Do you have people come to you and ask you for advice? And you sometimes felt
like, "Wow, I don't know if my advice really works or not but these people
keep coming to me." Well, you're a mentor. And this is for you to learn how to
become a successful mentor.
My name is Kirk Duncan. And I train people on how to be a successful mentor.
Over the years and when I say years, the last 20 years of my life. I have had many
people approached me to ask for advice. And in the beginning, I could not
understand why people were asking me for advice. My own personal life was messy.
I couldn't even hardly keep my own home organized. And here people are coming me
to me for advice. And I could not figure out what and why they were approaching
me? So, along the way I surrendered. I figured if they're approaching me, they
must know something about me I don't even know. What I did notice is I could
give advice. And it wasn't just ideas that might work. I actually hadn't
figured some things out that I didn't even realize I even knew. So, here I give
someone advice and their life gets better.
And now I probably should follow my own advice. So, I kind of fell into this
experience about being a mentor. Since then, years and years and years ago, I
have definitely studied and done the work and done my due diligence to
educate myself about what it takes to be a successful mentor. Now, mentors.
Something that's cool about mentors is it's a personal experience. They're
sharing with you from their own lives. That's what a mentor does. They share
from their own lives their wisdom, their knowledge, their experience, their
failures, their successes. And so you get real information from Mentors. Which is
awesome. Why would I ever want to make the same mistakes somebody else did?
Why don't I learn from them? Why don't I save myself time? Well, the same thing
applies to the people who approached me. Is that they're wanting to save
themselves time. They're wanting to save themselves the hassle, the struggle.
They'd rather get on to their new struggles but get caught up or get
moving up to where I'm at from the experience I can share with them.
So, let's talk about what it takes to be a successful mentor because people are
coming to you. People are coming to you. So the big question is why? You know. Why
are people approaching you? What's happened? What is it that you actually do
know that you could share with people? You know, because it's time to get
yourself a little bit more organized here. Instead of just somebody who gives
advice, let's give a device that really works. So, let's check in with this. What
do people keep asking you about? This is something that would suggest to you that
you track. When people ask you for opinions and ideas about their
challenges or problems, I think you pull out your phone and you and you write
down these questions that people ask you. Because they're telling you, you have
some deeper insight in this area than you even recognize yourself. This will
help you build your idea of why you can be a great mentor. Because as long as you
keep pushing it away and keep denying that you could ever be somebody like
this, maybe it's time to listen. Maybe it's time to recognize what people keep
asking for. Especially... Let me just jump in and say this. Especially if the same
types of questions keep coming to you. You know how one person will ask you
advice about something and then another person ask you and it's almost the same
question? Boy, that's something to pay attention to. To listen and notice the
kind of advice that you give to people. That will help you develop the why. You
are going to be a great mentor. Now, on the other side of this coin of number one, is
why would you want to be a mentor to others? Why do you want to help? What
happens when you help people? What is it that you like about helping other people?
Maybe you're like me and you really like to see other people succeed. You like to
see them save time and miss out on struggles and pain that they didn't have
to face. Maybe you have that Guardian energy. You see mentors are usually
guardians. They're people who care about other people
and their actual success and achievements in their life. And maybe you
have that type of energy about you or that type of thinking. That you are in a
way a guardian to others. The next part to help you become a successful mentor
is this. Who would you really like to work with? Who is like the most
incredible person that you'd love to serve and help and share everything you
know with them? And they would listen to all your advice? Who is that person? Now,
for me and I love working with people who are entrepreneurs and I also love
working with people who are looking to expand their thinking. That just is an
absolute joy to talk with somebody. Like that I mean I in fact I can't hold back
sharing information with people who are like that. Who are just like searching
and looking. Because I love sharing with them what it takes to open the mind and
open the eyes and feel to move forward and pick an idea in a dream and
accomplish it. Oh, I could do that all day long. And all
night long and I'd never eat. I would just love, love doing that. So who is it
that you'd love to serve and help? Because when you have an idea who that
is, it motivates you to actually step into this realm of being a mentor. Next
is there is some wisdom that you have in life. About what works and what doesn't
work. This would be really smart for you to start documenting. And it's going
to look like a page with a line drawn down the middle of what works and what
doesn't work. And this is a way of doing inventory of the wisdom that you have.
