independence from porn i'm dr trish lee let's talk about it in this video we are going to discuss
three things number one what is independence and why is it so important number two how does
independence show up in your brain performance pattern and number three how to achieve it okay so
number one what is the definition of independence we're celebrating the 4th of july or independence
day in the united states right now and i wanted to bring you a message of the freedom that our
forefathers fought so hard for independence means not being controlled by anything else in matters
of conduct think about that for a minute it is freedom of thinking or acting it is not being
dependent on anything else for your behaviors and your actions of your body and your mind okay
so we in the united states fought so hard so long ago to become independent from another country
that was controlling us was dictating what we could do what we would say how we would act
independence okay so how does independence show up in your brain performance pattern
when you are dependent on something to regulate your mood like pornography
it is helping your brain performance pattern that is functioning at less than optimal so dependence
equals that brain performance pattern that's out here in the extremes too fast and too slow a brain
that is running too fast and needs to be calmed down it's running too slow and it needs to be
stimulated or it needs both of them simultaneously that is the opposite of an independent brain which
creates independent thought in action that is a dependent brain speeds out in the extremes
now an independent brain is one that's functioning in the zone in the optimal zone in the middle of
calm focus so if your brain is in the middle and it's making the speed for calmness and
for focus you don't need anything to calm you or to stimulate you you're already calm and you're
already jazzed up about your life okay so how do you achieve independence from a pornography
especially a compulsive pornography habit you have to get your brain into that optimal zone
so just like our forefathers who had to go to work to be able to achieve the independence from
england that was controlling us and that dictated our thoughts and actions our forefathers had
to go to war they had to fight they had to leave their homes and leave their families
leave their honeys if you know what i mean they had to eat their horses at one point in history
they had no money they had rations they had to do the work to strive for and to achieve independence
now you may have to do the work to strive for and achieve your independence from your pornography
habit but thankfully you will not have to eat your pets what you will have to do is do the
work that's appropriate and in the program that i've created and you don't have to do it with me
if you don't want to but i'm going to tell you the parameters in the program that i've created
are the pieces that you need to go to work on so that you can move forward and engage in the
process so that you can evolve and become the better independent version of yourself
and i call it a three by three approach it's the porn brain reboot approach three by three
now here's the threes unwire rewire and hardwire your brain for the optimal brain performance
pattern so you have to unwire the brain pattern that you have your brain in for so long so your
brain's likely been in the porn brain mode of running too fast running too slow running both of
them needing to be calmed and stimulated you have to unwire that pattern by not watching pornography
not allowing yourself to get sucked in in instagram or social media or pictures or videos
staying away from triggering stimuli so that your brain pattern can unwire and begin to heal itself
also there's work to be done in the past we know that a pornography habit most times is established
as a way of self-soothing and regulating your mood because of childhood trauma or experiences
dysfunction and we all have dysfunction in our past unfortunately for all of us
but it's just a matter of what magnitude how small or big
those experiences are and what flavor they are but they get stuck in your nervous system
i see it in people's brains all the time so you have to resolve childhood experiences that have
caused you pain or discomfort sometimes that's difficult for people to even see what they are
and it's even more difficult to resolve there's techniques that you can use so that's one piece
of the work that needs to be done to move towards independence unwire that brain pattern next you
need to rewire your brain towards the optimal healthy brain pattern the easiest way to do that
is through brain training neuroscience using technology i've created a very affordable easy
short course brain training 101 it's on br it's on the porn brain reboot website you can check it out
you can learn how to train your brain back to the optimal pattern faster and easier than if you were
to try other methods but of course in the foreign brain reboot approach you also want to reboot your
routines your habits your thought processes your physical environments your mental environment
your emotions the more things that you change in your life you rewire your brain through
your body and your mind so when you rewire your brain in those two ways
it's a top-down approach using brain training and a bottom-up approach using your mind and body to
change the way that you're living your life right now the third part of that piece of the three by
three approach is that you have to hardwire your brain in so that you can have long-term results
so many people who try to leave porn behind are able to do so for a little while but they
don't get the positive feedback loop for long-term change established you have to establish that
positive feedback loop by pattern interrupting and establishing new patterns so that it becomes
its own self-rewarding cycle in the end it can be done you can do it so that's the three by three
approach it is unwiring rewiring hardwiring in the past have to dip back into the past a little
historical dig you don't have to stay there too long if you don't need to dip into the past change
your routines and your habits in the present and set yourself up for a lifestyle that doesn't mean
porn into the future so that you can hardwire in that pattern for the long haul you can do that
without me and if you need me i'm here for you okay i hope you enjoy this independence holiday in
the united states for any of you not in the united states freedom and independence is a beautiful
thing and if you don't have it from pornography i hope you can set towards striving and achieving it
in this upcoming year so that next independence day when we sit here together i'm congratulating
you on your 365 day streak because i know you can do it if you want it i know you can you can if you
want it those are the pieces so go for it okay and remember control your brain or it'll control you