So, they say when a man
finds a woman that he really wants
there's nothing that can stop him
from going after her.
Now, I don't know about all that,
but what I do know is
there are some signs
that can tell you
that this guy is ready
for a relationship
and wants a relationship with you.
My name is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks,
back for another dating and relationship
advice video for women, today.
And like I said, we are going be talking about
the seven signs
he's ready for a relationship.
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So, anyways like I said it's about
he's ready for a relationship.
Now, let me just say this real quick,
there's going to be something on this list I say
or maybe all the things in the list I say
and one of you all are you going like,
well, I've have seen a man do those things
and he still didn't want a relationship.
I've got an answers for that
at the very end of the video.
So, watch to the end
to make sure you gain clarity,
on that specific issue.
But typically, if these signs apply
then yes,
he's ready and desires a relationship.
So, let's get to it.
Sign number one he's ready for a relationship,
consistent communication.
Listen, if you are to survey women who are dating,
one of the biggest complains they get
or they give is that men and
their lack of communication,
men and their consistency in communication.
And the reality is that
this is not the just a men thing,
this is a he's not that serious thing.
This is he's got too much other stuff going on
and he is not really ready to make time
for you in a relationship thing.
And so, when he is willing
to communicate consistently, all right.
And keep up with you
and let me just throw the caveat,
they also understands
what your desired level of communication is
because that needs to be understood, all right.
But when he's willing to
embrace your desired level of communication
and be consistent
and he wants to hear from you,
he wants to talk to you.
This is a very good sign
he wants a serious relationship.
Because again, most men
if they don’t want anything serious,
they going to temper down the communication part.
They going to create some kind of distance.
They going to make sure
they can manage it a little better because,
they don’t want things to get too close.
And again, I'm not trying to give too much
time and energy right now.
That’s what typically is going to happen.
So, when he's willing to give that communication consistently,
that’s a very good sign.
Which brings me to the second sign.
He's ready for a relationship,
he makes time for you,
plain and simple.
Again, I've said many times before,
more than a man's money,
his time is of great value.
And his time says a lot about his interest in you.
Now granted,
money can show value in woman
depending on how much he has and how much he has to spend.
Because when his willing to give his resources
of any kind,
that just show he is serious about, all right.
But time is a big deal.
Time is typically a big deal.
And so, for a man who’s willing
to make time for you, all right.
Not just he has you at his convenience.
Not only when it works for you, but
even in moments where,
where you want to see him and he's willing to
move some things around to accommodate you.
When he's willing to compromise
so he can spend time with you.
When he's willing make sure you're getting
enough quality time
to even be happy with him.
When he's willing to work with you in that regard.
Now again, I always had to throw in
this little caveat.
Some men are genuinely busy, all right.
I would still argue that even the busy man
makes time for the a woman he is serious about, all right.
But there is a level of compromise with
a very ambitious,
driven man who has a lot going on
versus the man who has
nothing going for himself.
So, he had all the time in the world to give you, all right.
So, do take that into consideration,
but the premise of all this
is still that he makes time.
So, even the busy man
if he's serious about a woman makes time.
He tries to create it,
he tries to make adjustments
because he wants to one, see this woman
and he wants to make her
feel good, show her attention, things of that nature.
So, bottom line, when he makes time for you,
that is a very good sign he's ready for a relationship.
Third on the list of he's ready for a relationship,
he wants you to meet his friends and family.
Now, real quick.
I know already some of you all
this is one of the ones where I know some of you all are like,
well, I met his people, all right.
And he was still playing a games,
he still wasn't serious.
The whole family was in
on the game with him, all right.
were setting you up.
I know I have heard all the horror stories, all right.
But again, typically,
in most situations,
when a man wants to introduce
a woman to friends and family,
it's because he sees a relationship or at least,
a strong potential of a relationship
in the future with this woman.
He's already said to himself
I can see myself with her
or I believe there's a really good chance
and now I either want my friends and family to see
who I'm already into
or I want to get that extra layer of approval
and make sure everyone loves her
and now I can move forward with this.
One way or another
it is typically a great sign,
that he wants you to...
He wants to bring you around,
friends and family.
He's not hiding you,
you're not a secret,
it's an open thing
that you are the woman that he is
courting, getting to know,
trying to build a relationship with.
So, definitely be mindful of that.
Again, none of these signs are
one hundred percent home runs,
except the last one I'm going to give you on the list.
But again,
very good indicators, very strong indicators
this is typically the behavior of men,
who are serious about trying to be with you.
