hey Dan here and this video is responding to a question I received
about why people think ENFPs are so weird and I'd rather take that question
and look at why is everyone else so weird you know I think that there are
things of course that make a standout and so things like we tend to follow our
hearts more than what everyone else does and what we're expected to do we tend to
generally go against the norms enfps are motivated by people I would say in
experiences over assets and money enfps tend to speak their minds a little bit
and go with what we feel is right and I would say that if you're looking at what
is weird to me it's pretty weird to go to an office for 40 or 50 hours a week
every day for 40 years of your life that's pretty weird to me if we want to
look back historically at how societies function or even going further back to
like a tribal function of society they would be looking at our civilization now
and they would not be looking at the ENFP who is freelancing and traveling
the world or look at the writer or philosopher or the person who's
committed to their art as weird they would look at the accountant who sort of
is just like well I'm doing my work everyday as the weird one the person who
was never outside enjoying you know nature as the weird one not the person
who's chosen to you know pursue their artistic passion or to be involved with
people all the time or live in like a tribal environment or whatever that is
and so I would say that why the people think enfps are weird is that we now
generally live in a society built by TJ types right probably by s types as well
and this isn't a bad thing this is why we have transit systems that work really
well this is why we can get fresh food delivered on a daily basis
of enfps were the only people in the world it would be a little message to
say the least and so it is I think in many ways a good thing that we've have a
society created by these these other types but it does mean that we are the
weird ones right with what we do here's the good news though about all these
weird traits enfps have more and more the science whether it's looking at
psychology studies or different parts of biology or things like this is that the
way enfps are motivated and tend to live and
that's being motivated by other people being driven by experiences more than
material things even though these might be viewed as weird a little bit they're
also what is being proven to make people happier to increase longevity in terms
of just how long you live one of the biggest contributors to living a long
time is community looking at the groups in the world that live the longest they
tend to be societies where you have a lot of community that even when you're
80 or 90 you meet up with your friends every day and have dinners together or
tea or beer together and that is what actually has been shown to be healthiest
for us so the things that make us weird like not wanting to go to this office
environment every day just saving up money for some unknown future or
actually the things that can contribute to being the happiest and to living the
longest in all these positive things and so definitely in the comments at the
bottom if you want to share the things you think are weird about you or weird
about us feel free to do so but rather than dwell on the things that make us
different I would rather look at them as positives because not only am i biased
obviously but I think the science is showing that more and more that the way
people are living today especially in North America it's not contributing well
to happiness to mental health to physical health if you look at the
average American today haired to you know any other point in
history really or most other societies around the world as well it's not
looking so good and that is a move towards the kind of society that makes
an ENFP weird but the way enfps tend to live or want to live at least when we're
allowed to live the way we naturally want to sounds like we're pets in a zoo
right let us live how we want to live but when we are allowed to I guess
follower natural urges and live how we would like to generally that is not how
most people live so we're weird but it's also a way of living that is I think a
happier better way to do it so that's my biased thoughts on it if you have
thoughts on it share them below in the comments and I'll catch you in the next
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