Welcome back to the channel where you learn all about dating and relationships. My name
is Coach Mossab and in this video we're going to cover how to be an alpha male
with your wife. So, if you're really looking to switch off your relationship and make
it as best as possible, I'm going to show you exactly how in this video. All right, let's do it.
So, we're going to cover a lot of ground in this video. The first thing I'm going to talk about
is the key thing that you need, the main ingredient that you need in a relationship to make sure that
it thrives, right? Especially when it comes to marriage and with your wife and if you're not- if
you're missing this thing, it's going to be very, very difficult to have a great relationship. So,
it's something that all of them adults do and by the end you're going to know exactly what that is.
Now, number two I'll be talking about key ways that an alpha male leads his life and leads
in relationship to his wife to have the best relationship possible and then I'll finish off
with the different ways that an alpha male will mentally, emotionally stimulate his wife in order
to have a thriving relationship for the long term. All right let's hop in. So, let's talk about that
first big thing that I mentioned, the key thing that you need in a relationship especially one
with your wife where if you don't have it, really all else falls apart and that key thing is that
you need respect and respect is the prerequisite for attraction. Now, I covered this in other parts
of my channel but I really want to stress this because when you're married, the relationship is so
much more than if you're just girlfriend, boyfriend, obviously and especially if you're just dating
and you just met. So, over time, you need to really keep in mind that respect needs to be maintained
in the relationship and I'm not saying you must respect me or any of that stuff because that will
completely by backfire. It needs to be where your respect is earned from your wife. She really
needs to be able to look up to you and see you as somebody who's respectable and see you as somebody
she can look up to, almost like a mentor kind of dynamic. So you should be leading your life, you
should be learning new things, you should be trying new things, you should be going after your passions
and your goals and you should look at that and think of you as somebody who's respectable because
it's the same way as if you look at somebody else who is doing those very same things
and that's a respectable person to you, right? Somebody that treats others well, who's treating
themselves well, who has high self-respect, all that is somebody who you think of as respectable.
So, women want to feel that way about you and they need to feel that way if they're going to
be attracted to you. Let's talk about the opposite, right? If you're a lazy slob, if you don't take care
of yourself, if you have no dreams, you have no ambitions and you kind of just sit there all day,
there's not really much to respect and therefore there's not much to be attracted to. The two very
much go hand in hand but instead of asking how do I make her more attracted to me? You can simply
ask how do I make her respect me more? What can I do to earn more respect in the relationship
and that's how you should carry yourself in that relationship. Without respect underlying things,
there is no attraction and there is no relationship after that. The other thing
with respect is that her status has to be below yours or rather that yours has to be above hers.
So again if you're chasing after your dreams, if you're earning more money over time, if you're not
stagnant, if you're doing well and you're doing the things that made you attractive in the first place,
that respect will be there and only increase but if you're again, getting lazy in the
relationship, you're getting complacent, you stop going out, you stop having friends, you stop working
out, you stop being passionate about your ambitions and your goals then all that stuff is going to
lose the attraction for you, it's going to lower your status and then she might you know have eyes
for somebody else when if you just kept on doing the things that made you attractive, that wouldn't
happen. So maintaining that level of respect, maintaining that value in her eyes is very,
very important throughout the rest of your life if you're trying to be together forever,
you need to keep that in the back of your mind. So, that's something that an alpha male will do
with his wife and by do, I mean you know maintaining his purpose in life, maintaining
his goals and ambitions and keeping on the road to those things. Always having new goals and always
getting better in life and making sure that she respects him, looks up to him, right? He might be
showing her things, teaching her things, bringing her along the journey with him
and that'll maintain that attraction and respect over time as well. Now, the other thing in terms
of respect is that other people should respect you as well. So, she should respect you and also
when she sees the people around you, she should think or she should see that they respect you as
well. So, this is why being a leader of men is very, very important. If you think back to a tribal time,
the leader of the tribe is the most, the highest value person in the tribe, right? The chief, if you
think about what would a chief do or what would achieve, how would he behave, how would people look
up to him, that's generally how you want to be with the other guys in your life and if it's not like
that, it's very, very difficult to maintain that attraction throughout time. She wants to feel like
she's with the chief of the tribe, not some lowly you know low ranked guy in the tribe, right? So
it's very important to have that actually be the case, that appearance in that actual
that actuality. So a good example is if you say hey, you say to your friends, hey, let's go over
to this place and they go nah, we're not doing that or screw you, man, that's very much a negative thing
where they don't feel like they or everybody in the group doesn't feel like they respect you
then it's very much a bad sign. But if you say hey guys let's go over there and they go yeah,
okay yeah we're with you. Let's go, that's a good thing, that means that you're able to lead
and they respect you and so your wife will as well. So a quick example I can get from my life is that
I've worked very hard at bettering my social skills, bettering my persuasion and influence
so that when I go to new places, I make friends very, very quickly especially with the guys.