Number four,
the forth reason why
or the forth reason he is ready to
be in a relationship with you
is he is willing to listen
to your feelings, all right.
So, I've said many times before
one of the greatest indicators
that a man is serious about you,
is not in what he does on his own.
It's not him figuring out
what you want and desire.
It's in how he handles your
expressing of feelings and concern.
Because men who are not serious about you
are going to be very dismissive,
they're going to make excuses,
they're going to brush it off, they are going to deflect,
they're going to turn the tables on you,
all of this is going to lead to
your needs not being met
and the issue not being resolved.
However, the man who's serious about you,
wants to resolve the issue.
I always say a man who loves you
wants to bring you peace, all right,
and clarity.
Whereas the other guys want to bring you
chaos and confusion.
So, this man is going to be willing to listen
even if he is not
the greatest at understanding
and figuring things out.
He's going to be willing to try to get it,
try to figure out what's going on here,
tell me how you feel so I can fix this.
You know what I'm saying, that's his mentality.
and he's willing to communicate with you
as we mentioned in number one, all right,
in order to establish clarity
and to resolve the issue.
Men who don't want to talk to you,
don't really want to be with you.
That's really the bottom line,
but when he is willing to talk
that's a great sign because he understands
if we going to have a relationship
we got to be able to talk to each other.
So, his willingness to listen to your feelings,
another huge sign
he's ready for a relationship.
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So now, back to the video
number five on the list.
He talks about his future
with you in it, all right.
So, pay very close attention
when you are dating a man.
And he talks about
what's going on in his life,
three months, six months down the line, whatever.
Is he including you or the relationship
in that discussion?
And trust me,
most of you have seen this.
Most of you have seen or dated men,
who when they talked
and at some point,
future seem to always come up like,
we're always talking about what's going to happen later,
what we're doing months from now
and you start to notice that
you're not really included in the plans.
You're not really being considered in all of this.
That is an indicator that again,
he's probably not planning
for something serious with you, bottom line.
Or at least he hasn't reached that point,
but depending on how far
you guys are into the dating process,
that's a really bad sign.
But again, the guy who is serious,
the guy who is ready for a relationship
and sees you as the woman he wants to be with,
he includes you in that discussion.
He mentions what you two might be doing.
He just throws it out there well, maybe
we'll do this or maybe
you know, somehow you will get a feeling of okay,
he's still thinking about me,
when he's thinking about his future.
And that's very important.
And again, if you notice a man
who doesn't do it,
who's talking about his future and you're not included,
I would challenge you to break that up.
I would challenge you say well, are you considering
where we may be at that point in life?
Because again, I know
I do believe that
typically again,
men are going to
include the woman in that discussion, naturally.
However, I can see a situation possibly
where maybe the man is not sure that
you want a future with him.
He may not know where you stand
and he doesn't want to be like the one that's
projecting all this we're going to be together
and all this stuff when you're not really
showing that yourself.
So, just in case
it's a situation where maybe you guys
have not gotten on the same page
about what you both truly want,
you simply say well listen
All you can say as far as we're concerned.
That's a great moment
to see where you stand with the man.
And again if he
backs away from that conversation
if he dances around it,
he dismisses it.
If he gives you anything other than
yes, I do see
you being in my future at that point,
then that's a bad sign, all right.
Now we get to number six on the list.
Number six is
he's willing to express to you
how he feels about you.
Listen,
men who are ready for relationships,
are much more open and vulnerable.
That's the bottom line, all right.
When a man is completely shut down
and I feel the need to say this right now.
If he's very closed off
and not open with you
and not willing to express his feelings to you,
but let's just say he does say
he wants a relationship with you.
I will still caution you
to not move forward with that guy, all right.
Because he may be
"ready for a relationship with you,"
but he is clearly not ready for
successful, healthy relationship with you.
If he is unwilling or
unable to talk and express feelings
that's not a good position to put yourself in.
And to have to be with a man
where you don't know how he feels about you.
Where he's not willing to give that assurance,
not just through his actions,
but verbally as well,
that's a very difficult position to be in.
That's a very hurtful position to be in.
You talk to any woman who's dealt with that
and she is not happy.
So, you don't want to give,
put yourself in that position to be tortured
by this lack of clarity and in this lack of
understanding how does he really
feel about me
because he won't say anything.
So, again,
if he is unwilling to do it,
regardless of whether he's willing
to be with you in a relationship or not.
