- I think one thing is like your patience.
Because you have been really patient with me
just being like scared and guarded.
So that's like really one thing
we're not even 5 minutes in and I'm crying
- Oh. - You were kin to.
- Yeah, I think definitely like the patience.
When do you feel closest to me?
- Probably like when I'm
at your house.
Because it's just, I mean... - Get out of my head.
it's just, you know, like there is no outside
distraction, it's just the one on one volatile. - Yeah.
- And then there's Daisy, of course, but
it's just that one on one bond time
to, you know, to feed off each other energy.
You know? So... - Yeah, I was going to say that, too.
I mean, going out is nice.
Like I'm glad we don't always be in the house.
But sometimes I'm like, I just don't want to be around people.
- Yeah, yeah, for sure.
When was the last time you considered ending this
relationship, and why didn't you?
- Well, I haven't considered.
I haven't considered ending it, but I did find myself finding reasons why
it wouldn't work before we decided that we were going to be in a relationship,
and that was just my own fears were like, oh,
just after being single for so long and just
all of that, I think I was fine.
And I think we might have talked about this a little bit,
but I was definitely like trying to find reasons
why it possibly wouldn't work .
- It just downed you beforeheand.
- Yeah.
- Like, yeah.
- I was wondering if we would get this question,
what's the pain in me you wish I could heal?
- Oh, if we're talking about on a physical level then of course, like
the issues that you have with your hip.
- Okay. - Yeah.
If we're talking on like, I guess emotional and spiritual level
would be like things which are there, especially like.
Sometimes I feel selfish.
The fact that like I had my dad
and like I actually like got, you know, memorable moments
with my dad and then like, you know, you didn't get to really experience that,
even like my dad passed away.
I still got to like, you know, have like moments that I can look back on.
And when you tell me about your situation,
you kind of like
dims like the light on
me talking about what I got,
while even though I know you wouldn't
look at it like that, for sure, like you
like you care and you like embrace
like the situation between like, you know, but it's kind of like.
hard to really like.
You know, you know what I'm saying?
Like it's hard to kind of like talk about something that I had.
- Yeah.
- Even though I don't have it anymore, but I had it.
And it's like, you know.
Well...
- Because I didn't necessarily have that.
- Yes, and is still here.
You know, like... - Sometimes I feel
I do feel so kind of the same thing, like I feel bad.
for expressing how I feel about the whole situation, because
you lost your dad,
so so sometimes I do feel bad for like the things that I say.
- I mean, you can't take back no hurt.
- Yeah.
- So you can't really like feel bad.
Like, I think like that's why I say I think is more so like as we continue
to work and grow, we understand like how to like...
I guess mesh both.
parts together in a way to
where, like neither one of us feel, you know, like...
- I mean, even in your head
must be like you still for whatever reason, like may be hard.
- Yeah, I mean... - Like I dread Father's Day.
- Yeah, I know.
And that's the crazy part about it, because it's like you drift all the
energy for the day too.
But we have two different... - Reals.
- Yeah, and so, you know.
So that's what I would like.
If I could, I would.
But I mean, continue to...
I think it will be the same, like it will be the same.
For me, but I also recognize that is neither one of our jobs to heal that
within the other person necessarily like.
Of course, we got our own stuff
and it's like our responsibility to deal with it.
But, of course, like it's not just I'm not
I would never say like, oh, that's not a problem I'm going to deal with.
Like, I know that is still like a hurt that you have.
And I listen just like you listen when I
I try to work through my stuff, so.
- Yeah.
How do our different upbringings affect our relationship?
That's a good question.
That is a good question. I think for me
is my desire to be so independent, just like for the most
part being raised by a single mom, always been like, you know,
I've seen her be like, oh, look, I got it.
It's her just like doing it all herself.
And I know, I realize like that's where I get it from.
And it's just like fine.
Like, I got it, and it's not necessarily to like.
I don't want this to come off the wrong way,
because I remember you saying
sometimes you feel like I don't need you, and it's not like in the sense of like.
Like the companionship, yeah, I do need it, but also like
like I got it myself, but I'm working on it.
So I think that's one thing like my independency
is a factor.
Like the other night when you was like, I was like,
I'll just cash you the money for dinner, like I almost pushed back
When I was just like: "Okay".
- Yeah, I was shocked.
- Yeah, I almost pushed back but I was like: "Okay".
- Is not that actually you're feeling okar.
- I'm working on it. - Yeah. Right.
Well, I mean, I guess I would say it's the same thing.
I don't like I don't get offended by it, though, like, you know what I'm saying?
I just like that's just my gesture, like my nature.
So if I care for you.
Then I'm just trying to go on my way to make sure, like,
you know, because like I said before, like I having like lost
so many people... I don't really get close to people like that.
So when I do get close to people, I want to make sure that they're
percent comfortable.
And, you know, they're like, I treat them well and take care of them.
And it's almost like
I don't want to like a dependency and I want the person that had
to depend on me.
But I just want them to like once again, that reassurance.
That like, you know, like I got you. Right?
- Yeah. - It's cool. Don't worry about it like. No.
So that's pretty much what we do. OK.
- Why am I in your life?
Huh? Because you allow me to be here.
I mean, I I've told you that I you know, I enjoy like,
you know, you and the vibes that I got when I first met you.
If I didn't want to see you again after that, I wouldn't have.
Yeah, and I think you're a special person.
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