It's very easy for me to bond with guys over many different topics so that when I interact with them
and my girl sees that I'm able to make guy friends really quickly, it's very much a status boost in
her eyes of me, right? It signals that we can go anywhere, I'll make good social alignments, guys
will be able to help us out it builds that tribe very quickly and that's something that will boost
the attraction. So, one time we were at a bar and I was talking to a bunch of different guys, we were
just chopping it up and afterwards she mentioned, she brought it up to me and she said hey,
it's crazy that all these guys like you. Like what are you doing to to make that happen and it's very
much you could see that she respected that, she was attracted to that and that's something that
you should be mindful of as well. With respect to all the guys in your life, your friends,
you should be a leader in their eyes, you should be respected in their eyes and so
your wife will be- she will respect you as well and again that's the precursor, the prerequisite to
attraction in the relationship. Now let's talk about the ways an alpha male leads his life in
relationship to himself and to his wife. Before I do that though, I would like to ask you to hit the
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the first way that a guy leaves his life, that an alpha male leads his life which is that he is
a leader like I mentioned before but in all things, right? He takes charge of things like the chief
of a tribe would do. So if you ask yourself what would the chief do, he would be a leader
in everything. He's not afraid of taking on responsibility, taking on the burdens of others,
helping out his family, helping out his wife and really leading the charge, right? So if you ask
yourself am I in charge of the stuff around the house, do I wear the pants, that's a very
crucial question to ask yourself. If you're trying to be alpha in relationship to your wife
or to in your relationship, does she yield to your judgment, does she respect your judgment, does she
look up to it, does she see what you're trying to do and go with that because the thing is dominance
doesn't mean domineering, right? It doesn't mean we're going to do whatever I say and that's it.
It really means that you're leading, right? Dominance just means leading and submission
just means yielding to you or to whoever to lead, right? So she's being submissive and she's yielding
the sort of authority to you, that's one a responsibility so it can't be abused and two, it
means that she's respecting your decision-making and you should be able to lead the relationship
or your lives in a good direction. You should be in charge of especially the most important stuff in
my opinion at least the finances for example, all that so that she isn't overburdened with that
and she's able to do whatever she needs to do in the relationship, right, so that stuff like that. Are
you leading in the relationship, are you doing new things, are you taking charge, are you leading
your lives in a good direction and if you are, that's a very good recipe for having a thriving
relationship for the long term and one thing to keep in mind is that if you don't wear the
pants in the relationship, somebody has to, right? It's very, very difficult to have an exactly even
relationship even though that's the politically correct thing to say and that's
the thing to want ideally but if you don't wear the pants, then she will and the problem with that
is that again, she will see you as lower value in her eyes and she will start to resent you for
it. She'll wonder why you can't leave, she'll wonder why she has to do everything in the relationship.
She'll actually start treating you as a child and me and my wife were talking about this the
other day and we were wondering how come some women treat their husbands like children, right?
They'll talk to them like children, they will you know lecture them like children and I'm thinking
that it's because if she has to lead, generally the instinct for a woman who's leading is that
she's leading her children like the actual children she has. So, she's treating you like that
if she doesn't respect you enough to let you lead or you're not leading, you're not taking the charge,
she'll do it but she'll also hit you for the dynamic excuse and it very much unwinds and
leads to an eventual breakup or at least to her seeking out a guy that can lead and that she'll
go in that direction. So in either way, you'll want to take the the helm, you want to lead
in different ways in your relationship and it lets her be more feminine, it lets you her be more soft
which is what you want, right? You want to have the dynamic because if you don't it'll only lead to
bad outcomes. So think about that, that's generally the way an alpha male will carry the relationship.
