When you have those sinking feelings and you don't know what to do, watch this
video because I'm going to help you with your self-doubt and your insecurities.
Okay, inside you there is this measuring line. And in the middle, there's a line
that goes across and there's all these little hash marks up and there's all
these little hash marks down. And inside you, you actually can feel where the
indicator arrow is going. Meaning, is it going up or is it going down. And based
upon life experiences, it can cause it to go up or it caused it to go down.
But this indicator line on the inside of you, this is yours, right? So, this is yours.
It's your... It's a safety mechanism for you to be able to recognize where are
you on the inside. Now, for you to be able to you know get better at facing and
working with and moving and changing from insecurity and self-doubt, what
happens is first, we need to be able to recognize where are we on the scale and
where do we want to go. Now, have you ever had a friend come to you and say, "Hey, you
should just be happy." And you're thinking, "Are you kidding? Do you know how many
steps there are between me and happiness?" You could be clear down here and your
friend is saying, "Hey you should be happy. It's a nice sunny day." And then you count
the steps 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10. And you're like, "I can get that far. That's
like 10 to 12 steps between where I really am and where are you really
thinking I should be." So, something I'm going to help you with is be gentle with
yourself. When you find out that you are in the insecure or self-doubt zone. And
you find that you might be on one of these lines down here, progress for you
is to move from this line to that line. You don't have to
jump from here clear to there in one step. That's why it feels like you can't
make it. That's why you feels like you can't change just because you're
actually you have too high of expectation of yourself thinking that
you can make 12 or 13 or 14 steps in one move. And that is why you feel trapped.
That's why you feel like there's no way you can ever come back from where you
are feeling right now. So, years ago, years ago... And I mean think for just a moment
we're looking at actually a good 11, 12 years ago. I was at my lowest point. Way
down there. I was clear down here at my lowest point. Like there's almost no more
room to go. Clear down here and I had people around me who were saying things
like, "All I gotta do is smile. All you got to do is do this." And I don't
know how you feel when that happens. But I was like, "You know what? Get out of my
face. You know what? Shut up. You don't
understand how I feel." And that smile at them. And I'd be cordial with them but on
the inside, I just wanted to choke them. Because they just had no clue where I was.
And they were giving me advice that was impossible. They were saying things that
are expecting me to be clear up here and it's like don't you understand I can't
get there in one step I can't move there in one step. And I
started realizing, I didn't have very many people who understood where it was
that. In fact, nobody understood where I was at. The only person who will ever
understand where you're at is if somebody's in the same place you are.
Because all these happy people and I mean how... They don't they don't get it.
They're up here feeling confident secure and sure themself and you know they're
just doing things in life. They don't get it. They don't understand what that feels
like be down here. I know how that feels like.
I've been there. And I remember how people talk to me. And I remember just
wanting them to go away. Leave me alone. And while I was in that
place, I realized the depth and the height that I just can't get to. I just
can't... I'm clear down here, I can't make that step, in one step, in one day, in one
weekend, in one month. I can't do that. And I remember drawing on paper this
scale and I remember marking on the scale I am here. That's where I'm at. And
I remember looking at this going that is going to take forever to get there. Because
I just trying to get here seems impossible. And I remember looking at the
paper and saying to myself, "Okay, I'm dealing with thoughts that I should kill
myself. I'm dealing with thoughts I want to run away. I'm dealing with thoughts I
should leave my wife. I'm dealing with thoughts that I'm just no good, useless
to everybody." I'm dealing with all these thoughts how do I make any progress. How
do I even make any forward moving progress like this this really is
terrible. And I remember pointing out you know my
paper is here and I remember saying to myself, "What if I could just get to there?"
And I remember thinking, "That would be the coolest thing ever." Like, I actually
could feel like I got somewhere. Because I can't do this. I can't. So, I started
thinking what it is... Sorry but this is exactly how I thought. What stupid
thing could I do that will make me feel better? I know,
that doesn't make sense, right? But you know how it is when you're down here
it's just like everything's stupid. People are stupid,
everything's stupid. Food is stupid, everybody's just just stupid.
Everything's stupid. So I was like what stupid thing could I do that could
actually move me? And while I was pondering on this, you know trying to
figure this out, I turned on some music and I'm listening
to this song and it was an angry song. It's really weird. But it was a song
where the person who was singing it was all upset about life and how they hated
everything and and I'm listening to this person saying and I'm going, "Wait a
second. This actually makes sense to me. Where you know months and months ago
this was an irritating song. But right now, this song actually this I can relate
to this song. How angry this person is on this song." And and in that moment
I went, "You got to be kidding. This angry song is actually making me feel better."
