to jealousy make no mistake about it
experiencing a little bit of jealousy within a romantic relationship is not
always a bad thing I mean if you see a person making moves
on your partner or trying to date your partner experiencing some jealousy and
talking to him about is a healthy and appropriate response so no you're not
crazy or psycho or if you're dating a person
who has cheated in the past or cheated on you perhaps you're jealous feelings
are motivated by the fact that he can't be trusted
so with that in mind here are the signs that you've taken your jealousy to far
number 1 you want to spend every waking moment alone with your boyfriend now
this can feel romantic and passionate when you're falling in love but while it
feels sweet initially it can also be a sign that you're trying to isolate them
for all of his attention see missing him and wanting more time is ok insisting
that you spend all your time with them is not so how can you find out if you're
too jealous well ask yourself this question are you offended when he
suggests having a night out with his friends if so you may want to explore
this topic closely and I know some people are thinking I trust him but I
don't trust his friends or his friends are a bad influence or I don't like his
friends again you feel upset about him wanting to hang out with his friends
alone and if he's not giving you a reason to believe he's on trustworthy
you should really dive into what can really worry about you don't want this
to spin out of control and become on the other hand if your partner's
making plans to go up bars every Friday and Saturday and only makes time for you
but he has nothing better to do then you should be upset and concerned and
jealous and have a conversation with him number two you're obsessed with your
partner's social media activity are you constantly keeping tabs on his social
media activity mainly who he follows who each friends and likes or comments on if
so there may be some jealousy issues for example early on in your dating
relationship you already stopped all of this social media and made a note of all
of the likes or comments he's made over the past year including time before you
even knew each other and then you find clever ways of asking him about each and
every woman who could be in his dating pool again
let's examine normal versus abnormal seeing a photo of your partner kissing
an ex will probably cause you an experience of jealous pain but it's in
the past and the jealous feeling should subside quickly on the other hand
obsessing over his ex stalking her social media and questioning him over
and over yeah that's pathological so have you had
experiences with the Java sparked nur or found yourself feeling insecure and
jealous in your relationship if so please share your experience there may
be someone who really needs to hear your story today it might just be incredibly
helpful to someone who's dealing with a similar situation number three who are
you talking to okay here's a good one let's say you
call your boyfriend and find that he's on another call see sometimes you can
tell that a person is on another call by the sound when they click over and
answer your call so you call and he's out another life do you feel obsessed
with knowing who he's talking to and I don't mean curious I mean would it
bother you if he doesn't offer to tell you who he was talking to and you would
even have to ask I mean normal is being curious about what he's doing but
pathological jealousy is not being able to get to the subject of the call
without knowing who he was talking to it becomes your main focus now I know that
this example might be kind of extreme but you get my point
number four you need him to give you detail
accounts of his day even when he's at work if you must constantly question his
whereabouts and he's never given you reason to believe he's unfaithful it's a
sign that you're jealous in an unhealthy way here's an example you know it takes
your boyfriend 17 minutes to get home from work today
it took him 33 minutes it sounds like one of my kids a home birth problems all
right let me start all over you know it takes your boyfriend 17 minutes to get
home from work today it took him 33 minutes do you need to
know exactly why it took him 16 more minutes today I mean it should only take
17 minutes what were you doing who were you in that's abnormal if you're
constantly questioning his whereabouts it may be a sign that you're way too
jealous number 5 you disapprove of his favorite people or favorite activities
besides people who may represent a sexual threat if you disapprove of his
friends or activities or hobbies that make him happy it could be a sign of
extreme jealousy in other words you feel threatened by anything that he might be
happy or enjoy doing by himself or without you
and of course it might start out with guilt tripping him into changing plans
to be with you it might also keep mocking or making fun of his activities
and friends look everyone experiences jealousy to a certain degree in a
relationship very losing your partner or feeling threatened around other
attractive people can be a sign that you care about your relationship that means
that experiencing any of these signs once doesn't mean to have a problem but
if you're experiencing all of them perhaps you should explore the reasons
the good news like most other difficult emotional experiences
jealousy if treated correctly can be a trigger for growth but that starts with
an honest conversation with yourself and your partner discussing how jealous
behavior is hurting your relationship if you're dealing with an insecurity issue
working together on it can become the first step to increase self-awareness
and greater understanding of yourself and of the relationship and that brings
me to my next point perhaps your partner has given you good reason to be jealous
is he a flirt has cheated on you does he want to cheat if
so a revaluation of your commitment is in order because maybe you're in a
relationship with a player so click here to watch video on the sides that you're
being played I'll see you in that video