- [Instructor] Hey, Psych2Goers.
Do you struggle to build deeper connections with others?
Are you looking for ways to connect with people
beyond the surface level?
Today's video is sponsored by So Syncd,
a place that can match partners personality types,
based on the 16 personalities model.
You can access it by clicking the link below.
Hey, Psych2Goers!
Welcome back to our channel.
Okay, so you're on a romantic first date
and you can't help but wonder if your date thinks
you're attractive as much as you think they are.
What attractive behaviors do you have that you can display
to your date?
Well, here are six behaviors that attract people the most.
Do you do any have them?
Number one, casually touch them.
A casual and friendly touch here and there
may just improve your attractiveness,
if the other person is comfortable with it.
A flirty quick nudge of the elbow
or a tap on the shoulder may just make them feel
closer to you.
In an experiment from the University of Mississippi
and Rhodes College researchers had waitresses
briefly touch customers on the hand or shoulders
in a controlled yet natural setting.
The waitresses who casually touched their customers
when returning the change
received a significantly larger tip
than those who did not.
In another study published in Psychology Press,
Taylor and Francis Group had men stand on the corner
of the street and attempt to talk to women
who would walk by.
The men were more successful in starting a conversation
with a woman when they lightly touched the woman
on the forearm for one second.
As the researchers state,
our results showed that a man's courtship solicitations
are more favorably accepted by a woman
when the request is accompanied by light tactile contact.
This isn't to say that everyone
would like to be touched on there by a stranger,
but a flirty brush of the arm
during a romantic date
might not hurt your chances of them finding you attractive.
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Number three, be a leader.
Want others to notice you?
When you can be a leader.
In a 2014 study,
researchers explored whether feelings towards
other people influenced
the perceptions of others attractiveness.
Having their subjects in groups,
they found subordinates rated their group leader
as significantly more attractive
than leaders outside their group.
So even if there is no role of group leader
in your next project,
be more vocal about your ideas, teach others.
There are many ways you can prove you are capable
and apparently attractive group leader.
On your next date, suggest a place you know all about
and take the lead on a romantic adventure.
It could be fun.
We talked about the importance of your potential partner
being attentive and remembering the little things,
which is why So Syncd could be the right app for you.
They pair couples, you have the right
amount of similarities to get each other
and just the right amount of differences to create that
spark for deeper, meaningful dating.
Upon taking the personality test
you discover your personality such as INFJ,
so thoughtful, or ENFP,
so curious.
Once you've mutually liked each other
you can start messaging.
Here are what some people using the app have said,
Lily, INFJ said,
"I didn't expect to find love so fast.
"Our personality types will be tattooed on me somewhere."
And Indy, ENFJ said,
"Matching people using personality types
"is such a simple and powerful concept.
"So Syncd helped us find love,
"even in this difficult time.
"You've really changed our lives.
"In fact, we're now married.
"Thank you."
Make sure you check out the app
in the description box below for more details.
We encourage you to try it out and give yourself a chance
to find deeper love.
Number four, smile when you can.
Feel like laughing at a funny joke?
Smiling at a sweet comment?
Then do so.
And don't be afraid to,
because smiling is quite attractive according to research.
A study published in the bulletin of Psychonomic Society
found smiling might just make you more attractive.
According to the study women in the experiment
who smiled 70% of the time
were seen as more interpersonally attractive
than a woman who seldom smiled.
Looks like a comedy club date might be a good idea.
Number five, maintain good eye contact.
Hah, your date's dreamy eyes.
Why not look at them?
Harvard psychologist, Zick Rubin conducted a study
where he recorded how much time lovers would spend
looking into each other's eyes.
He found that individuals who were not in love
looked at each other 30 to 60% of the time,
while those couples deeply in love,
they stared into each other's eyes 75%
of the time when talking,
and when someone else entered the room or interrupted them,
they were much slower to turn away
from their partner's gaze.
A little tip to really get someone
to consider these feelings of love for you,
look into their eyes 75% of the time.
The brain remembers the last time someone they loved
stared them in the same way.
They'll associate this stare with feelings
of love and attraction.
Why this lovely memory causes a release of phenylethylamine,
which is known as a love drug.
Phenylethylamine is released in the brain
when someone falls in love.
This chemical too mimics the brain chemistry of someone
who is deeply in love.
Chocolates contain phenylethylamine,
which is probably why it's historically
been considered an aphrodisiac.
So if you want your date to see you as attractive,
maybe romantically gaze into their eyes a bit
when you're talking to them
and maybe some hot chocolate, (chuckles)
chocolate.
And number six, crack a joke or two.
Who doesn't love a good joke?
Researchers from Illinois State University
and DePaul University found in their study
that when you used humor,
when getting to know an acquaintance at first,
that individual has a better chance of liking you more.
They even found that engaging in funny tasks
may raise romantic attraction.
See, I told you that comedy club
was the next perfect date choice!
Take the lead on picking your next date
and snuggle up for some good old comedy and hot chocolate.
Not only attractive, but delicious.
So which of these behaviors will you use on your next date?
Where will you take them?
Hot chocolate, comedy night
or romantic stroll hand-in-hand?
Share with us in the comment section down below.
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