He constantly belittles you?
Yes.
And criticizes you?
Yes.
And puts you down?
Yes.
It seems to me like you're a pretty good target.
Yes.
The Christmas tree has been up for five years?
He won't take it down.
Dr. Phil, if you look at the Christmas tree,
it still has all the ornaments on it.
Mm-hm.
She has to put the ornaments away a certain way.
So if they don't get taken off the tree,
none of us can touch 'em.
She has to do that.
And you guys have a division of labor
in the relationship, in the marriage, right?
Everybody does.
Everybody kind of works out division of labor.
You're going to do this, you're going to do that.
Who's in charge of keeping the dwelling habitable?
I have to do everything
because Ernie doesn't help with anything.
(audience laughing)
And I am so overwhelmed.
So nobody's doing it?
Right, 'cause the little bit that gets done, I do.
Show me the little bit that--
(audience laughing)
Well--
'Cause nobody's doing anything.
Nobody's cleaning this house, right?
Well I sent your staff pictures,
and there are times where I do.
Right now it's not a lot getting done.
'Cause I'm living like a single mom.
I have to do everything myself.
And by the time I get home from work with,
I have hyperthyroidism,
I suffer from fatigue issues, I'm exhausted.
My mother had hyperthyroidism.
She raised three children, and took care of her husband,
and took care of the house.
It was never in that shape.
Well we asked you why you weren't cleaning the house.
Right.
And you said like, he's supposed to take care
of the outside, which looks like a tornado came through.
Right.
And that you were going to take care of the inside.
He's sure not taking care of the outside.
Right.
And you gave us a list of reasons
that you're not taking care of the inside.
You said, "Well, I'm a Type B person,
"just kind of disorganized."
Yes.
You said, "Einstein, he was a genius
"and didn't clean up around his house."
(audience laughing)
Right?
I did, what I said is that Einstein
was not organized.
Isn't that what I just said?
Yes.
You said you have ADD, and stress, and chronic fatigue,
and that you're emotionally and physically drained
and you just need time to focus,
and that you can't work and clean 12 years of stuff,
and that you're just not good at cleaning.
I really struggle with organization.
I really do.
I have a difficult time with it.
I have 12 years worth of stuff.
I have the children's clothes
from when they were babies 'til now.
I have their toys from when they were babies.
Now let me be real clear.
Okay.
Are you trying to justify this?
No, I'm just trying to explain why it looks like that.
I mean, it looks like that I don't ever clean.
Yes.
But that's not the truth.
Well I hear what you say, but I see what I see.
Now you two, this is your daughter's room.
Yes.
And behind that door's a bathroom.
Yes, sir.
And she can't go through that door
because all the trash, so they leave the hall light on
so she can go at night--
Yeah, I got eyes.
You can't get in the bathroom, right?
You can't get through the door.
Yes, sir.
Okay, and this is the oldest girl's--
No, that there is the dining room,
well it's called the play room.
How can you tell?
(audience laughing) Yeah, yeah.
It just kind of all runs together, right?
Yes, sir.
Now it didn't always look like this, right?
Right, it did not always look like this.
Because you guys built this house.
Yes. Mm-hm.
I mean, let's just look at the kitchen here.
This was a beautiful, I mean look at this.
Yes.
You built a beautiful home.
This is a beautiful kitchen here.
Beautiful counters, lots of space, and light, and cabinets,
and double sinks, and everything, three I guess, I can see.
And then look at it now.
You see this and then you look at the way
this place looks now, it's just, come on, seriously?
And I think this is a--
This is the kitchen now.
And this is a direct representation
of the stress and emotional abuse that I've been under.
I mean, I feel like I can't even function.