Generally he'll be the one leading and the woman will be following or helping him lead. A dynamic,
I talk about a lot is the captain first mate dynamic which is if you're on a boat, right,
there's only one captain of the boat. If there's multiple captains, there's different conflicting
things and the boat's not going to do well but if there's one captain and everybody listens
to him the first mate is the right-hand man or the right-hand person of the captain and so that
dynamic goes very well in leading that boat to safety, to leading it to the destination. So you
want to think of your life and your relationship the same way. You want to be the captain
where you're sort of calling shots but also paying attention to what the first mate says,
pay attention to the feedback paying attention to whether she thinks you should change course
and taking that in and making adjustments as necessary. Now the other way in alpha male is in
relationship to his wife is that he thinks about life as a constant adventure, right? It's basically
an adventure game, it's basically a video game where you're doing new things, you're trying to
level up, you're trying to make more money, you're trying to acquire more resources more
friends more adventures so think about it that way and are you the question to ask yourself is
are you doing new things, are you spicing things up in the relationship, right? If you don't
and things are the same day in and day out for years, it can only get more boring over time in
it and women will resent that as well. So how often are you traveling if you have the means of travel
and if you can't travel abroad, what are you doing just on the weekends? Do you have time to just
explore nearby cities, are you doing anything to change things up from the mundane, the routine, the
day to day, right? Are you doing different stuff in your relationship, are you going to new dates, new
date ideas. Over time it gets to be more and more effort, you have to put more you know thinking
and effort behind it but it's going to pay off in keeping that relationship alive and thriving.
And the other thing I talk about in all over my channel is that you want to be unpredictable
but also dependable. So, how predictable are you, you should ask yourself and an alpha male asks
himself this and by an instinct and by nature, he's not really predictable. He's always doing new
things, he's always changing things up for the better but you want to build that in and make that
become a habit such that you're not boring, things aren't just expected of you but you
are still dependable and she knows that she can you know depend on you for whatever she needs.
But at the same time again think of it as an adventure and you should be doing new things and
keeping the mystery alive in that way. Now let's talk about some ways that alpha male will mentally
and emotionally stimulate his wife and stimulate the relationship so that it keeps going for the
long term. The first way and the thing that women are attracted to deep down at the most basal level
is your competence, right? So how competent are you, are you constantly learning new things, are you
adapting to the world that's changing especially nowadays the world is changing more and more,
quicker and quicker. So how confident are you at picking up new skills, at learning new things and
improving yourself and improving your condition, yours, hers and the relationships. All these are
questions to ask yourself because women want a guy that is able to adapt to new environments, in new
situations right because everything is so rapidly changing that you can't really pick a guy who's
suited to one specific thing. You want a guy who's competent and able to do new things all the time.
So are you improving that skill? Are you reading new things, reading new books, are you constantly
picking up new skills, different experiences so that you can be well-rounded and versatile
in any environment that you put in. And the more that she sees your competent like that, the more
she sees you maybe using your hand to build new stuff, maybe she sees you picking up new skills
and improving in life, that's very much to turn on to women and that'll improve your relationship for
the long term. There's something that alpha males do by instinct almost but it's something you can
incorporate into your relationship, into your life. So if you're not already learning new things, if
you don't have a curiosity to learn and to improve and to pick up new things, that's something you can
work on over time. Make it- you force yourself to at first and then over time it'll become a habit. Now
the second way is that you must be emotionally stoic, right? Alpha males are emotionally stoic
which means that things don't bother you as much as they might bother somebody else. So if something
if life throws you a curveball, if your wife throws you a curveball, so oftentimes women will test you
to see what you're made out of, right? So if those bother you and if you flip out, it's not about not
experiencing emotion but it's not letting emotion cloud your judgment. It's about not letting emotion
you know make you flip out or succumbing to the emotion. So by being like the rock that she can
lean on, it will allow her to be more expressive, be more emotional which women can and should do
but if you're doing that as well, then it very much imbalances the relationship. So if she's
able to be emotional and able to be expressive in her femininity and you're able to be stoic
and be the rock that she can depend on, that's very much a good balance for the relationship. So by
being stoic, by being rolling with the punches of life, of the relationship, you're able to show
yourself as somebody who's dependable, as somebody who if something bad happens doesn't just flip out
and let it ruin him or his relationship or whatever it might be and it shows you as somebody
who's strong and the other thing to know about those tests are that women are a microcosm of
life I call them a microcosm of life because when women test you they're seeing what you're going
to do when in response to those tests if she teases you a little bit she'll see how you're
going to handle the teasing subconsciously, right? She doesn't know that's what she's doing but for
example if she teases you slightly and you flip out and you get all upset and butt hurt then she's
going to see that if life does something similar where you know life throws you maybe you know your
job lays you off, how are you going to respond in that situation, right? She needs to know that if
something unfortunate happens, your job leaves you off, are you going to be still you know holding the
reins, are you still going to be in control but if she teases you and you flip out or you know
you lose it, that's very much a microcosm of if something happens down the road in life, you're
gonna equally flip out and that's not gonna be good for her the relationship
potentially kids that she wants to have with you. So, it's very much a natural thing for women to
test you to see what kind of guy you are. Now if you enjoyed this content and if an alpha male is
who you want to be, then be sure to check out this related video on exactly that topic that I have.
It's on how to go from a beta male to an alpha male. Check that out, I'll see you in that video.