may 20th 2022
"Recently i've been thinking about the difference between the resume virtues and the eulogy virtues.
the resume virtues are the ones that you list on your resume;
the skills that you bring to the job market and that contribute to external success.
the eulogy virtues are deeper. They're the virtues that get talked about at your funeral;
the ones that exist at the core of your being. whether you're kind brave honest or faithful
what kind of relationships you've formed." I actually got this quote from a book called "The
Road to Character" that I found on the platform Shortform. You can actually check out a summary
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As this book says what would people say about me at my funeral
although it's quite the negative question and it's definitely not a time in our life we want to
think about i believe that we should think about this a bit more what do we want people to say at
our funeral or maybe in a nicer manner what do you want people to say about you when you're not there
do we want them to think of us as humble or courageous kind or strong
we're all aware of the term moral compass it's the guide from right to wrong a huge portion of
our moral compass comes from our parents and our surroundings but as we get older we start
to develop our compass and create our own set of morals i think it's time for me to create mine
i wrote down five morals that i would like to associate with myself
in the future five morals as a goal on how i can act to be better for myself
and better for the community around me here are the five morals.
Be more selfless this is a really tough one because we all want to be more selfless but
the moment someone gets on our nerves we find ourselves dropping this moral
being selfless is not only being generous for others and giving what you have
but it requires patience being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes you have to take
yourself out of the equation and think about what is on the other's mind to listen to a friend talk
with 100 of your attention rather than thinking about how the story relates to you and waiting
to put your opinion on the matter to ask more questions and actually want to know the answer
To be a woman of my word. This is a moral that i think i've been developing a lot lately
when i make a plan with a friend i show up no matter what and i show up on time
hopefully it's doing what you said you'll do i want people to know that they can count on me
that if i say i will show up with presentation on monday that the presentation is done and done
to a great standard another way i interpret this phrase is by talking more directly i've started
saying i don't think i'll make it rather than i'll see what i can do as not to lead people on
do to know that they can depend on me when i tell them i will show up.
To be more grateful. i know i live a blessed life and i'm luckier than the most
yet small moments of distress turn a whole day into a bad one being grateful
isn't about appreciating perfection but more about having gratitude for
all of the good in your life no matter how small the list might be it's about waking
up and thinking about how lucky you are to smell coffee and to see this on another day.
Be more humble. that no matter who i am and who i move around these days that i have
someone to learn something from when teaching a group of five-year-olds i can learn kindness
and when speaking to my grandfather i can learn a lot more about life than i would ever know at 21.
Always do the grade greater good. I really believe in karma and i believe that the people who give
more out to the world always receive more back in the end even if it may only be a better conscious.
Now i'm not saying i'll always do the right thing
i'm only human and i know i'll make mistakes along the way. This brings me
to the question how do you want people to describe you when you're not in the room?