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I want to do a video on relationships because I get a lot of questions from
people asking about relationships and, you know, what's it all mean?
And yada, yada, and so I was like, okay, I'll tell you what I'll do.
I'll do for you all the alternative relationships.
Okay.
So let's just clear something up, but Asperger's syndrome is now actually
called just autism spectrum disorder.
That's what just ended with them, moved into the Austin spectrum
disorder umbrella, because.
Asperger's syndrome was a, an unusual term to use when it's just autism
and makes life just a lot easier.
Okay.
So I I'm in a relationship with being in a relationship with my girlfriend
now for like 11 years, almost 12 years.
And we have a son and everything we lived together and stuff like that.
And so I thought it'd be really cool video to do abuse, talking about.
Reasons why autism relationships can be hard.
And with like three, three kind of like facts and stuff about why are we hard?
Because if I feel like if we know why relationships can be challenging
and difficult, then we may be able to create these solutions for our
at least see the air in our ways.
If that makes sense.
I don't know.
So hopefully this video, um, it resonates with you.
If it does, please give this video a thumbs up, let me know
if you'd like this type of video.
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Because I read every single comment and that would be super, super dope.
Okay, cool.
So the first one is emotional communication issues.
Now people on the autism spectrum have major issues with
communicating their emotions and their feelings to another person.
Um, you know, and this creates a lot of difficulties, especially when
you're in romantic relationships.
Because our relationship needs to be open and that flow of communication needs
to stay open and you need to express how you feel about things and how they
feel about things back to you, because you need to understand each other.
It's, it's part of our relationship and who you are in that relationship
and that relationship as a whole.
So in terms of people on the autism spectrum, Because autism
is a communication issue.
It impacts the brain on the brain's ability to communicate
with certain things around them.
It is a difficult thing for people on the autism spectrum to deal with.
And so how they communicate their emotions may be completely vastly different to the
average person or the typical person who says, Oh, you know, I'm feeling with this.
Blah, blah, blah.
It's difficult for people in the autism spectrum to do this.
So I feel like this is probably one of like the number one reason why there
may be tension of an unknown tension within relationships with people on the
autism spectrum, because just knowing what the other person is emotionally
feeling at that moment in time, not being able to communicate that could be quite
distressing if you know what I mean?
Like you don't, it could be quite difficult.
So, yeah, there's the first one.
Okay.
So number two is empathy.
Now I'm not saying that autistic people don't have empathy, but in the.
The format and the texts that I'm talking about here, the ability to
understand how another person is feeling like putting yourself in their
shoes is difficult for someone on the autism spectrum to get just like that.
Because a lot of people say to to typical people would say, think
about how the other person's feeling, put yourself in their shoes.
And somebody could just do it like that really, really quickly just
by thinking about that situation.
But people on the autism spectrum don't have that ability to instantly just think
about that other person's situation from that point of view or their perspective.
It has to kind of be something that you take a little bit time
to understand the niche of that.
That thought process and think about it.
So having empathy for other people's feelings in certain moments and certain
situations within relationships is difficult and can cause excessive tension.
Because if someone's upset about something that you've done, then
you would never be able to insight on why they're set up on it.
If you can't place yourself in their life, on their shoes or their
situation for a certain amount of time.
Right.
You get what I'm on about.
So, yeah.
This is why I find that having empathy issues within a relationship
can cause a lot of stress, but there are ways around it.
I guess you could just tell a person to explain to you how they feel, and then
they would be able to tell you what they feel rather than you have to guess
from being in their shoes, because you know, it is difficult for people to do.
And so for obvious reasons, relationships can be hard for anybody.
If they're having difficulties with empathy in that kind of.
Respect now in number three is an interesting one.
This is short-term memory.
Now look, it's known you finding that people in the autism spectrum
health, like memory issues, right.
And short-term memory issues.
They have really good long-term memory, but short term memory issues
are really common with an autism spectrum now, um, This can cause
huge issues within the relationship when trying to remember small things.
Yeah.
Make relationships, a working partnership.
Like maybe you forget that your partner likes the, the remote
controls for the TV in a certain area.
And then you'll forget about that.
Or they say, can you just remember to switch the light off or going out?
But because of the shelter and everything you forget, and these small things
could upset them because they said like, Hey, could you do this for me?
And then you didn't, but not on purpose.
You're not trying to upset them, but you just that you did it because
you have short-term memory issues.
Like I've come across this many a time and it is annoying.
And I wish I didn't have short-term memory issues.
I wish you could just be like, Oh, okay, cool.
This is awesome.
But it doesn't always work like that.
And because of that, Because of those issues.
I feel like there's a lot of tension that gets put into people's really,
you know, when you, when you're on the autism spectrum, when you have just
these three factors, and this is just a small snapshot, these are just three
facts of why relationship is difficult for people on the autism spectrum.
When you act in relationships in general, your own stuff going on in
life, you work, you've got maybe school, it just becomes this whole thing.
Like it can be difficult, but.
Don't give up on it.
Did it doesn't mean that relationships are going to fail just because
there's issues in relationship?
Not at all I'm doing is highlighting wet areas that could be improved upon.
I'm not highlighting areas to say that this is doomed.
Not at all that relationships can be strong and all those people are.
Married children and, you know, you know, all time and the different
relationships that autistic people are in and they have great relationships
and they've mined for years and years.
And it's absolutely fine.
There's no issues there.
There's nothing.
There's nothing that goes against.
It doesn't mean that you can't do it.
It just means that this, the fact of the matter.
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