- So, Where I am. You know, as I'm doing this visualization, I enjoyed understanding it,
'cause I felt sort of conflicting things, but it was interesting the dynamics of each one.
One of them, where I am in life right now, in some ways it's absolutely wonderful
but it's also a tough place that I'm in
but it's been things that I've learned and things that I've experienced I wouldn't trade for anything in my life, right...
but at the same time
Would I wanna see myself in this position in the next five years, in the next ten years, etc.? No! I definitely wouldn't
I wanna move on with my life,
you know, I wanna meet a girl, marry her, have kids, all these types of things...
So, I guess my thing is...
How do you sort of reconcile the fact that you enjoy the experience of what you're going through, even if it is painful
but also, you want change and you want it very badly, and you're willing to do just about anything to make that happen
- You're already down the way, admitting that you are a combination of energies at once.
Everybody is... we talk about vibrations in terms of a person holding certain vibration, but this doesn't mean that
we're sort of locked in. People are multiple vibrations at once
we have a vibration about every subject in our life relative to ourselves.
So, the way to look at this is:
Everything in the universe, every particle of energy is two attributes.
It is the presence of that thing and also the absence of that thing
So, what's making you feel negative is the focus on the absence
So, if you are trying to rectify these two extreme differences in your life
you start to just realize
when it is that you're focusing on the lack, and when it is that you're focusing on the presence of something you want
A lot of times, people tend to think that they know exactly what it is that they want
because they know what they don't want so incredibly intensely
and so, instead of our focus being on what it is that we desire, even if it hasn't manifested in the physical yet,
we tend to just look for the evidence of the lack
we go home and if we may be experiencing an issue in a relationship
our focus isn't on the parts about our partner that we love anymore
our focus is on all the little things we can't stand, this is where people...
You got me off on the relationship track, but I'm going with it this way... So,
In the beginning of a relationship, when you first meet someone
your focus is so purely on the positive that you don't even notice the things about this partner that you can't stand
They don't exist
This is what I say a lot about people who are positive thinkers
They can walk into a room full of things that those people would think: This stuff is horrible, I can't stand this!
and they would literally don't even see it because it is not a vibrational match to their focus
When we live with this partner for a while
then we are starting to change the way that we are focusing, 'cause we are living with ourselves suddenly
that pure positive focus was doing all because potentially you came home and you got fired from a job
and that sets off this train where now you are looking for negative things
So, maybe you're focusing on the fact that they leave socks somewhere on the floor that you can't stand
or maybe they have this horrible habit when they're brushing their teeth
or maybe you're starting to feel this insecurity you've had forever, which is coming up again for you, of
not being loved for who you really are
So, every time you go around that person now your focus is towards those things
and because that is your focus
you will attract those things
So
the way to get what you want in life
is two things:
A) Look around your life, like you said right now, the things in your life that you really really enjoy
and live in an attitude of appreciation of those things
and, B) Put yourself in this mental mindset
of it being a reality even though it is not physically manifested
This is where the visualization thing comes in handy, you hear most people who are into this Law of Attraction thing
tell you to sit down and set a timer for ten minutes and visualize what it is that you want as if it's already happened
If you don't understand the role that thought plays, that seems sort of...
you know like, What is this gonna do for me? right?
but it will get you into this strong vibrational state of what it is that you want, and because...
this is the whole thing about Law of Attraction
The universe is going to answer whatever you are vibrating
with an exact vibration
So, you will start to see slowly, the physical manifestations of whatever thoughts you are offering
So, living in appreciation does that, and also
living in a reality, mentally
that looks like that which you want
- I've noticed recently that without even trying to visualize, I am visualizing what it is that I wanna do
and it actually is stronger the reason to do the things, because it's like:
I can see myself doing those certain things so, so maybe that is kind of visualizing
- Yes it is.
And I do wanna talk to everybody, about this concept of gratitude
So, you hear a lot of people who understand the way that thought influences reality, talk about how important it is
to be in an attitude of appreciation and an attitude of thankfulness
In the western world, gratitude comes in tact with the vibration of: "I don't deserve this"
The christian religion has served us in many ways
but it has been skewed... Many of us grew up...
See?! Yeah! with that vibration, so...
If you hear, when somebody says: "You should be thankful"
There's a vibration of penance in it. Do you feel that a little bit?
- Yeah! I used to have gratitude for that very reason,
because I thought like I owed somebody something
I'm supposed to pray to God and thank him for stuff, and it was like, I don't feel good for it, like I owe this guy something
Yes, that is a basic misunderstanding of what we mean when we are talking about
living in an attitude of thankfulness and appreciation
To live in a true state of appreciation, is to live in a state where you are
letting what you enjoy, envelop your being
So, if I'm going to live in an attitude of appreciation for a human being, that means
really making what it is that I love about them a part of my thought process
If it's an attitude of gratitude about this room it's saying things like:
"I really like that light"
It's all about happiness and enjoyment
"I enjoy that" is appreciation
So, that's the gratitude we are talking about.
- It's a very distinct difference because...
I felt like I've now experienced what it means to feel in a state of appreciation for something
and it's nothing at all like the previous...
- Making a gratitude list
- Yeah! like sitting down on a church and trying to be grateful for everything I was not grateful for
- Yeah! And so, that is the issue right there
I see a lot of people who come to me and they would be in an attitude of:
"My life is falling apart, I can't stand it! but I have so much that's good for me"
but that vibration...
It's not that they are going with the flow when they say things like that
They're basically pushing themselves back upstream trying to like stuff they don't like
So,
Find what it is you do enjoy.
If you don't like a person, it's fine
drop the fact that you don't like this person entirely, look for aspects of them
If it's something like a fingernail, that's enough
This is one of the best thing to do with someone you can't stand
Everybody know that on a vibrational level, you meet somebody and sometimes there's really not a match, so
if you can get to the space where you're looking at that person
and trying to find one aspect that even if it was disconnected from their body, you would enjoy that aspect
you are changing you vibrational point of attraction about that human being
and they will, if you do this enough,
the attitude and the
little nuances that they have that annoy you
will cease to be a match to your presence
This is why it's so important to understand this
In a relationship,
if we are focusing this way towards another person
if they perhaps, end up in a horrible mood
if our idea about them and our focus about that person is no longer about that horrible mood,
we can't share the same space, that means: Pretend you have a girlfriend,
she's in a horrible mood but you're in a good mood because you understand this vibrational work
you're supposed to meet her in a short time
her car will break down
See?
you literally will not be able to share the same space, so
all of these
details in the physical are being arranged by what is a vibrational match and what isn't
and it's perfectly fine in a relationship to say: "I choose to be a vibrational match to your best self"
"so that is going to be my dominant focus about you"