Heya playa, have you ever wanted to start a conversation with someone
but you just didn't know what to say at the beginning so that it wouldn't feel
forced or awkward or weird? Don't worry, in this video I'm going to walk you through the perfect
opening line that you can use every single time you approach someone so
you won't feel nervous about it, you'll feel more confident, and it'll work 100% of the time.
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My name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing tips,
ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self. Now here's the real
truth behind the perfect opening line. It's not really perfect unless you have something good
to follow up with. Just spouting off a good opener is going to start the conversation
but it's not going to help you carry it, so we're going to dive a little bit deeper into
what you can do to carry the conversation after I share the line with you. So, here's the line.
"Hey let me get your quick opinion on something before I head to class."
Now, the reason why this is the perfect opening line is because if you break it
up into several parts it lets that person know what it is that you want from the conversation,
why you're approaching them, and how long it's actually gonna be.
Looking at the first part
"Hey let me get your quick opinion on something"
shows that person that you want a quick simple answer. You're not approaching them for a long
dragged-out conversation and you're not going to take up much of their time.
You're asking for something quick. Also, you're asking for their opinion on something.
You want to know their thoughts on something, you want to get their perspective. It's going to help
you learn more about them and it's going to give them the chance to share their honest feelings.
Now the second part of that sentence
"before I head to class"
re-emphasizes how long you actually intend to talk to them.
It lets them see that you are in the process of going somewhere right now and
you just kind of turned to them to just start a quick conversation just to get their perspective
on something before you go on your route. The reason why I think this is the perfect
opening line is because you're not expecting too much of them. It's not a super detailed
question that they have to actually sit and think about. They could just share whatever
it is off the top of their head and you'll go on your way. Now if you're sitting there thinking
"Excuse me! I'm not in a school setting what do I do?"
Don't worry.
There are two variations of the line that you can also use.
Try saying
"Hey, I need a girl's perspective on something really quick"
It still conveys the same length of time that you'd want to talk
to them and it opens it up for them to share their opinion.
Or try this third version
"Hey, random question but maybe you can help me
help with something before I go meet up with my friends."
What you're letting that person know is that you have a plan. You're in
the process of doing something and you're just kind of at the pit stop
getting their perspective on something before you go. So now that you know what the opening line is
what you say after is going to build context into that conversation. So,
here's where I would recommend something like my 20 Ice Breaker Conversation Starters Guide.
This is a guide I put together that kind of breaks down different questions you
can ask someone to learn more about their personality, their hobbies, their interests.
Plus it gives you follow-up questions so you can keep that conversation going.
But if you needed something off the top of my head
right now because you're gonna go approach them and talk to them.
Ask them what the last good movie they watched on Netflix was.
Ask them where they like to hang out with their friends.
Or ask them something school-related or
job-related or related to the area that the two of you share.
But Josh, isn't it just weird to ask a random person something like that?
Well not really. Actually, people enjoy sharing their opinion and perspective
on things. In fact, if you ask a person for a small favor, that's showing them
that you're willing to communicate with them, you're willing to work with them,
and it's going to open up the doorway for them to want to do it back with you.
So, if you ask them a question about their interests and hobbies,
they may ask you that same question back and that's the human connection forming.
That's exactly what you want to build with a stranger who you don't really know at all.
But here's the kicker so listen up.
Because you told them that you were heading somewhere and you wanted their quick opinion
on something, they may start to feel guilty holding you down and talking more and more
so their answers may be brief, and your answers kind of should be brief as well because if you're
just talking and talking they're gonna think "Didn't this person have to go somewhere?".
Now, if the conversation does get awkward, you have your out. You had somewhere to go
so you can always end it and just move on. But, if the conversation is actually going well,
make sure to say something like this to them.
"Honestly I would check out The Mandalorian. It's like the best
show right now on Disney Plus. Like, you have to watch it! I'm sorry I know you
said you had to go somewhere. I don't want to hold you up."
"You know I've heard so much about it so I'm definitely going to check it
out. But yeah I gotta go meet up with my friends,
but I'm really enjoying this conversation. You're like so easy to talk to and I don't know,
I just feel like we're having fun here so tell you what. Let me get your number or
something. Maybe I'll text you and we'll talk a little more about some of your favorite shows."
The goal then is to start off that conversation just getting their perspective on something
but then realizing that this person is awesome and so much fun to talk to.
If you can convey that as you communicate with them they're going to feel seen,
they're going to feel heard, and they're definitely going to want to talk to you again.
The learning doesn't end there though because you definitely should check out the videos over
there on the side where I go deeper into carrying that conversation forward. If you
want to get better at talking to your crush, those videos are going to help you do it.
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