I would say don't move forward.
But if he is and want to do it
well, getting back to the original point
he's... The fact that he is willing to be expressive,
he's willing to tell you how he feels about you,
is a good sign
that yes, he's is ready for a relationship
and ready for one with you.
Because we all understand that
if we're serious about someone
we should be able to say it to them.
We should be able to express
to them that we want to be with them.
Yes, some people are very damaged
and they struggle with being verbal,
but again, that's another sign of
he's not truly ready internally
to be in that relationship.
So, either way, you shouldn't move forward with them.
So, his willingness to express his feelings
another sign he is ready for a relationship.
And now we get to number seven.
And again, as a reminder, I got that
answer to the earlier question
about what if he does all these things
and he still doesn’t want a relationship.
I will explain that after number seven,
but number seven,
which to me is the clearest
indicator, all right.
Is that it's a two part.
Number seven, one,
he will take no issue with you
bringing up commitment
and he will have no issue saying he wants it.
It is really that simple.
You know sometimes we overcomplicated things
and I gave you signs
because people are always
asking for these things
and I want you
to be able to see some of the indicators,
but the same time,
let's not put ourselves in position
to have to play guessing games.
Just talk about it
because when you bring up commitment
to a man who is considering committing to you
or who already decided that
he is pretty confident
that’s what he wants with you.
Or he knows he does,
he takes no issue with you bringing it up.
When you come across situations
where the break...
The discussing of commitment,
scares a man away is because
he was never wanting that with you.
He was never serious about you.
He was never ready for that with you.
So, if anything,
you served yourself of a greater purpose
by weeding this man out,
getting him off the way so you can move on.
So, you should never be afraid
to discuss these things
and just ask where do we stand?
I know some of you all dread
asking that question but listen again,
the man who really cares about you,
and is serious about you,
doesn't have a problem
with you asking that question.
What did I say earlier,
the man who really cares about you,
wants to bring you clarity and peace.
The other dudes give you confusion and chaos.
So, when he's willing to talk about it with you,
he's showing you he is trying to provide you
with clarity and peace.
And I again, he will not
just be willing to talk about it,
he will not just be
open to the discussion
same thing,
he will be willing to say it.
And that's really what it boils down to.
So, if you want to know, ask.
Ask and let your desires be known.
Be willing to be transparent,
you can't expect people to be open
and transparent with you,
if you are not going to be open and transparent with them, all right.
I think a lot of times
we're seeking people to give us truth
and clarity and we're not doing the same in return,
you have to speak yours.
You have to express your desires,
you have to let them know where you stand,
and how you see the relationship.
And the man who is on the same page as you
will embrace that,
will give you reassurance,
and you guys will be able to move forward
in the direction that
you both want to move forward in.
Now, as I said
I was going to explaining how
yes, are there situation that exist
that the man does all of this stuff
and he is still playing games, all right.
He's on that yeah, I like you,
but I don't want a relationship with you.
I don't like you like that
or whatever the case may be.
Number one those
yes, situations do exist but that's a minority.
As much as you may think it happens more often,
than whatever, no.
It doesn't happen as often as you think.
Not that he's doing all of that,
most situations where the man
was never that serious,
he's not that consistent with
all these good actions,
and then when you finally bring it up is like, no.
That typically is not what's going on.
There's a lot of red flags along the way
but people ignore them,
they overlook them, they make excuses,
and now when he says I don't want a relationship,
people want to act all surprised.
But if we piece the whole thing together
is like okay, this actually makes sense.
He was actually showing a lot of behaviors
that were consistent
with a man who was not serious.
But again,
in the rare moments where he does it all right,
and he still doesn't want it,
do not let that turn you into this negative
person that thinks,
I cannot trust any good actions.
And again, notice number seven
because the guy who does all of that,
but it's not really ready for a relationship,
he fails number seven.
Because when you bring up commitment
and when you ask him where you stand,
he will shoot you down.
He will now reject it.
He will show you in a moment
and that's why I said to the end
and that's why I'm saying to you,
don't just play the guessing game
because you can expose
people so much quicker,
by simply directly addressing it.
And the quicker we're willing to talk about these things,
the quicker we can see where people stand
and where we can go with this relationship.
Hey, thank you for watching this video
be sure to check this one out
right here and I'll see you there.
I want you to have a man
who loves you,
cherishes you,
respects you, and adores you.
And I don't want you to settle for anything less.
So, I'm going to give you
the five ways
to make sure he meets your needs.