Is there a trick or some technique that we can apply to achieve peace of mind in
daily life? Let's get into that today.
Peace of mind is something that we talk about a lot here at Live on Purpose
radio and today's guest Devan Bosch Live on Purpose certified coach, has some
ideas about that. Devan welcome. Thank you. It's great to be here.
Devan, you've got a lot of reasons for for knowing about peace and there's not
a lot of peace in the world. Would you agree? Absolutely. It's all around us.
Everywhere to go. On my way here this morning, I was struggling with it
just thoughts about things that have happened over the last couple of days.
People that have failed to show up in my life and different things like that. I'm
just dealing with that like what about that one guy that cut us off from the on
the road or that co-worker who that one family member. Or watching the news.
There's all kinds of negative news out there. It just feels like the world is in
turmoil. So we're addressing today this question
of how to achieve peace. How to find that or create it as you and I
talked about quite a bit in our daily lives? Absolutely. My experience is that
what will be, will be. We don't have control over what's beyond our sphere
right? I have control right here. This is what I have control over not what's
going on inside your spirit. What's inside my spirit and right here. I get to
control what's coming out, what's inside. So Devan we're not ignoring the fact
that there's difficult things going on out there in the world. In fact, it's an
acknowledgment. It's our acceptance that yes, things are happening. They're outside
of our control and that sometimes can rob or steal our peace. But you've got
some ideas or some techniques that you're here to share, yeah, about maybe
how to claim that or create it inside of our realm of influence or control.
Absolutely. None of this is saying that we get to bury our heads in the sand or
pretend that everything's pretty in pink. We are inviting you to create the peace.
Create it by identifying what it is that's causing the problems. If you're
watching the news every day and that's your feeling this stuff going on
inside, let that go. Don't watch the news anymore. Wait, hold on. So you can change
the channel? Right. Change the channel? That seems so obvious but we don't
always connect with the fact that it's hurting us or it's potentially hurting
us. So you're saying identify the triggers, get clear about whether you
want this in your life or not because you can actually change the
channel or just stop watching some of that stuff. Absolutely. So identify the
problem, then change it. Choose peace. You can choose it. Absolutely. Choose it. It's
up to you. There are so many awesome techniques that you can do to create
this peace in your life. Breathing technique. Oh yes, this is something that
I teach all the time related to anxiety or stress. Your breathing is actually
controlled by a part of your brain that is also in charge of your reactions to
different things that are happening. So taking a conscious level of control over
that and Devan you're talking about an intentional practice of breathing.
Hopefully your breathing on a regular basis, okay? In and out all day long. But
what we're talking about is is slowing it down, being very conscious and
intentional about it. Okay, so here's a quick tip on how to manage the
breathing. Just pause get yourself in a in a comfortable position. I recommend
that you don't cross your your legs or your arms or your eyes. Don't cross
anything, okay? And then just calmly take a nice deep breath in through the nose
and over inflate those lungs stretch it a little bit and feel the stretch and
just hold that for maybe 10 seconds or so and then nice and slow out through
the mouth and you restrict the flow here. Kind of like you're blown out birthday
candles? Push it out at the end of that exhale. You want to take about twice as
long to exhale as you did inhale. That's a pretty good rule of thumb. Push
it out and then enter the nose again. You do that three to five times nice and
slow and you're going to notice some things. What have you noticed as you've
done that? Oh my gosh. I have noticed when things come from right here in
the face, yeah. I just breathe and then all of a sudden, I'm calm.
I'm free of that feeling and then I'm able to just work on the situation
clearly. The anger is not there anymore, the frustrations not
there anymore and I've got some peace to deal with to help me with the thinking
it out and and dealing with it. It's a nice trigger. A physiological trigger to
get your mind into a different mode. So that you can do some of the other things
that are necessary to rethink what's going on for you and create that peace
intentionally, on purpose we might say. Absolutely. There are so many different
things that we can do. Do something cathartic. Do something that and Dr. Paul can
explain cathartic. What is cathartic? Well, when you say that, I think of any
activity that helps you to express emotion and sometimes we suppress it and
that can build up inside of us or cause additional stress or rob our peace. So
when you say do something cathartic, I'm thinking sometimes you get into a place
where you can just ah!!! You know. Let out a yell. I suppressed that a little bit. You know so
it wouldn't freak you guys out. But to yell or to express loudly what it is
that you're feeling. This is what I think of when you say cathartic. So go out
into nature, find a place where you can be by yourself, pick up some rocks, throw
them and maybe yell at the rock first and put all your frustration on the rock
and then throw it and get it away from you. So it's gone. It's forever gone.
