Now work places all over the world are full of different people with different personalities
and almost every work place has that one annoying gossip monger, who can create a lot of unpleasantness
at work. Now in case you are getting irritated with a particular gossip monger at your work
place and don’t know how to deal with the situation? Well, you’ve come to the right
place and the right person. My name is Rima and today, I’m gonna talk about ways in
which you can deal with the office gossip monger.
Now the first way in which you can deal with that annoying gossip monger at work, is simple.
Just distance yourself, now distancing yourself can actually prove to be quite tricky. Distancing
yourself can be done in two ways depending on your personality. If your personality is
more of a direct personality, then all you need to do is directly approach the gossip
monger and tell them, that you are not interested in gossip and unpleasantness and would like
to have a more productive conversation. But if you are one of those, who does not like
to confront people and does not like to hurt other people’s feelings. Then you need to
be a little more indirect in distancing yourself. You can be polite, you can change the topic,
you can actually even make an excuse and walk away once the gossip starts. Either ways directly
or indirectly, you need to distance yourself from the said gossip monger, because gossip
can create a lot of unpleasantness at work.
The next wise and effective thing to do is to handle rumours with ease. Now gossip is
never pleasant for anyone and imagine, if you are the one being attacked. If the gossip
monger at work is working really hard and spreading rumours about you, yourself. How
do you think you’re going to handle it? Well, it’s not that difficult. All you need
to do is calmly approach the gossip monger and look them directly in the eye and ask
them for an explanation. Now when this happens, it’s very possible that the gossip monger
might deny having spread the rumours, might take a step back, might apologize or decide
and actually vow to never repeat such an action again. Either ways all of that will work out
in your favour, but the idea is to remain calm and not get agitated. Having said that
a more profound way of dealing with rumours is to always remain unaffected by them, no
matter how interesting or how spicy they get and to continue to do your best at work, every
single day no matter what.
Now the next most important thing to do, while dealing with the office gossip monger is to
bring his or her actions to the notice, to the attention of everyone else around you.
Now I’m sure you’re not the only one at your work place, whose getting bothered or
irritated by all the rumours, the lies and the gossip that is being spread. Now when
you find likeminded colleagues, bring to their attention the actions of the gossip monger.
And all of you can together come to a decision, where you people will void the set gossip
monger beyond the scope of work. When you do so, the gossip monger will not have many
avenues to continue spreading the lies and the rumours. And for all you know the gossip
monger may just give up.
Now the next thing that you can do to deal with the office gossip monger and in fact
I truly believe this is the best thing you can do is to have an intervention. Now what
is an intervention? An intervention means to intervene, so when a group of people get-together
and confront a single person about their particular behaviour and ask that person to stop that
behaviour, it’s called an intervention. So well, you know what to do. Get-together
with your colleagues, get into a huddle and plan an intervention and then all you need
to do is calmly confront the gossip monger and explain to the person that their behaviour
is not appreciated. It’s important to be very firm and strict in conveying this information,
when you do so, you never know what the outcome will be. Because you’ll be surprised, but
almost everyone in the world is capable of changing for the better and this whole thing
might just workout in your favour and the gossip monger will actually end up giving
up his or her gossipy habits.
Now lastly the most important thing that you need to remember while dealing with an office
gossip monger is that you are at your work place to work and not make friends. Now while
it’s very important to be jovial with your colleagues to have personal conversations
in order to build a bond or build friendship, it’s also very important to realize that
when the person that you are talking to is a gossip monger. It’s important to keep
your personal conversations to a bare minimum, to actually keep all conversation absolutely
in personal, crisp, short and to the point. By doing so, you are not feeding more information
to the gossip monger and that way you are restricting his or her activities. Now while
this can be very difficult for certain people to execute, because they may be friendly or
emotional by nature. The important point to always remember is that you are at your workplace
to work and create value, but not make friends. Meaning if you end up making friends with
your colleagues, that’s fine, but if you don’t, that’s fine too. Because your main
idea, your main focus should be your work.
So well these are the most effective ways in dealing with the office gossip monger.
Well, one workplace gossip monger and so many effective ways to deal with that one person.
Well, I really hope that these ways, these tips and tricks are helpful to you and that
you enjoyed yourself. It’s time for me Rima to take your leave. I wish you well; I wish
you all the best. And I’ll be back soon with yet another video. But before I go, I want you to
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