What works and what doesn't work in being a parent. What works and what
doesn't work and being married? What works and what doesn't work when it
comes to nutrition and food and exercise and living next to neighbors. And boy,
just imagine the lists of wisdom that you have. If you see this right here of
what works and what doesn't work, we don't really pay attention to the wisdom
we have around this. It's just kind of like just
in nature. But other people can sense in us the wisdom we have in. That's why
they're coming to you. That's why they're asking you questions. Because they can
tell that you know something about this. Even when you're not even advertising it.
You're not even telling people about the wisdom you have. Because wisdom radiates
from us. It doesn't just stay inside of our head and inside of our heart. They're
literally radiates from us. So you might as well get conscious about what it is
that you know. About what works and what doesn't work and these different
categories of life. The more you do this step right here, you will find that you
will activate your mind. And more and more of this information will come to
you about the wisdom you've gained through life experiences. That wisdom
applied with an intentional way can change somebody's life forever. That's
the power a mentor has is to literally help another person change directions
and get him on a better path than where they were headed. So, do the work here and
journal and find what it is that you know about that. Now, to be a mentor means
to say, "I'm a mentor. I want to help. I want to serve." And what I call this it's
called turning the closed sign around to being open. Being open to help people. As
long as you keep denying that you know something and denying that you have
certain people who want to help. And denying that it's really in you to help
people. As long as you keep denying and your signs turn around to the closed
side of the sign, you're going to find that your life is in conflict. You're going to
feel that unfulfilled feeling deep down inside of you. Because it's what I felt.
You know, I kept searching in all these other directions of like something I
could do to find fulfillment. And it wasn't until I realized my closed sign
needed to be turned around to open. That I'm open to help people. I love
mentoring people. I was sitting in the airport and Indianapolis sitting next to
somebody and as asked him how they're doing. And I could tell there was some
kind of challenge they're facing in their life and in 10 minutes, I had a
chance to share with them some things that I found that work and things that
don't work. Be able to help give them some guidance and some direction in
their life. It was a 10 minute experience. But it wasn't just a casual
conversation. I was being a very intentional mentor. Because I knew who I
could work well with. I knew why I wanted to be a mentor because I love helping
people. And I shared some wisdom and my sign was on open. So, there it was
available. That's been the coolest part ever is being able to mentor people
anywhere and always. If they're ready to listen, they're ready, they're open to be
shared with or taught, boy, I'm ready to teach them. Now, the last one here is all
about attending our course called the Art of Mentoring. Here at 3 key
elements, I teach a 3-day course called Art of Mentoring where I help
people get organized with all their wisdom and I also help them get
organized of what it really takes to help somebody move from point A to point
B in their life. Point A is where they're at right now. Point B is where they
really could be. But for some reason between point A and B, there's a glitch.
There's something in the way, there's something that a wall that they're up
against or a challenge they're up against. And they can't get past it. I
love to help train people like you to help people remove that obstacle,
disassemble that challenge so that they can move forward and get to that point B.
And with that type of education, you literally can mentor anyone. Doesn't
matter their background. I've mentored millionaires. I've mentored
schoolteachers. I've mentored principals. I've mentored CEOs of huge corporations.
But I haven't been all those places in my life. But because
I know the techniques and the skills and the steps about how to remove obstacles
and change point of view, I can help anybody move from point A to point B. And
that's what you learn at Art of Mentoring. Now, if I'm not your mentor. You got to go
find somebody else to be your mentor. Here's some things to look for. Whenever
you go out in the world to look and learn about how to become a mentor, be
sure that they understand learn how to manage emotions, learn how to manage
thought and learn how to manage behavior. In all 7 different learning styles.
That would be a great training course. And that's what Art of Mentoring is all
about. But be sure that that checklist I just gave you. You find that in whatever
course that you go to because that is the core principles that you're going to
want to learn about so you can teach people how to disassemble and remove
obstacles in front of them so they can get from point A to point B. So, until
then, until you can get to an Art of Mentoring course, consider yourself a
mentor. Because you have some wisdom, your sign is turned around to open, you know
who you want to work with and you know why you want to work with them. And share
the wisdom you have with them. You're going to make a big difference in people's
lives. As long as you're being intentional about it. And to believe in
yourself. And trust yourself that your experience really does have value and
that it really matters to other people. But go to our website at 3keyelements.com.
And look up Art of Mentoring and check the dates and get to
that class as soon as possible. I'd love to share with you the wisdom and
knowledge that I found along the way to help people get from point A to point B.
You're a mentor and you literally have the skills and
talents to become a successful mentor.