Okay, I'm not going to tell anybody that I like this song now because it speaks my
language. But a song caused me to feel like somebody cared. Like yeah, I think I
mattered. And I found this song I started listening to this song and it wasn't
like this person who's angry and they're hurting people and that kind of stuff. It
was just venting. Like why does things happen to me kind
of a song. And I related to it. But wow. You know what happened? That music got in
me. And it picked me up a tiny bit. Here I'm at the bottom and this weird song
like does something for me. So I went, "Wait a second. I think I actually moved. I
think something happened." I started looking around for other songs and any
song that was happy those up here was super irritating. Like who are these
people? They're so fake. They don't understand
like... Like I was just like stupid music. Okay? Am I going to listen to this? Because it's
like way too much. So, I went to find songs that were down here. There was just
a tiny bit up from where I was at. Just a tiny bit. I thought, "Oh, boy. I'm never
going to tell anybody if I did this process." Of finding the next upset angry song
that was just a little bit happier than my last upset song. Does that even make
sense? An upset song that's a little beer than my last upset song. So, I find
these songs that make this playlist. I get these songs put together. I wake up
in the morning I'm listening to these songs. Oh, my goodness. I just there... Was
music. It was just something of some kind of music. The music made me feel like I
was alive. The music made me feel like I was alive because something was feeling.
Something was moving through me. Where when you're down here, when you got down
insecurity, you don't feel much. You're kind of losing feelings. But music moved
me. And over the course of week 2 weeks, 3 weeks, 4 weeks I started moving.
These little tiny steps. These little tiny steps. You and where you're at right
now, you're looking for something to move you. And somebody else is positive
statements to you are not going to work. Happy stuff isn't going to work for you.
Once you drop down past a certain line, happy stuff doesn't work. You need
something that like relates to you. Something that you can feel. I'm telling
you what. Music makes the difference. If I go back I could almost cry right now. I'm
almost going to emote right now. Emotion come up. If I go back years and years ago,
and look at my playlist. My playlist of music shows what I've been through. Now,
here comes the emotion. Shesh! Should I go? Going to cry on a video that people are
going to watch and they're going to go, "This guy's happy." Yeah, you should deal with it.
So, but the music that I found... Now, that I listened to the music you know, here I am
now where I am today. I listen to it it's like, "Wow, I have to send a rough place."
That was in a bad place. But the music got inside me. You are struggling with
insecurity and you're struggling with doubt. There's hardly anybody who
understands you. But you clicked on this video and it's either for you or your
friend and you're wondering what you can do to make a difference. You get into
finding music that speaks your language. That's right
where you're at. And some songs don't have lyrics. If there's just a sound,
there's a movement in that music. And you find music. You find all those songs and
even though they're angry songs are upset songs or whatever, it's a feeling.
It's a feeling. I now have a whole new respect for people who have angry music
that they listen to and actually helps me understand them going, "Wow, they just
want to feel. They just want to relate." Now you and I both know you're going to
want to find something one more step up. And just use music to take you one step
at a time. And only move when you're ready.
But while everybody else is trying to figure out what's wrong with you and
they have no idea what's going on or you're trying to figure out a friend you
can't figure that's going on, you put some songs together for them. And take
them the music list. And just push play and give it to them. Just push play. And
just let the music play. Because at least there's some kind of movement. It's when
you lose feeling and your past feeling that we all should be really concerned
about you. Because once you drop down and you don't have feeling, then you start
thinking about taking your life. Then you start thinking about your want to go
away but you don't go there. Use music to stop the sinking feeling. Use music to
bring some kind of vibration back into you so that you can feel again. But music
saved me in a huge way. Ago again. But it saved me.
Where's nobody else knew what to say. Nobody else ended that one angry song. I
don't ever forget it. And now when I listen to it's like, "Well, that was the
game changer." So for you, every step could be a new song. A new song. And so when you
look at this just one step at a time, you can move yourself up. And when stopped
waiting for somebody else to help you, just find some music. It really works. And
when you're ready... Don't do this too soon. But when you're ready, sing the lyrics
with them. Because if you can feel and open up your
voice, you're heading the right way. You're going to do good. I'm super proud of
you for watching the whole video. And don't let too much time go by before you
find your music. Another thing that's going to help you is for you to get
better at managing what's going on inside your head. And there's all these
thoughts in there and I can help you with that. Right down below here there's
a link. Click the link and I really believe that what I have there for you
can help you manage what's going on in your thoughts. So you can change those a
little bit and you're in charge of what how you're going to change that. You're
going to do really good. Click the link, check it out. Before you, go definitely
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