Hi, Caitlin V Neal here, sex and relationship coach.
Extraordinaire and I'm here to share with you
one of my favorite tips
for helping you last longer in bed.
Now, this is tip for men
who are looking to delay ejaculation.
They just wanna last as long as they can.
They wanna give their female partner
the most amount of time
so that she can have the best experience.
Whether that's reaching one orgasm,
or multiple orgasms
or having an orgasm through penetration,
through penis and vagina sex.
I am here to share with you something
that a lot of men don't think of,
but is so super simple.
That you can implement it right now,
you can implement it immediately,
the next time that you have sex.
You can turn off this video,
call up your girlfriend, wife, or partner,
and say hey baby, I wanna try something new.
This will work every single time.
There's no weird technique that you have to master.
There's no skill set that
you have to get used to.
There's nothing to really practice here.
This is a tip that you can utilize
no matter who you are, where you are,
who it is that you are having sex with,
so super simple
and so deceptively simple.
You know men... I've noticed through my work
coz I coach mostly men,
and my specialty is working with men who
suffer from premature ejaculation.
So, whether or not that's you
or you just wanna last longer,
something that I have realized
is that men get the idea that
there are some advanced technique
that they need to learn
in order to last longer or to be a better lover.
The truth is that there are
some really cool advanced techniques.
Things that you need to practice,
things that you can learn and integrate over time.
Things that you have to practice on your own
before you can introduce them
into bed with your lover,
but there are some techniques
that you haven't even thought of
that are so freaking simple.
That they never even crossed your mind
and to be fare for a lot of you,
you get in there and you think.
Ooh my God, this is a race to the finish line.
Like... the opposite, whatever, I'm trying to delay my crossing
the finish line as much as possible
and you are thinking about that so much
that you skip over a whole lot of the details
leading all the way up to the finish line
that can help you delay
how long it takes you to get there,
okay. So, here it is, here is my technique.
Here's my big simple secret for you in delaying
your ejaculation
and lasting longer in bed. Are you ready?
The answer is keep your pants on.
I know, I know, I know you're like,
okay Caitlin, how am I having sex with my pants on?
This makes absolutely zero sense.
I get it I hear you stick with me.
This is why it is important to keep your pants on.
Women take longer to heat up than men do.
I like to compare us to a microwave and an oven
even though I don't really like being
you know, compared to an appliance personally.
I think it's a really useful analogy
so, let's use it here.
Men are like a microwave,
you hit the button they're on,
they can work, they heat up
quickly, there's no wait time,
they're ready to go button on go.
Women are more like an oven,
you have to do something
a while before you plan on
putting anything inside of it
in order to heat it up and get it ready.
An oven doesn't just go, there's a preheating
section of time that you have to
make space for, that you have to
appreciate and acknowledge. You can't just
put whatever it is in the oven that you're trying to heat up
and hit the button and have it get hot right away.
So, using this analogy, women need more time.
We have to kind of preheat, we've got to work our way up
to the point where we're ready to have sex.
This is your greatest advantage gentlemen
and many of you are not using it as such.
The trick here is to delay your own clothes coming off
as much as possible.
That gives you more time to warm her up
before you get any kind of sensation
or any kind of physical pleasure.
Any kind of satisfaction on your end,
think about it like this,
saying you take off most of her clothes
and you remove your own shirt.
That gives you her entire body as a canvas to use.
You can pleasure her by
lightly touching her arms, chest, breasts.
You can warm her up
by kissing down her entire neck,
really taking your time.
Trust me,
it's almost impossible to go too slow
or give too much care to every inch of her body.
You can kiss her all over
her torso, all up and down her legs,
in her thighs. Sometimes just grazing
your fingers on the inside of her thigh
is enough to send
a woman into hyperspace of arousal.
Trust me,
and the fact that you're keeping your pants on,
or at least your underwear on
and denying her the pleasure of touching you back
is also going to drive her crazy.
That's like the ultimate tease to say listen,
I'm gonna spend this time pleasing you.
I want to satisfy you.
I don't even want you to touch me.
I want you to lay back
and enjoy, and let me do this for you.
She might resist at first,
but if you are confident, and clear, and insistent,
and you communicate to her that what you want to do
is get her really hot and ready,
get her really warmed up
before you allow her
the pleasure of touching you back.
Eventually, she will be able to
appreciate what you're doing for her
and trust me she will appreciate it.
Take that time, move really slowly.
The nice thing about this is that if you are worried
about ejaculating too early,
this gives you plenty of time
to focus on her body
instead of focusing on your own
fear or anxiety or worry
about what's gonna happen to you.
This gives you an opportunity to even go all the way
to giving her an orgasm using
your hands and your mouth
and that way, she's... not only is she ready
to have an orgasm, she already has had an orgasm.
That way, once your pants come off,
and she starts pleasuring you
or the two of you start having sex,
it won't matter as much how long you last
past that point
because you've already taken care of her needs.
Trust me, this is so deceptively simple,
and it is so effective
especially for those men who
don't really have a lot of trouble
with premature ejaculation,
but just wanna buy themselves a little bit more time.
Who wanna make sure that their partner's
extra pleased and satisfied,
or that they wanna be sure that she's multiorgasming
and they wanna be sure to give her an orgasm
through vaginal penetration.
This is possibly the best way to do that.
If you wanna have a... If you wanna give your partner
an orgasm through vaginal penetration,
the best way to do that is by giving her an orgasm
in another way first,
particularly using your fingers
and your mouth to stimulate her.
So, I hope that you like this tip.
I know it's ridiculously simple,
but put it into practice next time.
Especially those of you who are married
or have been having sex with the same woman
for a long time,
you're probably used to having her touch you
or try to pleasure you right away, right.
So, surprise her this time by really
and intentionally taking care of her needs first
and see how much longer
you are able to last
or how much more you're able to please her
from start to finish as a result.
So, go forth, use this tip, use it right now,
and if you have any questions,
you want any more advice,
you can actually download my free guide
to lasting longer in bed through self-pleasure.
I'll link it below.
You can get if from caitlinvneal.com.
It includes my four
favorite tips not including this one
that will help you to last longer in bed right away
and this guide works for
men who have never even had sex yet.
Guys who don't even have a girlfriend or wife.
You don't need to have a partner to use
the tips that I’ve outlined in my guide
and then when you do go to have sex with a woman,
you can use this tip of keeping your pants on
for as long as possible
in order to prolong and
delay your ejaculation even more.
So go there right now, caitlinvneal.com,
download my guide
and write in the comments
if you have any additional questions or how this works
for you. After you go test it out,
come back and leave me a comment
letting me know how this worked.
What you thought about it, what your wife,
or girlfriend, or partner thought about it.
Hit me up, I love to hear from you,
alright.
Thanks guys, I'll see you soon.