There are so many fun things you can do. Go tell all your negative energy and
thoughts and frustrations to the toilet and then flush it.
Watch the water go down and swirl down. It's a way to symbolize letting it
go. Right. Which is the powerful part of this cathartic
experience because instead of holding it in here, I'm just going to - uh-oh! I'm just
going to put it out there. So you throw the rock or write it on a piece of paper and
burn it. Oh yeah. And please little disclaimer here from Live on Purpose TV.
Don't burn down the neighborhood. Let's use some wisdom and discretion. But having
some way to release that or symbolically say, "look, I'm not going to keep
this inside of me anymore. Absolutely. Helps to increase your peace.
I bet there are things that are coming to your mind that you can do as you're
thinking about these, work on them, do them. This is an exercise just like going
to the gym. This is something we get to work on every single day. It's not going
to get easier just because we started doing it. It's going to possibly get bit
more difficult as we focus on it. It was more difficult on my way here today to
knowing I was going to talk about peace. All of this stuff was attacking
means like, let it go and let it go. I don't even know how many of these things
that I went through on the way here. Well, you bring up an important point and
sometimes things get harder before they get easier. Right.
Don't be dissuaded by that because sometimes it's simply developing a new
skill set and that can cause some frustration when you're just starting
out. So if you're used to carrying a lot of tension and anger and distress taking
some intentional steps toward choosing peace isn't necessarily going to come
naturally at first. Now, I think you're going to feel a little relief too. Oh
absolutely and that'll help you to know that you're on the right track. But just
the fact that it's not easy, doesn't mean that you're on the right track. In fact,
often times that means you are on the right track. It's just going to take some
practice and commitment to build your skill level to the point where you can
do this more naturally. Just because you're choosing peace doesn't mean that
you're going to have peace completely. Things are still going to come up, the world
still going to go on, that one family member is still going to be in your family and
that one co-workers still looking to be there when you go to work the next day.
So it's something we get to choose every single day. That's what the whole purpose
of this is. Choose something that works for you and can
need to do it. Bring, call music into your life. Do that a whole bunch of other
things. Follow your intuition and do what comes to your mind
and you will be able to choose peace because you are a creator. Can I just
make a comment Devan about the music? What I have found in my experience is
that we often try to match our music to our mood and if you're feeling upset or
angry it's easy to kind of gravitate toward that upset, angry music. You know
what I'm talking about? And that's a very natural thing. What you're talking about
is intentionally choosing the kind of music for example, it could be other
media. The kind of music that is soothing or that invokes peace. This is
not easy because if you're feeling upset and angry, you're kind of resonating
it at this level, okay? This upset, angry level. If we go to a higher energy of
peace and love and joy, that's not the same frequency as what you've been on
and so there's some dissonance there. When you raise that level up and match
it to a higher level, you can actually bring your mood along to match the music.
And it won't feel natural at first. There's a concept in physics and
music called sympathetic resonance. If you start a tuning fork, singing and
you run it along the strings of a harp without touching them, when you get to
the one that's at the same frequency, it will start to sing right along with the
tuning fork. It's really cool phenomena and you can do it with a piano too. What
that means is that whatever is attuned to that frequency is going to resonate
with it. So we're talking in in very simplistic terms here but we're talking
about picking a frequency and so you're suggesting Devan and the
frequency of peace and joy and love and all that awesome stuff which is up here
at this level. Well, if you're down here at this level, it's not going to resonate
at first but what we're going to do is tune ourselves up to meet
higher frequency and so be cautious and intentional as you choose your music for
example or anything else in your life that has a particular energy to it.
Absolutely. absolutely. I see that in my own life. What I play in my car is
mostly calm, sweet, just peaceful music and I recognize that it helps as I'm
driving down the freeway and people cut me off and just like whatever. I'm just
going, resonate with that music. So it makes a difference, absolutely. I hope
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