Do you find your clients
walking all over your boundaries?
Do you see that happen in life, generally?
If that has been the case,
you need to start setting boundaries.
Hi, this is Ajit Nawalkha, and today
I will show you how to set better boundaries
with clients in your coaching business.
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We coach our clients to help them
establish clear boundaries in their lives,
and those boundaries should apply to
every coaching relationship as well.
Coaching partnerships are based on trust and
establishing a meaningful connection with
your clients, which makes the relationship
so special and powerful.
It can also make the line between
coach and client very blurry.
Here are 5 pieces of advice you should think
about when setting boundaries with your clients.
The first one is to know your triggers.
As the coach, it is your responsibility to ensure
you are clear in your communication
about the boundaries between you
and your clients from day one.
Clear boundaries start with you.
When you know and communicate what is important
to you, what is acceptable to you and what
is the way you want your clients to show up
for you, that becomes a great way to start
establishing boundaries.
This includes physical, mental,
emotional and spiritual triggers.
Think about it like having multiple personalities
that get activated by different triggers.
You get the idea.
Knowing your limits will make it easier for you
to set boundaries with others because
you’ll both have clear expectations
and build your rapport from that place.
For example, let’s talk about working hours.
Are you okay with clients who message,
call or email you with “urgent” issues at all
hours of the day and night?
Or clients who keep pushing your sessions
past the agreed end time?
Do you want clients who ask for free coaching
advice or want to pick your brain outside
coaching sessions?
If you’re totally fine with this, great!
Communicate that to your clients so they know
you’ll always be available for them.
If you want to separate your personal life
from your clients' immediate needs, tell them
you’ll take their calls and messages only
during specific days and times in the week.
Defining rules of engagement is not a limitation
that you putting on your client.
This is the freedom you are giving yourself.
All options are valid, as long as you are
clear about which are your triggers and limits.
You need to set clear rules for your clients
from the get-go.
The second advice is to remember that
caring also has a limit.
If you have enrolled a coaching client,
it’s clear that you have a genuine interest in
their well-being and progress.
If you didn’t, you wouldn’t have enrolled
them in the first place.
We want to see them grow and transform,
and we care for them as our clients
and as human beings.
But there’s a fine line between caring
and caring too much.
As a parent, caring too much for your kid
even if it means embarrassing them in front
of their friends is totally fine.
Right?
- You gotta say I love you back.
- Dad, are you serious?
- I wanna hear it.
- You wanna hear me say
- I love you, dad.
- Look at this place!
- Dad, I love you.
But coaching clients are not your children,
so don’t cross the caring line.
Some clients will need more support than others
and you might think you’re giving them a
helping hand by being a bit more attentive
than you usually are.
Before you know it, you’ve become their
life raft and crossed the line from being
their coach to being their caretaker or rescuer.
So, learn to say no and mean it.
This can be a difficult skill for some, and
especially to clients in need, but remember
you’re doing them a favor.
You’re helping them confront themselves.
Remember, it’s their journey, not yours.
Don’t make your care a life raft for your clients.
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healthy boundaries with your clients?
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all coaches to follow.
The third advice you want to remember is
that you must value your time.
Have you ever had a client who was
always late for a coaching session?
Or one who stopped the coaching session
to take a call or check their phones?
One time is understandable.
Two times, okay.
But when it keeps happening again and again,
it’s not about them anymore.
It’s about you.
Going beyond the allotted coaching
session time, whether it’s because the clients arrived
late or because you lost track of time,
may give the impression that you
don’t value time.
Make sure you value the coaching time to set
proper boundaries and have your clients respect
it too.
Valuing the coaching time also means
you value your time.
A client who doesn’t show up at the right time
for their coaching sessions consistently
is a client who isn’t committed to taking
action and creating results.
If you value your time and set a clear boundary
from the start, the right clients will stay
with you.
The fourth advice to know is that you must
Remember your role.
Sometimes you might have a client who reminds
you of yourself or someone close to you.
Or you might get drawn into a client’s story,
get attached and lose your objectivity.
The conversation starts turning from coaching
into mentoring, counseling or advising, or
worse, you transition
from “coach” to “good friend.”
Losing your coaching hat means
losing the coaching purpose.
Always remember your role.
Remember who you are.
And if you must switch roles for whatever reason,
let your client know and ask them
for approval to make sure you are both
aware of it and set those boundaries.
Lastly, do not feel guilty about setting boundaries.
Some clients may use manipulation or guilt
to change boundaries they don’t like and
make them more flexible, but don’t allow this to happen.
If clients are not okay with your boundaries,
then they won’t be good clients for you.
And it’s okay to let them go.
Sometimes it’s not about you, it’s them.
Establishing healthy boundaries will help
you gain respect and credibility as a coach
and will strengthen powerful coach-client relationships.
Do it for yourself and for your client so
both of you can get the most
out of the coaching partnership.
My wish for you is that you respect yourself,
your skills, your ability to coach and establish
clear boundaries so you and your clients
thrive in your coaching relationship.
That these boundaries allow for more thought,
more presence when you coach.
My wish for you is that you become
an even better coach.
Remember, boundaries are not restrictions,
they are a chance at freedom.
Now that you know the 5 simple ways to set
healthy boundaries with your coaching clients,
what’s next?
You have to know how to deliver
transformational coaching sessions.
Check out this video up here to discover how.
How do you set boundaries with your
coaching clients?
Share your best advice in the comment section
below so we can share best-case practice and
learn from each other.
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