Motivation is the experience of wanting something,
or wanting to avoid it. When we study how we get motivated to learn, develop,
and succeed, we can identify two contrary forces: extrinsic and intrinsic ones
On the one hand, we want to belong, desire to be loved and seek to get the attention we think
we deserve. We are motivated extrinsically by rewards, in order to progress socially.
On the other hand, we strive to explore things that are satisfying in themselves,
disregarding rewards. We are motivated intrinsically,
by a natural curiosity which we follow because it feels right. The opinions of others don’t matter.
To understand why we probably need a good mix of both,
let's imagine two four year-old children. Both grow up in families that want only the best
for their kids but have completely opposing views on how to motivate them to succeed.
Tom's parents believe that all their boy needs is love.
To not undermine his intrinsic interests, they never praise him, or use rewards. Eventually
they decide to not give him any feedback at all, fearing it could corrupt his free mind.
Over the years Tom develops an immense capacity to imagine,
spending most of his time playing by himself. By being allowed to follow his passions,
he learns what he likes and what he doesn’t. But Tom doesn’t learn what others expect and
gets easily irritated when he’s asked to do something in a particular way.
Mira’s parents believe that their precious little girl needs clear
rules about what's good and what's not. They see it as their duty to help Mira
learn by providing precise and actionable feedback on all aspects of her young life.
Mira spends her days in preschool, music and ballet lessons. Over the years she gets
exceptionally good at the things that please the adults around her. However, since there
is neither time to play nor to relax, she doesn’t discover her own interests. Being alone bores her.
At 14, Tom is independent and begins writing science fiction. He realises that he isn’t
quite like his friends and spends most of his time at the library. When he shares his writing,
others can’t quite relate. At the same age, Mira is at the top of her class and has plenty of
friends and admirers. She knows what is expected of her and makes sure to meet those expectations.
Sometimes the pressure becomes unbearable, although that’s her secret.
By the day he turns 21, Tom has a unique perspective of the world. He is intelligent,
but doesn't like to work for money and hence is often broke. He hates the idea of conforming to
conventional norms and is annoyed if someone interferes with his creative expression.
At this point Tom knows alot about himself but doesn’t connect well with others.
To him, people seem to follow rules without questioning them— just like sheep.
Integrating into the society is difficult at this point and he begins to search for utopia.
Mira makes it into a top medical school where she realizes, she’ll never be top of the class again.
Once that place seems out of reach, her motivation drops and she wonders
if medicine actually interests her. Since quitting is no option,
she takes up a second major and runs for student council president.
Soon Mira will know everything about what others expect, but nothing about what she
likes for herself. All her life she has just listened - driven by external feedback loops.
At this point she's also lost the ability to question the norms of the society she grew up in.
Listening to our heart can tell us who we are, but not how to be happy among others.
Listening to others can motivate us to be a part of their world, but doesn't teach
us if that world is ours. This is why it’s probably good for the two to go together.
Then we can learn what we want, and get the feedback that we need in
order to stay motivated to explore new roads into a better society.
A large body of research shows that balancing the two forces is not straightforward. One
meta-analysis of 128 studies examined the effects of extrinsic rewards on intrinsic motivation.
While most rewards significantly undermined our intrinsic interest,
positive feedback — which is an extrinsic motivator — inspires us to keep going.
Put simply, honest words of encouragement get us going,
while money or gifts undermine our inner drive.
What about you? Do you listen to your heart or to the voices of society?
And from your personal experience, which of the two eventually takes your decision?
Share your thoughts and check the description to dive deeper into the topic.
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